Mad all the time

[nathan57]

the person who i love the most sees me as a ghost. i went so far to tell her how much i love her and after all that im still alone and shes with another guy (im not mad at her or her boyfriend they are both wonderful people)

I keep struggling with lust on a daily basis, images are thrown at me in everyday life and im left cursing to myself. its just not fair

a lot of people have negative things to say about Christians, but i feel stressed on whether or not i should challenge their point only because i am terrible at arguing and also there is no way i can change someones mind. yet i still conflict with myself and think "am i denying my faith by not getting involved"

i feel as if my entire being leads me to be osteracized and subjected to abuse

I used to be understanding, now im just a cynic. i dont know exactly where i am gonig with this. i just need to vent to some people that i can relate to on a faith based level

 

[texastig]

the person who i love the most sees me as a ghost. i went so far to tell her how much i love her and after all that im still alone and shes with another guy (im not mad at her or her boyfriend they are both wonderful people)

I keep struggling with lust on a daily basis, images are thrown at me in everyday life and im left cursing to myself. its just not fair

a lot of people have negative things to say about Christians, but i feel stressed on whether or not i should challenge their point only because i am terrible at arguing and also there is no way i can change someones mind. yet i still conflict with myself and think "am i denying my faith by not getting involved"

i feel as if my entire being leads me to be osteracized and subjected to abuse

I used to be understanding, now im just a cynic. i dont know exactly where i am gonig with this. i just need to vent to some people that i can relate to on a faith based level

Nathan57 see my post here called "Deliverance From Evil Thoughts".
http://christianforums.com/showpost.php?p=41213889&postcount=1
You can vent all you want here. That's why we are here at the DM Forum so you can get help.
Thanks,
TT

 

[sinneD]

Nathan....

I am a long time student of the bible, and I know my scripture well...

But I do not have a gift of evangelism or apologetics..

In other words, arguing points of Scripture isn't one of my strong points.. I can effectively teach scripture, and I can effectively discuss Scripture, but arguing and debating just isn't in my personality.

And so I have learned to not allow others to bother me - those who want to debate and argue such things. Then get themselves all worked up trying to disprove points of the bible, and I don't agree with them, but I don't argue or debate with them.

I think perhaps you might be the same. Don't get upset or discouraged by this. You have gifts in other areas - maybe helping others in their time of need, maybe a listening ear, maybe just being a friend or a shoulder to cry on.

Focus on what you are good at - what you are gifted at - and let others do the debating.

Peace
Dennis

 

[Onlythingavailable]

Sorry to hear about your heart sorrows.

One important thing I've learned about evangelizing, helping or getting involved is to never let feelings, whether it be guilt or whatever, force your hand. Instead ask yourself questions like can I be of use? What needs can I supply? Do I have the necessary resources to commit myself to this? These questions can at first glance appear self-centered, but what will it profit anyone to commit oneself to something one isn't ready for?

About the lust you mentioned, are you sure it's lust and not natural sexual feelings? Being attracted to someone isn't automatically a sin.

 

[nathan57]

Dennis, and everyone thank you so much

Sorry to hear about your heart sorrows.

One important thing I've learned about evangelizing, helping or getting involved is to never let feelings, whether it be guilt or whatever, force your hand. Instead ask yourself questions like can I be of use? What needs can I supply? Do I have the necessary resources to commit myself to this? These questions can at first glance appear self-centered, but what will it profit anyone to commit oneself to something one isn't ready for?

About the lust you mentioned, are you sure it's lust and not natural sexual feelings? Being attracted to someone isn't automatically a sin.

Onlyonethingavailable, im not questioning you at all, i just want you to explain more about your take on list/sexual attraction. im just a little confused and would like to understand it better. dont worry im not trying to set you up or anything, i just need things explained to me at times

 

[Onlythingavailable]

I think imagining sexual acts is when lusting starts. I do admit this is a gray area, but at the very least sexual thoughts about people who are married or attached are definitely a no no. I don't think being attracted to someone or being aroused by someone is sinful. I know it isn't as easy as that, and I don't have all the answers, but I've seen people think one should just be able to turn off one's sexuality with a switch.

 

[texastig]

Someone said that when temptation comes to your mind, don't let it nest there.
Thanks,
TT

 

[nathan57]

thanks