Making Peace with XBFF

[Paloma2011]

Reflecting on Matthew 5:22-24...

"But I tell you that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister will be subject to judgment... Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift."​

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And here's a little background from an older post (tiny.cc/bdbndx)...

Well, 3 years later, my former best friend still isn't speaking to me. I kept trying to reach out to her but I guess I gave up around October 2012 (I think that was the last time). Being uninvited to her wedding seemed to finalize the ex-friendship.

I've asked for forgiveness from her and God (at least God offers grace), I've forgiven her (I no longer feel resentment, but I still feel sorrow), and I know our friendship may never be reconciled, but shouldn't there at least be peace between us? It sure doesn't feel like it when you aren't on speaking terms...

I pray that she feels peace, but considering the circumstances, it does not seem like there is peace yet, and I wonder if I should still reach out to her occasionally. It seems like a waste at this point... but maybe that's the enemy speaking. Advice and prayers appreciated! TIA

 

[GuusVA]

I do know that it is hard to see friendships fade. Mine did, even though I worked hard on it. So what I'm about to say may sound harsh. After I kinda found out that it was only me working on this friendship I broke it. I basically deleted them from my facebook email and msn. Next I went out there joined local christian activities (which are rare here) and made me some new friends. This turned out so good, I made so many new friends which are real friends. We work on our relationships from both sides. Maybe you won't understand this but I hope you do.

I'm praying for you,

I hope this will be clear, since I've no idea to say this.

God bless,

 

[Paloma2011]

GuusVa, thanks for your reply and empathy. I've accepted that the friendship is over (unless God has some wild plan for us, which I'm not holding my breath on, but you really never know) and I've been blessed to become surrounded by a community of new friends at the church I've been attending since I moved here.

I'm just wondering if there is or will ever be peace between us. It just doesn't feel right for Christians to not be on speaking terms. I understand that God may want us to avoid certain people we know create conflict, but does that mean never talk to them ever again?