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Making Friends

smiley1979

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I want to have some good christian friends and I attend the church young adult events but so far I've only made one friend but not any close friends. The people don't invite me to everything they do so I was wondering do they like me or not? Once I emailed someone and asked if I could join them and I didn't get a response. I just assumed they didn't want me to come and I didn't want to be pushy. How long does it take to make good friends? I'm very shy and I find it very difficult to make new friends even though I would really like to make new friends. How can I make new friends?
 

JasperJackson

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Hi Smiley,

I was/am in a similar situation. When I first started going to church it was really difficult making friends with people. They all seemed quite nice and friendly, but it took quite a while before anything beyond the superficial eventuated. Now I've been going there 18months, and I have a few pretty good friends but none as close as I'd like need. Pray. It takes time.

Generally speaking, it's easier to get to know people better in smaller groups. Do they have small groups at your church? Definitely worth getting into.
 
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It's hard to make new friends! We've moved twice in the last couple of years and know firsthand....I suggest inviting one or two into your home for dinner. This is so rarely done nowadays, but the people we are closest to are the ones who we've visited with in each other's houses....don't worry about supercleaning or a fancy meal. Keep it simple--order takeout if you don't cook. Also, people have great intentions, but they are really so legitimately busy...don't take offense if they don't reply to your email. I know I've been guilty of not answering emails when I should have! Best wishes!
 
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