Making Christian friends

[SpiritualButterflies]

I am a new Christian. I recently joined a Church. Most of my friends I think aren't Christian, or saved, but believe in God and Jesus. I accept my friends for who and what they are, but they aren't going down the same road as me. I would like to have more Christian friends that I can discuss and trade scriptures with, ask for Christ-like advice and ask for prayer comfortably. My boyfriend is the only person I do this with. I'm not good at making new friends at all.

 

[walker88]

i am in the same boat, that is why i have join this forum. i am a new christian, well i am in the process of change. ill be ur friend

 

[LilLamb219]

I am a new Christian. I recently joined a Church. Most of my friends I think aren't Christian, or saved, but believe in God and Jesus. I accept my friends for who and what they are, but they aren't going down the same road as me. I would like to have more Christian friends that I can discuss and trade scriptures with, ask for Christ-like advice and ask for prayer comfortably. My boyfriend is the only person I do this with. I'm not good at making new friends at all.

You wrote that most of your friends believe in God and Jesus...but then say they aren't Christians. A Christian is one who believes that Jesus died on the cross for the forgiveness of sins and that we are reconciled to God. What do those friends believe about God and Jesus that makes you think they aren't Christians?

 

[SpiritualButterflies]

I say I don't know because I've never really talked to my friends about what they believe in so I'm just assuming that they believe in God and Jesus. 1 I know is a an atheist. Another I know of has been saved.
What I'm really saying is they aren't going to be doing the same stuff that I am. I feel like I cant discuss the Bible and scriptures and go to church with.

 

[Aino]

Many churches have small groups where you study scriptures together on a regular basis, why don't you join one? You'd get some new christian friends, grow in your faith and maybe they could help you with finding out whether your friends are christian or not; I think it's quite obviously easier and more natural to talk about the gospel with non-active christians and non-believers once you're more comfortable with your own faith. On another note, it's quite important to have an older christian whom you trust so you can ask when you have really hard questions to ask.

 

[Grace51]

i think aino pretty much gave you the advice you need. though you mentioned you are a new chrisitian. i am not quite sure whether this is what you are going through. but i know many beginner christians usually go throught his euphoric stage ie great, i am now part of this one big happy family, but once they stayed in church long enough, they realized church life can be just be just as complicated... and even christians who profess a great love for God can be not so nice person as well...

i guess what i am saying is when you make friends with other chrisitian. you need to use the same precaution as you would with non christians. ie you really need to get to know them and have a good understanding of their character first before you trust them.

i know what i talked about above is really basic basic things we all know when it comes to making friends outside church. but you'd be really surprised how many begginer christians actually dont think the same process should apply within the church.

 

[parsley]

Many churches have small groups where you study scriptures together on a regular basis, why don't you join one?

Just one meeting per week would probably satisfy what you're talking about. I don't think you need to change everything, but just find a few people you trust and respect, who will pray with you.

 

[healmyheartLord]

I am a new Christian. I recently joined a Church. Most of my friends I think aren't Christian, or saved, but believe in God and Jesus. I accept my friends for who and what they are, but they aren't going down the same road as me. I would like to have more Christian friends that I can discuss and trade scriptures with, ask for Christ-like advice and ask for prayer comfortably. My boyfriend is the only person I do this with. I'm not good at making new friends at all.

I am in the same situation as you! I can't find any good Christian friends in this small town of mine. It's like this town is full of unbelievers!! AHHH it is making me crazy that I can't have any godly friends! All of them like to do that smae thing over and over! Drink and do drugs! I need help to! Let me know if you have any ideas for me. As for you, do you go to church? If so, every week, seldom??

 

[Tammie34]

Hey Butterfly, I think I can relate to that. It has not been easy and sometimes I really wonder what is going on.

 

[salida]

Ask God to give you the boldness to make friends at church;getting involved helps.

 

[SlightlyMad]

I would like to meet Christian friends too. The friends I do have are nice people but they kind of influence me on the contrary to God's Way.

Hit me up on facebook if you like and we can exchange scripture

facebook.com/MelodyMan83

 

[parsley]

Allow yourself to befriend a broad age range, and eventually you'll make some connections through them... their kids who were out of town for school, relatives who attend different churches... just keep talking with people and you will find some. There might also be quiet ones who haven't surfaced for the same reason.

 

[MissesDenim]

Yeah Im about to go to college and have this same problem. >_< I dont want to be friends with bible bashers or Jesus haters. I really dont need that right now, so I joined this forum to create what Im missing in real life. Hopefully things go smoothly, with no turbulence.

 

[healmyheartLord]

Just keep praying to God that he will help you find new Christian Friend. It's really easy to get sucked into the sinful life when you hang out with unbelievers Ive noticed. So I am really trying hard on this. I went to a small party this last weekend and I had arguments with unbelievers telling me that the Bible is re-written by man and each bible is different and it is far from the original copy. It made me so mad!! Grrr... I need to be prepared with objections when they say these hurtful things. I just want to prove each unbliever wrong!!

 

[AzMom81]

I agree get involved! Your church is full of other people who have the same feelings just like you! I was in your EXACT position! I got involved with a womens only bible study once a week. I love these ladies they have helped shape my christian beliefs and walk better with God. You have to take the leap of faith and know God is with you through this and you are not alone! If your church doesn't have any groups maybe search for others in your area. Good luck with your journey!!

Heather

 

[ClairEuk73]

I'm in the same position and can relate to the others on this thread...I've spent ten years getting where I am, and although I made friends about 5 years ago in my previous (busy) church, I now live in a village, know very few people and my new church has a much smaller congregation. I've not yet been baptised (long story), and I've had one meeting with the vicar (who is absolutely lovely) and went to my first Sunday service there last week.
I suffer from anxiety, particularly social anxiety, so it's been extremely difficult for me to get to where I am now, and I still fear the making friends side of my new church life. But, having said that, I know God is walking with me, and all I need is to push myself that tiny bit further and just go up to people and talk to them. I'm learning that they don't bite, and they won't all hate me.
As it happens I've bumped into one of the church greeters 3 times this week so God has already given me a starting point.
What I'm trying to say in a long-winded way is, yes, it's difficult and sometimes scary, but pray for strength and remember God is with you as you take those first steps.
Bless you all, and good luck!

 

[parsley]

As it happens I've bumped into one of the church greeters 3 times this week so God has already given me a starting point.

Nice coincidence!

 

[ClairEuk73]

Indeed! I've seen him twice this morning as well, and it's still early!