Do you ever find a make- over (or just new clothing, a hair re-style, new glasses etc) helps your self esteem? I have found changing my image has actually made me feel a lot more confident, although of course image isn't everything.
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Make- over for self esteem
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Temporary self esteem boosts can be gained by a new wardrobe or hair style, but these things do not last. True self esteem comes from inside, knowing who you are, and being comfortable with yourself. These things are not developed by buying a new shirt, indeed sometimes it takes people time, some longer then others, to go through different experiences before they get to that level, and many never attain it.
When you have true self esteem and self worth, you will not need image make overs to gain temporary self esteem boosts, you will get a makeover because you want to since you know you are worth it and deserve it.
When you have true self esteem and self worth, you will not need image make overs to gain temporary self esteem boosts, you will get a makeover because you want to since you know you are worth it and deserve it.
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Actually, I for me I find the answer to be no. When I have low self esteem I'm more likely to want to change my style, but it doesn't make me a whole lot happier.
Last year, I wasn't terribly pretty and didn't bother with style, and I liked myself pretty well. This year people think I'm pretty, and I've been putting more effort into my appearance, but the more clothes I but or whatever, the worse I tend to feel... It's a very momentary happiness for me.
Last year, I wasn't terribly pretty and didn't bother with style, and I liked myself pretty well. This year people think I'm pretty, and I've been putting more effort into my appearance, but the more clothes I but or whatever, the worse I tend to feel... It's a very momentary happiness for me.
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thenewageriseth
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I wish I did have a full makeover and yes it does make me feel much better in a society where 95% of people's hair textures are straight and seemingly "manageable" because of relaxers and perms. The last time I had relaxer in my hair, I worried so much and was careless that I lost half of my hair. It grew back and now my mother is scared to let me have one again, so for now, without hair spray that is, I'm stuck with puffy hair that changes back quickly. *weakly* -_-
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It depends.
My experience is this: I always thought I was terribly ugly. I felt 'better about myself' temporarily through dieting and exercise, but because it wasn't a real cure for my problems I got hooked on it (and the hope that it would be a cure), and developed an eating disorder. I equated thin with beautiful, but paradoxically became the ugliest human being out there.
After recovering, I realised that my concept of beauty needed to change. Thin/fat/whatever are neither beautiful or ugly - they just are what they are. A thin person is typically seen as more desirable than a fat person - but the most beautiful faces I have ever seen have been on bigger women. We focus so much on bodies that we forget that inner beauty radiates through the face.
I started to experiment with makeup, nicer clothing, hair styles and beautiful accessories. It helped me to see that I can be gorgeous too - and thus diverted me from an unhealthy existence (the eating disorder) to a healthier existence (free from the eating disorder) - all I had to do was pamper myself a bit. It makes me feel special, and the fact that it makes me look better is an added bonus.
My experience is this: I always thought I was terribly ugly. I felt 'better about myself' temporarily through dieting and exercise, but because it wasn't a real cure for my problems I got hooked on it (and the hope that it would be a cure), and developed an eating disorder. I equated thin with beautiful, but paradoxically became the ugliest human being out there.
After recovering, I realised that my concept of beauty needed to change. Thin/fat/whatever are neither beautiful or ugly - they just are what they are. A thin person is typically seen as more desirable than a fat person - but the most beautiful faces I have ever seen have been on bigger women. We focus so much on bodies that we forget that inner beauty radiates through the face.
I started to experiment with makeup, nicer clothing, hair styles and beautiful accessories. It helped me to see that I can be gorgeous too - and thus diverted me from an unhealthy existence (the eating disorder) to a healthier existence (free from the eating disorder) - all I had to do was pamper myself a bit. It makes me feel special, and the fact that it makes me look better is an added bonus.
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