Love?

[><>InHisName<><]

How do you know if you're in love? I really think I am because of the way I feel even when I'm not with the guy, but I have been told again and again that you can't really be in love in High School. I'm afraid that I'm merely infatuated, and that all that I feel is farce. How did you know you were in love?

 

[f U z ! o N]

don't listen to what people say. if you feel it in your heart then its love. reserach the signs of infatuation and you will know for sure.

 

[><>InHisName<><]

thanks for the advice... i took it... i reckon i'm in love

 

[Glorianna]

Great advice Blue Impulse! I always love hearing what you have to say!

 

[EmSchmem]

I too am with Blue. Also it's not about "being in love" or "following our hearts." We aren't called to foolow our hearts we are called to follow God and they are not always the same thing. Being in love is a feeling and it is completely possible that you are quite in love. BUT if you truly love this person you will deeply investigate whether or not it is truly and honestly best for the both of you to enter a relationship right now. Out of real love for them, it may not be for reasons such as Blue said. At this age you have so many other things to focus on. Some people can do that some can't. IF this is truly a person you will love forever and marry, they will still be there after high school (maybe even after college if college is something you are looking at). Romance is a really cool thing and I can promise you that when it is done right and in the right timing it is 1000s of times cooler than when we go after it at the wrong time. Also age isn't the only factor in the wrong time to pursue a realtionship. You could both be 30 and it could be wrong for you to go into right now.

 

[LiberatedChick]

My husband and I started courting at 16 so I definately believe that it is possible to love at that age and have a lasting relationship. I think what matters most is not the fact that you love someone but whether you love them enough to make a sound decision about whether this relationship is right for now.

I see love as an action rather than a feeling. Yes, there are feelings that go with it but they're not the only part of it. After all, Jesus told us to love our neighbours....I don't think he would have meant we should have fuzzy feelings for everyone Use 1 Corinthians 13 as your guide to deciding whether this is love or not and don't forget verse 4....love is patient. If this is real love but the timing is wrong it can wait.

4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 

[><>InHisName<><]

thank you all so much for your responses. you are all right, if this is love that is meant to be, God will find a way to make it work.

 

[koban4max]

How do you know if you're in love? I really think I am because of the way I feel even when I'm not with the guy, but I have been told again and again that you can't really be in love in High School. I'm afraid that I'm merely infatuated, and that all that I feel is farce. How did you know you were in love?

not to sound negative...first off ...ya will feel it.....if ya in love


but ya..know..after highschool...they feel they need to follow their own path.

bewarned that ya might get hurt

 

[Inperfected]

Hmm... are you in love? you may well be. Good questions to ask are thing like: how well do i know him? HOw long were we friends first? Why do i like him? and ones like that..

I kno a few couples who have been going out at that age, and still together a year or two later... But in reality that is outnumbered 100 to 1. Just protect your heart, by also concentrating on other things, such as church stuff, or sport, music, or whatever you are interested in..

In saying this, i know it's possible to meet your "love" at 16. The guy I'm engaged to now, he has liked me since he was 16, and i liked him on and off since i was 15 (nearly 16). SO it's possible, but in no way is it the norm.

Good luck girl. Whether it works or not, it's great, coz god has a good plan for you.

 

[><>InHisName<><]

Good luck girl. Whether it works or not, it's great, coz God has a good plan for you.

you are so right... thanks...

 

[Boss_BlueAngels]

ugh, I'm so glad high school is over! So many things changing and so many questions! In high school I thought I had a pretty firm grasp of what love was, but it wasn't close. I met my current girlfriend nearly three years ago (we've been officially dating for about 2.5 years) and that was love at first sight for me. Something seemed to just "click" and wasn't the same since! You will know when you are in love... sometimes you may think you are, but once it really hits, there will be no question. It's something nobody else can even explain to you. It's tough to tell when you're not in love, but it's clear as day when you are in love.

A friend told me once that advice is something you ask only once you have already made your mind, but just want re-assurance. The "love" question seems to be one that's quite true. You know if you're in love or not. It's more than just thinking about the person every hour of every day.


Also, don't force things. A lot of people in HS get so uptight about it and think that because everyone else has a bf/gf, therefore I should too. If it's meant to be, the right situations will present themselves at the right moments. I promise.

 

[superfly]

i personally actually discourage relationships while people are still in high school. more often then not, what you want to do when you're in hs and what you end up doing are quite different. this means that you don't have a clear idea of your future. because you should be dating because you want to marry this person, you should be quite clear of your future.

those few years bring a lot of maturity to a person, and you don't want to leave a trail of broken hearts behind you...

i hope i'm making some sort of sense...

 

[><>InHisName<><]

i personally actually discourage relationships while people are still in high school. more often then not, what you want to do when you're in hs and what you end up doing are quite different. this means that you don't have a clear idea of your future. because you should be dating because you want to marry this person, you should be quite clear of your future.

those few years bring a lot of maturity to a person, and you don't want to leave a trail of broken hearts behind you...

i hope i'm making some sort of sense...

that's one thing i worry about actually... but th happiest married couples i know met in high school... i don't want to rule that out either

 

[invisiblebabe]

It's true love if you're willing and able to make significant sacrifices for him, and he reciprocates.

 

[Inperfected]

Hmm taking it slow is not silly. It would be my best suggestion. Take it slowly, and it will go better. Whether better means together, or not.

 

[girlofgrace727]

Don't let someone tell you you can't be in love with high school, I'm 19 and have been in love with the same guy since I was 14. You may NOT be in love, but you could be. My love for him was definatly immature in high school, and now it's grown into a total respect and admiration and desire to get to know the incredible man of God that he is. Just take it slow and really get to know him

 

[Inperfected]

that's one thing i worry about actually... but th happiest married couples i know met in high school... i don't want to rule that out either

Hmm on advice to that quote:

Honestly don't worry about ruling out the "happiest married couples i know met in high school". This sometiems will happen, but only rarely will it last. Being friends, and maybe testing the waters later on is probably a better idea.
My way of viewing it is:
* The longer the friendship, the safer the relationship (not just emotionally/physically, but more likely to last)
* The longer the friendship the better the relationship.