making the call

[jsimms615]

Dear Friends,
At the hospital where I work, when I am on call as a chaplain I have to call the family if someone comes in as a trauma. I had a case early Monday morning where a young man who was 27 came in from a accident. I called his mother and told her he was up there. She had no idea what had happened. She came up to the hospital. I later found out that he died in the operating room. I am feeling a lot of grief for the parents of this young man. I did not know him at all, but I just grief for a life lost so young.
I cannot give you names since that would be a violation of privacy. I would ask you to pray for this young man's family. God knows who you are talking about.
Don't ever ever ever ever let your loved ones drive without their seat belt on. Not ever. I will come and hunt you down if you do! LOL.

 

[c1ners]

I lost my husband in a car accident when he was 27. He was also not wearing a seat belt. My Danny had just had major surgery on his shoulder. That's why he couldn't wear his seat belt. Back than, we didn't have airbags.

I will never forget that day. It haunts me every day of my life.

I was the one driving since he was ill. He was being really wierd. Talking foolish talk of leaving me. His exact words were: "Ciners, I love you, but I have to go away. Just remember one thing. Even though I can't be with you any longer, I will always love you. I will never really leave you. You and the baby are my life, and I don't regret a single second."

I turned my head to tell him to stop talking that way. Something in his made me stop. All I could say is: "I love you Danny. (I touched his face) I love you so very much.

My head was only turned for a second. When I turned back toward traffic I saw the car that was heading towards me. I screamed for Danny to put his seatbelt on, but the sentence was never finished. A car had run the median, and hit us head on. I was awake when my Danny took his last breath and died.

It's been 20 years, and I still feel the pain of that day. Our baby is no longer a baby, but instead a beautiful young woman. She got married in May. Her grandfather walked her down the aisle. But before he did, he dug in his closet and found an old pair of Danny's shoes. He walked my daughter down the aisle wearing her daddy's shoes.

She is just like her daddy. Kind, caring, and beautiful in heart. I may not have him anymore, but through her he lives on.

 

[jsimms615]

I lost my husband in a car accident when he was 27. He was also not wearing a seat belt. My Danny had just had major surgery on his shoulder. That's why he couldn't wear his seat belt. Back than, we didn't have airbags.

I will never forget that day. It haunts me every day of my life.

I was the one driving since he was ill. He was being really wierd. Talking foolish talk of leaving me. His exact words were: "Ciners, I love you, but I have to go away. Just remember one thing. Even though I can't be with you any longer, I will always love you. I will never really leave you. You and the baby are my life, and I don't regret a single second."

I turned my head to tell him to stop talking that way. Something in his made me stop. All I could say is: "I love you Danny. (I touched his face) I love you so very much.

My head was only turned for a second. When I turned back toward traffic I saw the car that was heading towards me. I screamed for Danny to put his seatbelt on, but the sentence was never finished. A car had run the median, and hit us head on. I was awake when my Danny took his last breath and died.

It's been 20 years, and I still feel the pain of that day. Our baby is no longer a baby, but instead a beautiful young woman. She got married in May. Her grandfather walked her down the aisle. But before he did, he dug in his closet and found an old pair of Danny's shoes. He walked my daughter down the aisle wearing her daddy's shoes.

She is just like her daddy. Kind, caring, and beautiful in heart. I may not have him anymore, but through her he lives on.

Thanks for sharing that. I just sent the family I was referring to in the earlier post a card. I have been thinking about them since then. It sounds like your Danny was a pretty cool guy.
J

 

[c1ners]

Thanks for sharing that. I just sent the family I was referring to in the earlier post a card. I have been thinking about them since then. It sounds like your Danny was a pretty cool guy.
J

Thank you. Yes, he was the best.

When I was 7 months pregnant with my daughter my brother was killed in a motorcycle accident. No one called my parents until after he was pronounced dead.The nurses told my mom that my brother kept calling out to her. It killed her to know that she was the one he was thinking of on his death bed, and she wasn't even able to be there. She's never gotten over that.

I'll be praying for the family you are grieving about.

 

[womanofvalor]

Dear Friends,
At the hospital where I work, when I am on call as a chaplain I have to call the family if someone comes in as a trauma. I had a case early Monday morning where a young man who was 27 came in from a accident. I called his mother and told her he was up there. She had no idea what had happened. She came up to the hospital. I later found out that he died in the operating room. I am feeling a lot of grief for the parents of this young man. I did not know him at all, but I just grief for a life lost so young.
I cannot give you names since that would be a violation of privacy. I would ask you to pray for this young man's family. God knows who you are talking about.
Don't ever ever ever ever let your loved ones drive without their seat belt on. Not ever. I will come and hunt you down if you do! LOL.

It has been said "A man whose wife has died is a widower; a woman whose husband has died is a widow; a child whose parents have died is an orphan; but there is not word for a parent whose child has died because the grief is so great.
No parent ever expects their child to go before them.
Thank you for caring so about these grieving parents. I know because I am one, too, having lost my only daughter in March.
It's something you can never really get over or adjust to. You just go on breathing and living each day for those who are left.
Being a Christian and knowing the Grace of God will get you through each day is the only thing that will sustain a parent or anyone who is grieving.
what a blessing you are to care so much!