Lusting!!!

[Brennin]

Now you're getting defensive, and that was expected. As I said, there is no judgement here. It's just an observation. It's hard not to make some kind of observation when somebody continually posts things like this on a Christian forum:

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I could go on. There are so many many of them. I'd rather not. I can think of more exciting things to do.... like floss my teeth perhaps.

Again...I'm not ridiculing you here. As I have said before, I find it sad that you are requiring attention to this degree. That's my observation, not my judgement.

1. It is difficult enough for a mental health professional to psychoanalyze someone in person. How can you expect to diagnose someone you have never met or corresponded with (except here)?

2. Nymphalidae is facetious (as am I); facetiousness is not a disorder.

3. If you have concerns about another poster's mental, emotional, or spiritual well being you should contact the poster privately, instead of admonishing him or her publicly.

 

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1. It is difficult enough for a mental health professional to psychoanalyze someone in person. How can you expect to diagnose someone you have never met or corresponded with (except here)?

I suppose it is difficult for a mental health professional to psychoanalyze someone, however..... attention seeking is not a mental health diagnosis. It is behavior related, which can be modified. Behavior is easy to recognize, and doesn't need to be diagnosed. If attention seeking were a mental health diagnosis, about 2/3 of the teen population in the USA, Canada, the UK, and Asia, would be mentally ill.

The next time you want to link something to a mental health issue, go read a DSM manual for heaven's sake. You can find one in your local library if you cannot afford to buy one from a medical supply store. Some bookstores carry them as well.

2. Nymphalidae is facetious (as am I); facetiousness is not a disorder.

Neither is attention seeking. Repeated facetious behavior (especially with sexual overtones) is a method of attention seeking.

3. If you have concerns about another poster's mental, emotional, or spiritual well being you should contact the poster privately, instead of admonishing him or her publicly.

Again, attention seeking is not a mental health issue. Yes it can be a symptom of many mental health disorders, but there was no attempt to link her attention seeking behavior to a mental health diagnosis. You are the first one to bring this issue up. That's very interesting.

Btw, when somebody displays repeated sexual overtones in public posts, on a Christian forum, there is no reason to ask them about it privately.

 

[Stellar Vision]

As I have said numerous times already (which you clearly have not read or don't care to read) I could care less how many times she posts about sex. I am merely observing attention seeking in them.

Perhaps.

It's because I do care.

It's about a promise of caring, and a desire to help in a true and meaningful way, as only a friend can do.

If you really don't care then this further supports my point that you're simply using these phrases in a patronizing manner.

 

[Stellar Vision]

Anyway I'm straying off topic and just want to appologize for appearing to infringe on your freedom of speech by nitpicking at your comments Adiya.

In response to the OP:
Honestly I don't know what one should do about lusting, whether or not they should worry about it too much. I suppose it could be different for each person. I tend not to think of it as a big deal though. Some people see any sexual desire, no matter how minute, as lusting and thus a sin. I would say that lusting is natural, but too much of a good thing can lead to negative consequences. Take drinking for example; it's fine in moderate quantities, but you have to be responsible with it. It's not as if lust is bad, rather powerful and must be controlled to some extent I guess.

 

[Daegor]

Her posts that emit sexual overtones are not about sex, they are about a need for attention. I think that's sad. I'm sure she'll get defensive and make fun of the fact that I find it sad, but again, that is just a defense mechanism to drive the attention away from the real reason she posts things like this:

To be honest that isn't looking for attention, that seems like someone just kidding around. The comments you mention aren't very sexual, and I think you're over exaggerating.

I think maybe the reason you like to lecture certain people on their behavior is because you're actually a stuffy uptight busybody that would rather point out what you consider flaws in other people than concentrate on your own. Whilst at the same time pretending it's out of concern for them. It's sad really...

Now you may get defensive here and say I'm making it up but I recognize that it's because you know it's true, and it would be just to draw attention away from the fact that you're a patronising know-it-all.

And of course it is my God given right to judge anyone I don't agree with.

AWWWW bless you my child have a hug

 

[californiaheathen]

Lust is fine and healthy. Lust turns to envy sometimes, which can still be healthy. It is when we act inappropriately on lust that problems arise.

 

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Perhaps.

If you really don't care then this further supports my point that you're simply using these phrases in a patronizing manner.

I do not care if she wants to post about sex in every single topic. I do care about what is behind it. Attention seeking behavior is typically driven by feelings of inadequacy.

I think maybe the reason you like to lecture certain people on their behavior is because you're actually a stuffy uptight busybody that would rather point out what you consider flaws in other people than concentrate on your own. Whilst at the same time pretending it's out of concern for them. It's sad really...

It is times like these when one is tempted to reveal their true identity, merely for the sake of laughter. Alas... I shall pass on the temptation and just snicker to myself at the idea that I'm stuffy.... I can think of quite a few people who wish I would lean toward being stuffy, but again... I'll pass on the temptation of revealing them as well.

Here's a hug for you too.

 

[Scell]

I'm hilarious!

I've always enjoyed your posts, fwiw

 

[levi501]

INeither is attention seeking. Repeated facetious behavior (especially with sexual overtones) is a method of attention seeking.

Long-winded melodramatic posts are also a form of attention seeking.

 

[ChristianCenturion]

Long-winded melodramatic posts are also a form of attention seeking.

I don't mind giving Adiya attention.
She's my sister.

 

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God bless.

 

[Nathan55]

Job spoke about lust, I got my big Bible book out. It says that he listed the steps of lust as, "Looking opon a virgin" to, "Allowing ones heart to follow ones eyes" to, "Allowing oneself to be enticed by a woman and scheming to have her"

Oh man.....ive done these way too many times...

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Bummer

 

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Nathan, we've all lusted. I've lusted. I know now that it only hurts me when I lust. Caring for a person, and desiring to understand who they are first, before desiring to jump their bones, is preferential. It's also more respectful, both for them and myself.