Love is a many splenda'd thing

[Verve]

I couldn't help myself with ripping off the title for a spin off of the I love Valentine's thread.

Edited to add: If you don't get how the title is a spin off I was referring to splenda.

Because I think that the idea behind the holiday (love) is good and natural but I think what the holiday is, is a bunch of over-commercialized and pre-packaged junk...like splenda.

We now return to the OP:
The reason? I can't stand how over-commercialized society has made a day that is supposed to be about love. Then again, it came about in an era where courtly love and all that pomp were in fashion. I blame both the pope and Chaucer.

All the ads that play during this time of year, setting up people for more unrealistic expectations than Disney ever could. At least we knew that we weren't going to grow up to be a cartoon character...

The ads give people a sense of false hope that maybe this year it will be different. Maybe this year it won't suck.

JC Penny Valentine's Day Commercial - YouTube

I'm sorry, but this (the ad above), doesn't happen!

There are many more people who are going to end up disappointed by Valentine's day than people who are going to fall asleep happy.

I have a whole list of horrible Valentine's days and the worst ones I've had weren't when I was single...no it was in relationships.

1) Forgot it was Valentine's and handed me a $20 to go pick up pizza by myself in a snowstorm...at least he bought dinner?

2)Ignored me and a homemade meal with dessert for world of warcraft.

3) Flowers? A box of chocolates? No...I'll pass by all the other fundraisers at school and give you a giant chocolate phallus from the GSA...because you just seem like the kind of girl who would find that funny.

It's all so fake!

And you know what? I blame this stupid holiday for setting up unrealistic expectations. Every year I used to think that maybe it just wouldn't be horrible.

As of 2 years ago I quit having expectations that anything romantic happens on Valentine's Day.

What do you dislike about V-day?

 

[Saucy]

I'm sorry you had such sucktacular V-days! I've never really celebrated it...never had anyone to celebrate with. As I said on the other thread, I see it as a day that's colorful and reminds me that Spring is coming very soon!

I guess I dislike it for the same reason I'm started to not like Christmas and Thanksgiving. It's all about commercialism and greed. We shouldn't need one day to be thankful. We shouldn't need one day (that isn't even the real birthday) to celebrate Christ. We shouldn't have one day were we do something special for our loves one.

I love you because I bought you a big box of chocolate and flowers? That should do it.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Hm, isn't Valentine's Day one of the most popular wedding, or at least engagement, days!?

I don't dislike V-Day, and I don't mind spending money on Jewellery in the first place... so idk, maybe I dislike commercials too(?!) for sending unrealistic expectations; but, I don't really watch television either so...

 

[ChrisPharmD]

Uhhh.... this happens for ALL holidays. Holidays, in reality, (and I'm going to get flamed for saying this) are marketing gimmicks.

Christmas is the biggest and most important holiday to the corporate world, but V-Day doesn't follow too far behind.

 

[Verve]

I'm sorry you had such sucktacular V-days! I've never really celebrated it...never had anyone to celebrate with. As I said on the other thread, I see it as a day that's colorful and reminds me that Spring is coming very soon!

I guess I dislike it for the same reason I'm started to not like Christmas and Thanksgiving. It's all about commercialism and greed. We shouldn't need one day to be thankful. We shouldn't need one day (that isn't even the real birthday) to celebrate Christ. We shouldn't have one day were we do something special for our loves one.

I love you because I bought you a big box of chocolate and flowers? That should do it.

Exactly. We shouldn't just have one day and try and force in all sorts of romantic idealism.

Why one day out of the year?

And it's so true, the commercialism makes me ill. That and I think guys who actually participate in this charade are essentially being held hostage by society. If they don't do something romantic they are seen as a "bad boyfriend" ... that's so stupid. A box of chocolates does not mean that someone loves you, a teddy bear or roses does not mean that someone loves you.

We're supposed to be celebrating love...not our paychecks.

 

[Saucy]

Exactly. We shouldn't just have one day and try and force in all sorts of romantic idealism.

Why one day out of the year?

And it's so true, the commercialism makes me ill. That and I think guys who actually participate in this charade are essentially being held hostage by society. If they don't do something romantic they are seen as a "bad boyfriend" ... that's so stupid. A box of chocolates does not mean that someone loves you, a teddy bear or roses does not mean that someone loves you.

We're supposed to be celebrating love...not our paychecks.

Agreed. I just think special occasions should happen regularly. There should be any expectations and if you don't come through on V-day, then you're a bad boyfriend. I would hope to spoil my girlfriend/wife rotten every opportunity I get.

 

[Rhye]

I don't care if I get things that day or not. When you get the kind of love each day then you know you have someone special. Everyday is V-Day sometimes. LOL!

btw, what a jerk, sorry to hear that!

 

[Verve]

I don't care if I get things that day or not. When you get the kind of love each day then you know you have someone special. Everyday is V-Day sometimes. LOL!

btw, what a jerk, sorry to hear that!

Not one jerk... 3 different boyfriends. The third one was actually trying to be funny

I don't care about getting things. I just wish there wasn't some expectation placed on this one day.
I'm all about love and I agree with the bolded 100%

 

[Rhye]

Not one jerk... 3 different boyfriends. The third one was actually trying to be funny

Oh dear, now I understand. That is extremely hurtful!

 

[GQ Chris]

Oh Valentine's is coming up. I always hated that day. lol

 

[GQ Chris]

^because it's so contrived, so over media spun. Blech

 

[Verve]

Oh dear, now I understand. That is extremely hurtful!

That's how I came to the understanding that Valentine's is just a bunch of over commercialized whooey and I refuse to participate in anything related to the "typical" Valentine's day.

I'm just done with everything that is cliche and hokey about it.

 

[Verve]

Walgreens Valentines Day Commercial - YouTube

 

[Nom De Guerre]

I think Austin needs to step-up his game here (no offense Austin), sounds like you need a lovely something or other to take you out of this Funk.

 

[GQ Chris]

I hate any designated day where we're supposed to act all ooey gooey lovey dovey and romantic.

I consider myself a romantic guy, and for me it is an every day thing. It may not be a huge get dressed up in formal wear and go out to a pretentious restaurant; but my idea is much more rad anyway.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

I hate any designated day where we're supposed to act all ooey gooey lovey dovey and romantic.

I consider myself a romantic guy, and for me it is an every day thing. It may not be a huge get dressed up in formal wear and go out to a pretentious restaurant; but my idea is much more rad anyway.

Yeah, I don't plan on doing the 'fancy' restaurant thing ever really... I don't mind eating out though, I went for a nice steak last night I also had a light beer

 

[Verve]

I think Austin needs to step-up his game here (no offense Austin), sounds like you need a lovely something or other to take you out of this Funk.

Austin understands my distaste for cliche V-day nonsense.
I feel so blessed to have him in my life, he is a wonderful boyfriend and insanely romantic. Yeah, we are spending V-day together but we're not doing anything cliche or traditional for our date. We're just going to be together, being us...

This isn't a funk. This is a perspective on a holiday that involves the commercialization of love. The cost of flowers around V-day skyrockets! It's ridiculous.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

That's cool, and I agree that it's definitely over-commercialized, I also have no idea what romantic things Austin does for you so I won't say anything further lol just sounded like you hate the day altogether almost (understand your distaste for the industrialized portion, but the day itself isn't something to be despised).

 

[Verve]

That's cool, and I agree that it's definitely over-commercialized, I also have no idea what romantic things Austin does for you so I won't say anything further lol just sounded like you hate the day altogether almost (understand your distaste for the industrialized portion, but the day itself isn't something to be despised).

I just don't get why it's really a holiday...

There's no reason for it aside from stimulating the economy.

 

[K9_Trainer]

I'm in the same boat. I don't know what the bf has planned though. He doesn't have to do a thing, every day is like a valentines day with him. But being the person he is, he may go out of his way to make the day beyond usual.