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He was her dream come true! Hed started out merely as her dance instructor. She was almost sixteen, he was almost twenty-two. They went, quickly, from acquaintances to best friends. He did everything with her and her family. His personality really attracted her and, eventually, she fell in love with him. He was everything shed ever wanted! But she was scared that he wouldnt feel the same about her.
The date was Wednesday, January 12, after youth service; they were sitting in the back row of the sanctuary when she shared her feelings. She knew that she would burst into tears if she found out that she was alone in her feelings. But, it was not to be that way. For he was in love with her, as well. She felt as if she could cry, laugh, scream, run, jump, dance, sing and explode all at the same time!
She cried tears of joy all the way home. The phone rang as soon as she walked in the door and she ran to answer it. It was her Prince Charming. They talked, laughed and even cried for the whole five hours they were on the phone. She heart was filled with love and a burning happiness which she had never felt before.
As their relationship grew, she became more and more certain that he was the one. She couldnt be away from him for more than thirty minutes without having to call or e-mail him. When ever she was with him she felt safe, complete, adored, beautiful, needed, lucky and blessed.
"Hes the most popular guy at church, and hes in love with me!" she said to her mom one day.
Both of her parents absolutely adored him and accepted him into the family. Even her brother liked him! He would come over every Saturday and spend all day with her and her family. He called her every day and talked to her for hours. When ever they said goodbye hed call her names like, "My Princess" or "Baby". Any time they were having dance practice, hed come over hours before and just spend time with her. Then theyd go to practice and hed bring her home afterwards. Yet, in all of this happiness and joy, he wanted to keep their relationship a secret. It seemed odd to her, but she still went along with it.
One Tuesday he went to see her, before dance practice, and as they were sitting on the love-seat, he kissed her for the first time in their relationship. It was a tender, passionate kiss. It was extra special for her because it was also her first kiss, ever. They continued to grow closer. One night, as they talked on the phone, he asked her if she loved him enough to marry her. She answered yes.
"But, I should inform you that before you can marry me, my dad will need your payment of cattle, horses and sheep."
"What?" he asked, completely confused.
She laughed and explained, "Its a just a joke my dad keeps telling me. Before the guy can marry me, he needs to pay for me with cattle, horses and sheep."
The next time he went over, he brought a box containing toy horses, cows and sheep. It was his way of asking her parents permission to court her now, and marry her when she turned eighteen. Of course they gave their consent. They knew how much she loved him, so they were willing to let her marry so young. If it has been any normal guy, theyd have said no right at the very beginning. But they loved and trusted him so much! None of then would have ever guessed that such a wonderful story, that should have ended in "Happily ever after", would end in such tragedy.
In one night he managed to completely loose their trust. He showed inappropriate affection to another girl, while the one he "loved" was watching. In just a few hours he shattered all her hopes and dreams. Her heart was deeply broken. And when she told him what hed done, he acted as if it was no big deal! He acted as if this other girl was more important to him than the one he promised to marry! He was totally unwilling to change his relationship with this girl. His "Princess" cried herself to sleep every night for weeks because she was so hurt over what hed done; but she was terrified to loose him.
Finally, after all the pain, hurt and tears, she found the strength within herself to end her relationship with him. Then, he began to blame her for the relationship taking a down-fall and accused her of never being in love with him, when her feelings had been nothing but sincere. Hed already broken her heart once and, as if that wasnt enough, he had to break it again!
She stopped eating and depression began to seep in. She busied herself with her school work and church functions to keep her mind off of him. But every night, as she laid in bed, her mind would always go to him and what hed done. Every night she cried herself to sleep, wishing he could see her right then so that hed feel guilty over what hed done to her.
All he did was ignore her. He acted as if shed never played any part in his life. With every point of rejection from him she felt worse about herself. When ever she would see him shed feel ugly, used, neglected, unimportant, invisible and worthless. And she knew he didnt care which was hurt the most.
"God!" she cried, "Help me! Help me get through this! I need your will Father God!"
She prayed that night after night and things began to get better. She struggled when he was around her at church, but she managed to ignore him enough to make it. Yet she found herself, many times, trying to find a reason to hate him. Sure, hed hurt her, but was that really a good enough reason to hate someone? She finally decided to pity him, instead of hate him. Shed found out things about him that made her stomach churn at the very sound of his voice. She began to watch over the girls hes hang around with. She knew he was dangerous and didnt want any of then hurt. She was relieved when he was taken out of all leadership positions, including the dance teams.
She was surprised when the childrens Pastor asked her to lead the kids dance team! She accepted the offer with enthusiasm and excitement. It made practice with the kids a lot easier knowing that he was not even allowed downstairs with the kids.
She vowed to never court or date until she was out of highschool. And, although she meant it, she still found herself longing for the kind of male attention he gave her. It felt good to be shown that kind of special attention, and now it was gone. She was lonely. But, she knew shed better off waiting until she graduated to court or date.
After all shed gone through, most would think shed question Gods love and existence. Not her. She never questioned Gods existence or His love. She often vented her anger and pain to Him, but always knew she was loved and accepted by her heavenly Father. And it Him who gave her the strength to continue on. To this day she loved Christ with her heart and serves Him.
Matthew 5:43-48 "You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for he makes His sun rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?
And if you greet your brethren only, what do you so more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect."
This is what happened to me. Everything in this story is 100% fact.
He was her dream come true! Hed started out merely as her dance instructor. She was almost sixteen, he was almost twenty-two. They went, quickly, from acquaintances to best friends. He did everything with her and her family. His personality really attracted her and, eventually, she fell in love with him. He was everything shed ever wanted! But she was scared that he wouldnt feel the same about her.
The date was Wednesday, January 12, after youth service; they were sitting in the back row of the sanctuary when she shared her feelings. She knew that she would burst into tears if she found out that she was alone in her feelings. But, it was not to be that way. For he was in love with her, as well. She felt as if she could cry, laugh, scream, run, jump, dance, sing and explode all at the same time!
She cried tears of joy all the way home. The phone rang as soon as she walked in the door and she ran to answer it. It was her Prince Charming. They talked, laughed and even cried for the whole five hours they were on the phone. She heart was filled with love and a burning happiness which she had never felt before.
As their relationship grew, she became more and more certain that he was the one. She couldnt be away from him for more than thirty minutes without having to call or e-mail him. When ever she was with him she felt safe, complete, adored, beautiful, needed, lucky and blessed.
"Hes the most popular guy at church, and hes in love with me!" she said to her mom one day.
Both of her parents absolutely adored him and accepted him into the family. Even her brother liked him! He would come over every Saturday and spend all day with her and her family. He called her every day and talked to her for hours. When ever they said goodbye hed call her names like, "My Princess" or "Baby". Any time they were having dance practice, hed come over hours before and just spend time with her. Then theyd go to practice and hed bring her home afterwards. Yet, in all of this happiness and joy, he wanted to keep their relationship a secret. It seemed odd to her, but she still went along with it.
One Tuesday he went to see her, before dance practice, and as they were sitting on the love-seat, he kissed her for the first time in their relationship. It was a tender, passionate kiss. It was extra special for her because it was also her first kiss, ever. They continued to grow closer. One night, as they talked on the phone, he asked her if she loved him enough to marry her. She answered yes.
"But, I should inform you that before you can marry me, my dad will need your payment of cattle, horses and sheep."
"What?" he asked, completely confused.
She laughed and explained, "Its a just a joke my dad keeps telling me. Before the guy can marry me, he needs to pay for me with cattle, horses and sheep."
The next time he went over, he brought a box containing toy horses, cows and sheep. It was his way of asking her parents permission to court her now, and marry her when she turned eighteen. Of course they gave their consent. They knew how much she loved him, so they were willing to let her marry so young. If it has been any normal guy, theyd have said no right at the very beginning. But they loved and trusted him so much! None of then would have ever guessed that such a wonderful story, that should have ended in "Happily ever after", would end in such tragedy.
In one night he managed to completely loose their trust. He showed inappropriate affection to another girl, while the one he "loved" was watching. In just a few hours he shattered all her hopes and dreams. Her heart was deeply broken. And when she told him what hed done, he acted as if it was no big deal! He acted as if this other girl was more important to him than the one he promised to marry! He was totally unwilling to change his relationship with this girl. His "Princess" cried herself to sleep every night for weeks because she was so hurt over what hed done; but she was terrified to loose him.
Finally, after all the pain, hurt and tears, she found the strength within herself to end her relationship with him. Then, he began to blame her for the relationship taking a down-fall and accused her of never being in love with him, when her feelings had been nothing but sincere. Hed already broken her heart once and, as if that wasnt enough, he had to break it again!
She stopped eating and depression began to seep in. She busied herself with her school work and church functions to keep her mind off of him. But every night, as she laid in bed, her mind would always go to him and what hed done. Every night she cried herself to sleep, wishing he could see her right then so that hed feel guilty over what hed done to her.
All he did was ignore her. He acted as if shed never played any part in his life. With every point of rejection from him she felt worse about herself. When ever she would see him shed feel ugly, used, neglected, unimportant, invisible and worthless. And she knew he didnt care which was hurt the most.
"God!" she cried, "Help me! Help me get through this! I need your will Father God!"
She prayed that night after night and things began to get better. She struggled when he was around her at church, but she managed to ignore him enough to make it. Yet she found herself, many times, trying to find a reason to hate him. Sure, hed hurt her, but was that really a good enough reason to hate someone? She finally decided to pity him, instead of hate him. Shed found out things about him that made her stomach churn at the very sound of his voice. She began to watch over the girls hes hang around with. She knew he was dangerous and didnt want any of then hurt. She was relieved when he was taken out of all leadership positions, including the dance teams.
She was surprised when the childrens Pastor asked her to lead the kids dance team! She accepted the offer with enthusiasm and excitement. It made practice with the kids a lot easier knowing that he was not even allowed downstairs with the kids.
She vowed to never court or date until she was out of highschool. And, although she meant it, she still found herself longing for the kind of male attention he gave her. It felt good to be shown that kind of special attention, and now it was gone. She was lonely. But, she knew shed better off waiting until she graduated to court or date.
After all shed gone through, most would think shed question Gods love and existence. Not her. She never questioned Gods existence or His love. She often vented her anger and pain to Him, but always knew she was loved and accepted by her heavenly Father. And it Him who gave her the strength to continue on. To this day she loved Christ with her heart and serves Him.
Matthew 5:43-48 "You have heard that it was said, You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy. But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for he makes His sun rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the just and the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?
And if you greet your brethren only, what do you so more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect."
This is what happened to me. Everything in this story is 100% fact.
