Making fun of SI

[warrior4_yahuwshua]

I go to a school where the kids make fun of "freaky goths" (which i'm not goth, but I don't have any problem with anyone who is.) And they say that goths cut and listen to "satan's music" (which I listen to heavy music sometimes, but it is christian music) These kids listen to rap and their music cusses and talks about a lot of ungodly things, but then my music is about Jesus. And mine is more evil simply because of distortion? Anyways. I don't think anyone should make fun of SI. It is a very hard thing to deal with.

(Yesterday made four weeks for me I hope I can make it longer =S) So, any suggestions on how to let people know they shouldn't make fun of self injurers without actually letting people know I self injure?

I know it makes it harder for me to hear people say things bad about me, but they don't know they are saying bad things about me.

Anyways... any suggestions

~warrior

 

[Renwolf]

Hey, congrats on your 4 weeks. That rocks! You rock

As for how explain to people about how serious self injury is, maybe you can mention that people self injure because they lack proper coping skills. Plenty of people turn to cigarettes or alcohol or drugs in order to deal with stress. That doesn't make them evil or crazy or bad. It just means that they need help learning better ways of coping.

You might also tell them that plenty of famous and ungothic people have struggled with self injury. The most notable one is probably the late Princess Diana, who was about as ungothic and as "normal" as it gets.

 

[ToxicBex]

You should say that the slightest thing that people say, could trigger people, and cause them to SI...and if they say something like 'that's their problem' then turn round and say, "No, because you're making them SI if it's you that said something"

 

[Renwolf]

I hear what you're saying, ToxicBex, and I agree that for someone struggling with self injury, it often only take a few unkind words to push them over the edge. But I'm hesitant to tell people that if I SI, it's their fault, mostly because it's really not. It's my choice to SI. No matter what someone else says or does, ultimately, it's my choice.

I went to an al-anon meeting once. The first thing I learned was that no one can make an alcoholic drink. No matter how much the person says, "If you'd quit nagging me, I'd quit drinking," it's still their decision to drink. No one can cause an addiction and no one can cure it other than the person with the addiction.

Perhaps saying something like, "People who self injure obviously need lots of help and it's not nice to make fun of people who need help. That just makes them feel worse," would get the point accross without seeming manipulative. That's totally just my opinion, though.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Ignorance is frustrating.
But you stick to your guns and be yourself. Don't let what other people say bother you.
They've no idea what they're saying.

 

[rebel_for_christ07]

I go to a school where the kids make fun of "freaky goths" (which i'm not goth, but I don't have any problem with anyone who is.) And they say that goths cut and listen to "satan's music" (which I listen to heavy music sometimes, but it is christian music) These kids listen to rap and their music cusses and talks about a lot of ungodly things, but then my music is about Jesus. And mine is more evil simply because of distortion? Anyways. I don't think anyone should make fun of SI. It is a very hard thing to deal with.

(Yesterday made four weeks for me I hope I can make it longer =S) So, any suggestions on how to let people know they shouldn't make fun of self injurers without actually letting people know I self injure?

I know it makes it harder for me to hear people say things bad about me, but they don't know they are saying bad things about me.

Anyways... any suggestions

~warrior

first off, let me say way to go! as for ur music, there is no christian "music" just lyrics. and there is nothing wrong with the music u listen to. i listen to some heavy stuff too. like showbread, KJ-52, and stuff like that. and as far as ppl making fun of cutting? all i can say is maybe u can help ppl who u know do it. like go and talk to them and tell them what u went thru. it might be able to help them. like give them accountability with someone. thats one of the things that helped me. one of my friends did it too. we promised to help each other. and who knows? u might be able to share Jesus with one of the ppl.

-In Christ-

Lexi

p.s. by the way, if u want to talk to me my messanger is daughter_of_god61689 at yahoo.

p.s.s. i have went 4-5 months!

 

[HomeChicklet]

When I hear people talk about people that do it it makes it difficult for me who has made it eight months to keep going. ( COngrats on four weeks keep going you can do it) WHen I hear it I tell them this..."You know one of the biggest reasons people SI is becuse they feel alone or they feel they need control.... this world is hard enough to deal with in general without people like you putting others down.... when you listen to your rap music or you smkoe that cigerette or you go ff and party and have sex you do the same thing to yourself.... you harm yourself you just don't draw blodd.... ot like they do.... you don't know who hears you when you say things like that and what you say may just be enough for them to quit fighting not to do it anymore and just give in... or it may be enough for them to go even further and just give up on life in general.... do you want to be responsible for that???" usually they shut up and think for a while after that... The people I have ever said that too I have not heard come back and say anything to me or even talk about self injury again except they stand up for us who struggle with it too.... if they think you do it tell them that it doesn't matter who does what its just a fact that they make life more difficult then it already is......

I hope that was helpful.....

mandy

 

[leigh01]

say selfharmers deal wiv alot and thats why they self harm they need to be encouraging not dissed
love leigh
x

 

[warrior4_yahuwshua]

Thanks guys!! That was very helpful =)

 

[Hope*In*Christ]

The next time you hear of sombody making fun of a person who cuts tell them that cutting is the only way some people know how to survive and that it is bad but some people feel that nobody cares or loves them!!!!!!!

I have a friend who knows a CHEERLEADER that cuts!!!!!!!

P.S. Congrats on 4 weeks!!!!!!!!!

 

[PetraFan007]

Play them some Crimson Moonlight and watch their reactions.

 

[Alice the Sister]

So, any suggestions on how to let people know they shouldn't make fun of self injurers without actually letting people know I self injure?

tell them you had a friend who committed suicide and that you take it personally when they say such things. Either that, or ignore them. If you let things get to you and bother you, you'll end up in bad shape. Hung up on all that negative energy, more prone to SI and more prone to letting those "goths" -as you say- affect you. You shouldn't let them bring you down.


I hope I was able to help you, in some way.