i was raised in the catholic church and always believed in God etc, but drifted from the life in my teens.
when i met my (now) husband i started going to church with him. he is open brethren. i became a christian in nineteen ninetyfour, but since them have been plagued with doubts about my salvation.
we left his church a couple of years ago after some hurts, and tried a few others. i was really keen on the local baptist..really friendly and community minded.
but he just CANT/WONT settle anywhere except his home church so now he and the kids are back there but i cant/wont go
my dilemmas are:
* i find it a really sterile/legalistic/judmental place...they often make comments against catholics/psychology etc so i am doomed on both counts!
* the hurts that went down previously were never really sorted
* i have enough problems with perfectionism etc and worry this church reinforces my already warped view of God..see Him as wrath and judgment, NEVER as love
* i feel it is an issue we are not going to church as a family, but we are at stalemate..i dont want to go there, but he wont move and i respect and feel for his dilemma in that he was raised in that church etc
any advice
should i just go alone to another church and if so who takes the kids?!?!?!
or is there a way forward???
when i met my (now) husband i started going to church with him. he is open brethren. i became a christian in nineteen ninetyfour, but since them have been plagued with doubts about my salvation.
we left his church a couple of years ago after some hurts, and tried a few others. i was really keen on the local baptist..really friendly and community minded.
but he just CANT/WONT settle anywhere except his home church so now he and the kids are back there but i cant/wont go
my dilemmas are:
* i find it a really sterile/legalistic/judmental place...they often make comments against catholics/psychology etc so i am doomed on both counts!
* the hurts that went down previously were never really sorted
* i have enough problems with perfectionism etc and worry this church reinforces my already warped view of God..see Him as wrath and judgment, NEVER as love
* i feel it is an issue we are not going to church as a family, but we are at stalemate..i dont want to go there, but he wont move and i respect and feel for his dilemma in that he was raised in that church etc
any advice
should i just go alone to another church and if so who takes the kids?!?!?!
or is there a way forward???
