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Making Peace with Myself.

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Hi, everybody.


I hope everyone is okay. I am in my school computer room. Just got off the T and i've got class in a little less than two hours. I am just thinking about certain things. I think it is best to be honest with yourself for who and what you are as opposed to trying to be something else. I just read an inspirational novel.

*My best Man* by Andy Schell.

Harry Ford is a gay guy who will be cut out of his multi-million-dollar inheritance unless he marries a woman. He befriends the beautiful, feisty gold-digger
Amity Stone who falls in love with him and wants to help him get his inheritance by marrying him - and might take him to the cleaners !!! She knows he is gay. Their relationship is complicated by the arrival of Nicolo, a handsome gay man Harry falls in love with.

Amity loves Harry and wants his money. Harry's family wants him to be straight. Harry wants to be loved and wants to be himself and is not sure if he can trust Amity. Nicolo is charming and patient through it all. Surprise ending.


Great novel.

Almost as great as *Not A Day Goes By* written by E.Lynn Harris.

I feel so good. My studies are going ok. My mom is leaving Boston for NY on friday. My sister's health is alright. At school, I am hanging out with a cute guy and an interesting girl.

Plus I have a best friend I just adore....he is so great !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

His name is Karl.


He is straight. He doesnt know I am bisexual. He helps me out a lot and i tell him almost all of my stuff (with the exception of the being bi thing) and we are cool. We hang out as much as time allows. My mom likes Karl and so does my sister. Both are great judges of character. I still see Lauren around school and she is cute and interesting and great as always but my emotions around her are waning. I think I am moving on. I am making new friends at my 7th day Adventist Church. Yes, I keep my business to myself and dont start no trouble. I've been looking good lately and both men and women are giving me the eye.


The only thing that slightly bothers me right now is that I think I may like Karl more than I let on. I am not sure. He is great and I am not attracted to him physically but his friendship and trust are qualities I would treasure in anyone. I feel some strong emotions (of friendship !) for that boy. I talk about him all the time at home. He is my best friend and almost like a brother.


I am grateful for my existence right now, I guess.



I know all is going good right now.


I have recently made a decision. I hear all the time about men and women getting in trouble because of sex. You know what I am talking about. Scandals. Accusations. Diseases. (unwanted)Pregnancies. So much stuff. I am 19 right now, a big and tall and dare i say handsome black dude. I am also bisexual. I decided that the first person that I would be with, be it a man or a woman will have to be someone i would have gotten to know. I hate to say it because its so cliche but I do this both for personal reasons and for security reasons. I plan to take my time to get to know someone before hopping into bed with them because there are unstable people out there. That is my wish. I just hope I will have the courage to pull it off.


PS : If you ever come to Boston in the Back Bay, you just might see me. (lol). Peace.
 

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May be prejudice but I don't understand the bi thing....gay relationships I don't agree with but atleast they make a little more sence to me. God made man for woman and woman for man. If you have desires towards woman I don't understand why you don't leave it at that and fight against desires towards men. Committed relationships are between 2 people not 3. It is fine to have men that have the qualities you look for in a relationship and woman with those qualities but when it comes down to it there should only be one sexual partner so why not have that partner be a woman.

At 19 you are young and sex may seem like everything but sex is just a little part of a relationship....you can have good really good male friends but that doesn't mean you need to have sex with them. Being bi you also like women....women can give you a family one day....a man never can. I would not want to be with a man who slept with a man and I am sure many women would agree with me. Plus, you could lose and probably would lose male friends that you tried making a move on. I hope that you would just fight off any urges and I believe if you ask the Lord to help you would find it to be not such a hard battle to overcome.

Love and God Bless you and may you live in peace!

Messenger:)
 
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Messenger30 said:
May be prejudice but I don't understand the bi thing....gay relationships I don't agree with but atleast they make a little more sence to me. God made man for woman and woman for man. If you have desires towards woman I don't understand why you don't leave it at that and fight against desires towards men. Committed relationships are between 2 people not 3. It is fine to have men that have the qualities you look for in a relationship and woman with those qualities but when it comes down to it there should only be one sexual partner so why not have that partner be a woman.

At 19 you are young and sex may seem like everything but sex is just a little part of a relationship....you can have good really good male friends but that doesn't mean you need to have sex with them. Being bi you also like women....women can give you a family one day....a man never can. I would not want to be with a man who slept with a man and I am sure many women would agree with me. Plus, you could lose and probably would lose male friends that you tried making a move on. I hope that you would just fight off any urges and I believe if you ask the Lord to help you would find it to be not such a hard battle to overcome.

Love and God Bless you and may you live in peace!

Messenger:)

You assume, like so many others, that homosexuality/bisexuality is all about sex. It's not. Yes, sex is part of it, but more importantly, it's about falling in love. When a man falls in love with a man, is he supposed to deny that love and destroy it, simply because some ancient religion says it's an "abomination"?
 
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Mekkala said:
You assume, like so many others, that homosexuality/bisexuality is all about sex. It's not. Yes, sex is part of it, but more importantly, it's about falling in love. When a man falls in love with a man, is he supposed to deny that love and destroy it, simply because some ancient religion says it's an "abomination"?

Bisexuality is about loving men and women so if you love both why not pick the opposite gender which is more suitable for a family and less chance illnesses and such.....you can love men and women the sex is what makes it wrong. Ancient Religion....oh is that all it is???? Sorry but there is a reason 2 men can't produce a child....kinda the same reason a cat and dog can't produce and so on....it wasn't meant to be.

Homosexuality is also wrong but atleast I understand it a little better. If one is truely only attracted to there own sex and they have a lot bigger problem to try and overcome.....in that I believe they are best to just do without sex. Same sex sex is wrong.

I won't go into a heated debate over this. I luckly like the opposite sex so I didn't have to fight against any of these issues. But had I been bisexual I would have just seeked out someone of the opposite sex....and if I where homosexual I would just pray that the demons left me. :mad: :cry:


Love and God Bless,
Messenger
 
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