Making Christian Friends

[Crys2God]

Does anyone ever find that it is hard to make friends that are christian or share your same beliefs? I have been to many churches trying to find one to join but each time I am shot down because most of the members already have there own clicks and do not welcome new people. I really want to make friends that are christians but I feel left out. Am I the only one who feels this way?

 

[SqueakyGerbil]

Have you tried an Alpha course or something along the same lines?
Reason I mention the Alpha course is because one of the objectives of the course is to create fellowship between Christians.

Also have you tried different sized churches? I found my church pretty easy going to make friends in but it is such a small group that you get to know everyone really well just by being around them.

 

[chriso]

You brought up a really good point as church members we have to be very careful not to be in the "click" mode and welcome new people into our circle of friends. As a christian you need to socialize with other christains. A lot of non-christians find nothing wrong with going to the places we don't feel right about being there. Don't give up you will find some good christian friends you can share with.

 

[CookiesRejectKidd]

Well...I was lucky that when I joined my church my friends were just comming together to make a "click" becuase they were off in pairs of two...lol infact the b4 I came, my friends Sarah B and CHristina (they were the tom-boys)kinda bullyed my friends Sara H and Reachel (they were the gurlie gurls) and my friend Ashleigh were w/ "them". But in our 5th grade year we were all comming together to b friends....but I know we still try to make other ppl feel welcomed.

One thing that I've seen is that new ppl to the youth group are a little hestitant about talking to other ppl...which is very understandable...but if you can, I guess ask God for corage and just kinda walk up to sum one (around your age of coarse) and introduce your self...usually a coversation will strike up and ....hopefully you guys'll get to know each other better and form a bond........that's howw we've made friends in our youth group out side of our "click"....
just try it and see if it'll work...and really just pray to god to give you corage...cuz it'll take corage...or at least I did.

 

[WholeNewSoul]

opps, sorry

 

[WholeNewSoul]

NO! YOU ARE NOT ALONE! I have been at my chruch for about 5 years but never really believed before, now I really want fellow christians in my life yet find it hard to get passed the small talk, I keep praying, keep having faith and know God will help me out, just like he always does

 

[gonleigh]

Im lucky, i have grown up in my church and we are all about the same point in our faith and our youth leader who joined three years ago(1st one we've had) has started a deeper group to help us go deeper in out faith together.

 

[looksgood]

Hmmm....Ya know making friends is not to easy for me as well. Mainly cause my options of meeting others is low. But other than that it is cause I am REAL. It is hard to find REAL christians anymore. It isn't that we hide it's just that there are so few of us anymore.

I am lucky though. I was in a church with clicks (always outside the click) at one time. I truely loved them but it seemed as though all they would do and say were done because they wanted to do what the bible said and not cause they felt the desire or the love in their hearts. Anyway...God instructed me to find another church. There was things going on that were just wrong. So I FINALY left.

Now the church I am in has no clicks and you can tell they have an equal love for all. It amazes me really. Cause in this church I never EVER come away thinking I got nothing out of it.

LOL, ranting aint I? Anyway, I think we have all been there. I don't have a suggestion. Except maybe make some friends. And I mean MAKE them lol. Little bit of this and that and you get your very own frankenstien. lol

 

[CHATTINCHIC1]

Does anyone ever find that it is hard to make friends that are christian or share your same beliefs? I have been to many churches trying to find one to join but each time I am shot down because most of the members already have there own clicks and do not welcome new people. I really want to make friends that are christians but I feel left out. Am I the only one who feels this way?

Christians sometimes tend to be more "clique-ish" that non-Christians and it gets to be difficult...but don't give up. Keep trying...continue to pray (if you already do) that God will place Christian friends in your life that share the same beliefs as you.

-Kate

 

[Crys2God]

Thank you all so much for your responses. I keep trying to make friends. We are moving to a new town this weekend and I believe things will be better because we will be closer to where we grew up. Closer to home, friends, and family. I have found a few churches that I am going to try and see how they are. I am praying that I find a good church to belong to. I want to be part of a church not just another face in the crowd. Thank you all again for you input and I will continue to try. I am glad that it is not only me but I do find it strange that the Christian faith is a little "clique-ish" as chattinchic1 has said.

 

[sthinky]

i know i feel the same way, i do have some friends, but i dont really do anything with them, or talk to them, because i find it hard to sometimes. you could ask god to help you find some christian friends, that he would want you to get close to and hang out with, because he wants us to have christian fellowship

 

[shprdslamb7]

My mom lives about 5 hours from me and a few weeks ago...I spent the weekend with her and went to a women's retreat with her church. The past couple of years that my mom has went, she stayed in the condo that her friends were in. This year, she chose to stay with some new people. What a blast we had! Her and I both connected so well with the ladies we stayed with. If we would have stayed with her friends, we wouldn't have had the opportunity to bond with the ladies that we did.


It's hard, but, get out there. Where I live, I don't have any real Christian fellowship. Thankfully, I am moving back with mom in December to further my education and can't wait to spend some time with the ladies that I met.