Last night, some of my friends sat me down to make a list. It included characteristics that I am looking for in guys. I know this sounds a bit childish, but I think it will help me hold to my standards and will help me keep perspective. I have had a few guys lately, not exactly to 'my standards', hit on me and I feel as though I have let the devil lead me astray in my thinking about them. I posted something similar to this a bit ago and know that I need to be patient in waiting and I think this list will be a good reminder for me to not be easily swooned by a guy that would not be good for me. So, make a list, maybe not for guys in your instance, but for anything- they act as good reminders and keep you on track!
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Making a List!
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Here's my list 
of Things I Have To Do:
1) Pursue God
2) Rely on God
3) Focus and RE-focus my desires on Christ
4) Pray
I must say that this came about from one of my previous posts about, yes, a guy. :o Well, this guy happens to be a weakness at the moment. My mind has been led astray, but I'm taking it back... perhaps slowly, but surely.
The only addendum to my list would be: To seek the advice from someone you trust and has your best interest in mind.
of Things I Have To Do:1) Pursue God
2) Rely on God
3) Focus and RE-focus my desires on Christ
4) Pray
I must say that this came about from one of my previous posts about, yes, a guy. :o Well, this guy happens to be a weakness at the moment. My mind has been led astray, but I'm taking it back... perhaps slowly, but surely.
The only addendum to my list would be: To seek the advice from someone you trust and has your best interest in mind.
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I've made another guy list in the past when I was in college, but I got way detailed in what I wanted like: "engineer," must be this, must be that. hehe. Perhaps God is actually secretly working on this man....... just kidding!
Well, so I cut down my list to: loves Gods, knows Jesus, respects me and my family, treats others with respect. But, when I know someone who starts to resemble my list I start to think --- so is this guy meant for me? I'm still not sure about him. haha.
Perhaps one will simply think I'm tooooo picky.... o-well!! For me, I tell myself: Don't settle & The time will come when God will bring the right things together at the right time and place. *lol*
Well, so I cut down my list to: loves Gods, knows Jesus, respects me and my family, treats others with respect. But, when I know someone who starts to resemble my list I start to think --- so is this guy meant for me? I'm still not sure about him. haha.
Perhaps one will simply think I'm tooooo picky.... o-well!!
For me, I tell myself: Don't settle & The time will come when God will bring the right things together at the right time and place. *lol*
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Billy Batson
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shallow albeit important things first:
pretty
fit
important things:
intelligence
sense of humor
independent thought
similar age range (20's)
that's it.
pretty
fit
important things:
intelligence
sense of humor
independent thought
similar age range (20's)
that's it.
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Maeyken
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I made a list one time, with some "silly" items, but also some serious items. I've kept the list in the back of my journal, and every time I get a new journal I recopy and update the list. It's a good exercise, I think, because I think about what is important to me in a relationship.
My bf meets all the criteria
My bf meets all the criteria
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Glorianna
I'm a proud Canadian who married an American!
Maeyken said:I made a list one time, with some "silly" items, but also some serious items. I've kept the list in the back of my journal, and every time I get a new journal I recopy and update the list. It's a good exercise, I think, because I think about what is important to me in a relationship.
My bf meets all the criteria
That's awesome!
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boilerblues
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My list is:
1. She has to be sold out for Christ, someone who is wholly devoted to Him. I come second.
2. She has to make me laugh and enjoy life (I take life too seriously a lot of times).
3. This one is kinda odd, but I want a woman whose presence comforts me. When I was in Guinea in February drilling wells in a village the missionaries would cook dinner for us each night. One night I was sitting on the front porch while one of the single missionary girls was inside getting the food ready. She was singing to herself as she worked and it was so comforting to me to listen to her sing. I started out praying for a woman that sings, but I've adjusted it to someone who comforts me. That's a bit of an odd one.
4. She has to be someone I can hold a conversation with, someone that we enjoy spending time together.
5. She has to be a suitable helper. Not that she plays a lesser role than me (I want my wife to think she's the queen of the world and that I hold her in the highest esteem, Philippians 2 would be the basis for our relationship). But I want me and my wife to be a ministry team, that we serve the Lord together and that the two of us are able to serve in a greater way than either of us could individually.
6. I've learned that I need someone with a big heart, lots of compassion. I tend to be very sensitive and if I ended up in a relationship with someone who had little mercy I'd get hurt a lot.
I want a relationship that causes me to grow closer to Christ, not pulls me away from Christ.
1. She has to be sold out for Christ, someone who is wholly devoted to Him. I come second.
2. She has to make me laugh and enjoy life (I take life too seriously a lot of times).
3. This one is kinda odd, but I want a woman whose presence comforts me. When I was in Guinea in February drilling wells in a village the missionaries would cook dinner for us each night. One night I was sitting on the front porch while one of the single missionary girls was inside getting the food ready. She was singing to herself as she worked and it was so comforting to me to listen to her sing. I started out praying for a woman that sings, but I've adjusted it to someone who comforts me. That's a bit of an odd one.
4. She has to be someone I can hold a conversation with, someone that we enjoy spending time together.
5. She has to be a suitable helper. Not that she plays a lesser role than me (I want my wife to think she's the queen of the world and that I hold her in the highest esteem, Philippians 2 would be the basis for our relationship). But I want me and my wife to be a ministry team, that we serve the Lord together and that the two of us are able to serve in a greater way than either of us could individually.
6. I've learned that I need someone with a big heart, lots of compassion. I tend to be very sensitive and if I ended up in a relationship with someone who had little mercy I'd get hurt a lot.
I want a relationship that causes me to grow closer to Christ, not pulls me away from Christ.
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Sinless_angels
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Thats one awsome list you got there
Hope you find her.
Yours is simlar to mine!
Hope you find her.
Yours is simlar to mine!
boilerblues said:
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boilerblues
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I work on becoming friends before I pursue a relationship with someone. I've approach some about a relationship and so far I'm batting 0. But each one of those women shows me something about myself and what I'm looking for in that special woman and I feel like each time I'm closer to finding her. Though the disappointment hurts, I know I've grown from each of those. My standards grow tougher each time, but my grace towards that woman grows each time also.
I'm not settling for less than the best.
I'm not settling for less than the best.
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Sketcher
Born Imperishable
1. She needs to be Biblically eligible to marry. There are many that aren't, and I can't expect God to bless a relationship if I touch the forbidden fruit.
2. She's got to have a vibrant walk with the Lord. If she handles challenges better than I have been known to do, you bet I'll take notice.
3. She's got to be the friendly kind of lady. If she's shy, then it may all come to nothing real fast.
4. She's got to be very patient and forgiving. Otherwise, she won't put up with me and that's an obvious relationship killer.
5. She's got to share my values. There are some things that two people must be united on, and I will not compromise here.
6. She needs to be wise and prudent. The kind of woman that Proverbs praises.
7. She can't be selfish and snobby. If I see that in a woman, that disgusts me to no end.
8. She can't be codependant, she can't act like she's the center of the universe.
9. She can't be a feminist. They don't like me, so I don't like them.
2. She's got to have a vibrant walk with the Lord. If she handles challenges better than I have been known to do, you bet I'll take notice.
3. She's got to be the friendly kind of lady. If she's shy, then it may all come to nothing real fast.
4. She's got to be very patient and forgiving. Otherwise, she won't put up with me and that's an obvious relationship killer.
5. She's got to share my values. There are some things that two people must be united on, and I will not compromise here.
6. She needs to be wise and prudent. The kind of woman that Proverbs praises.
7. She can't be selfish and snobby. If I see that in a woman, that disgusts me to no end.
8. She can't be codependant, she can't act like she's the center of the universe.
9. She can't be a feminist. They don't like me, so I don't like them.
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good list! feminisim is ruining women to no end as then enmey enjoys no doubt.twistedsketch said:
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fluffy_rainbow
I've Got a Secret ;-)
1. He has to completely embody the Holy Spirit. As Boiler said, sold out for Christ.
2. He has to be willing to participate in regular church services and if God calls him to, get involved in various areas of service in the church.
3. A man who is musically talented would be a bonus. I watched my pastor and his wife sing a duet of "Mary did you Know?" and I thought, I would love to sing with my husband!
4. He has to be clean in appearance. Personal hygiene is a must.
5. He has to respect and appreciate my high calling to be a housewife. Yes, I work now but only because I'm single and live on my own. I want to be a homemaker and homeschool our children.
6. He has to have a warm presence, the type that just draws people in and makes them feel good to be around.
7. My parents have to like him and he has to like my parents. I'm very close to my family and seeing how my parents are very much in love with the Lord, I cherish and take heed of their godly advice when it comes to potential suitors.
8. If possible, I would like for him to come from a solid Christian background with a loving, warm family.
9. He must be kind and affectionate and have a servant's heart.
10. Must be a dedicated worker.
11. Must be good with children.
12. Must be humorous, but also knows when to be serious.
13. Must be wildly spontaneous.
14. Must be more spiritually mature than I am.
15. Must be pure, even if he had a checkered past. I want a man who has been sanctified through Christ and strives for the utmost purity even in relationships.
2. He has to be willing to participate in regular church services and if God calls him to, get involved in various areas of service in the church.
3. A man who is musically talented would be a bonus. I watched my pastor and his wife sing a duet of "Mary did you Know?" and I thought, I would love to sing with my husband!
4. He has to be clean in appearance. Personal hygiene is a must.
5. He has to respect and appreciate my high calling to be a housewife. Yes, I work now but only because I'm single and live on my own. I want to be a homemaker and homeschool our children.
6. He has to have a warm presence, the type that just draws people in and makes them feel good to be around.
7. My parents have to like him and he has to like my parents. I'm very close to my family and seeing how my parents are very much in love with the Lord, I cherish and take heed of their godly advice when it comes to potential suitors.
8. If possible, I would like for him to come from a solid Christian background with a loving, warm family.
9. He must be kind and affectionate and have a servant's heart.
10. Must be a dedicated worker.
11. Must be good with children.
12. Must be humorous, but also knows when to be serious.
13. Must be wildly spontaneous.
14. Must be more spiritually mature than I am.
15. Must be pure, even if he had a checkered past. I want a man who has been sanctified through Christ and strives for the utmost purity even in relationships.
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