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Love At First Sight
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PurpleBunny
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I believe in Infatuation at first sight... and I think that it's possible for that to become love in a relatively short period of time if a couple gets to know one another quickly and well. However, it's also possible to fall in love with an illusion... what you THINK the person is, not who they really are.tas25 said:
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Lust at first sight, Love at first conversation.
So, in a sense I believe in love at first sight, just not sight alone. I think you can fall for someone the first time you meet, just not by looking at them, but by talking to them.
Does that make sense?
So, in a sense I believe in love at first sight, just not sight alone. I think you can fall for someone the first time you meet, just not by looking at them, but by talking to them.
Does that make sense?
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InTheFlame
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I think that any 'love at first sight', 'lust at first sight' or 'love at first conversation' needs to be followed up with a LOT of rational, emotions-barred thinking about the wisdom of the relationship. Looking at how the two of you interact, is it healthy or unhealthy... are problems discussed and dealt with or swept under the carpet? When each of you are informed that your behaviour has caused harm to someone, what's your reaction? Are you realistic about the other's faults and qualities? Do you KNOW all their faults and qualities? etc... etc... Rational thinking isn't popular in this if-it-feels-good-do-it world, but it's REALLY IMPORTANT. As is honest, God-seeking prayer.
OK, rant over
OK, rant over
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I agree, I believe love is a choice as well.....The reason I ask that is I met a man and have just become ill over him.....It wasn't quite sight it was more 3 conversations and a lot of time 2-gether.....I have never been so smitten about someone....
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InTheFlame
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Hehe... just be sure to ask God for perspective and wisdom, and try to guard your heart... don't just give it all away because the feelings are so strong.tas25 said:
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Well, I personally think the term should be lust at first sight. Because alot of times that is the case. You are so attracted to a person because of what you see. I am not saying that is not possible for there to be true love at first sight but I would think that it is very rare.
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Glorianna
I'm a proud Canadian who married an American!
Blue Impulse said:Short to the point question, I like it
caution, is the first word that comes to mind.
Knowing the difference between "lust" and "love" is another.
Hearing God's words over all the feelings in your heart and mind is important.
Do I believe in Love at first sight? I think that I do to some extent, and in rare cases. I believe for the most part (and know for a fact, first hand) that love at first sight is both deceiving and dangerous at some times. Many things take on the "appearance" of love at first sight, but are not actually love at all.
In *some* instances.. I think love at first sight is nothing but an evil in the back of the mind overcoming the goodness of God's word. Its a temptation waiting to consume your life.
At the end of the day, I believe love takes more than one glance. I definately believe love can exist over small periods of time (for me and my husband it was a matter of months), but at first sight? rare. Very rare. You need more time than one glance of the eye and mind
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I seem to always be finding myself agreeing with Blue Impulse!
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wow differing opinions, hey that's what makes the world go round..When I say sick I am over exagerating....I am typically very blase' about any man...But with him its just wow.....We have been joined at the hip and no it's not lust at first sight....Believe me...I am so attracted to his mind and who he is.....the good and the bad.....
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I think it exists, but whether it lasts is another thing. When it lasts, it means something.
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goat37
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i don't think that it exists per se...
What I think can happen is that you see someone, develop an immediate infatuation... and then work your hardest to try to make them 'yours'... and it just so happens that they end up liking you too... then somewhere during the process, it can turn into love.
But for me... there has never been a single person that I saw for the first time that would make me want to jump in front of a bullet for them and die because I love them. (with the exception of a baby sibling just being born, but that's different from what we are talking about i think)
What I think can happen is that you see someone, develop an immediate infatuation... and then work your hardest to try to make them 'yours'... and it just so happens that they end up liking you too... then somewhere during the process, it can turn into love.
But for me... there has never been a single person that I saw for the first time that would make me want to jump in front of a bullet for them and die because I love them. (with the exception of a baby sibling just being born, but that's different from what we are talking about i think)
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invisiblebabe
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Intrigue at first sight? Most definitely. Admiration, even? Yep, that can happen too. Can these states eventually grow into love? Yep, and that'd make you think, "Ya know, I knew it all along, from the first time I saw that person..." but that's only true in retrospect.
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I have a hard time believeing in Love at First Sight/Love at First Conversation because of 1 Corinthians 13:4-13:
"4 Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; 5 it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; 10 but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. 13 So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. "
i cannot believe that in one conversation we feel all of this, and that we feel we have found our soulmate. i hope it is not like that. that would take the joy of getting to know someone that we use our free-will choice to want in our lives and that would take away the joy of falling in love, the joy being, the times we are frustrated, struggle, and happy and sad in searching someone out. i mean there is a point to where we are getting to know someone. so just because i meet someone that i can have great conversation with, that doesn't mean i want to spend the rest of my life with them.
so i guess i believe that we can meet someone and make a desicion to search them out, but it isn't love. "love never ends", so my opinion is, love isn't being shared till the two are married under the blessing of God. i think we go through stages of falling in love with someone and thus giving us a right to tell that person we love them if the couple wants to do that, but the only time i will ever KNOW that someone loves me, is when i'm standing in a church and we are getting married under the blessing of God. because through faith in God's forever blessing, the hope that she wants to make it work for a lifetime, and the love we feel and have for each other, it will last out.
as for love at first sight/first conversation, i guess i cannot see it plausible at all. now if people feel they've experienced it, then i will not judge it. that is between them and God, and i have no place judging them based on my own beliefs and convictions. i just may be skeptical. or i guess, i could honestly say, i don't like the idea of meeting someone and just being in love. that takes the joy and the fun out of it. i believe love is a long journey ahead, not reaching to a point to where, "we just know we love someone" and experience things of that. i'd rather go on a journey with a girl for a long time of just falling in love with her, and never feeling like i've come to a point of conclusion in my love for her, because then, that would mean that would go against the scripture, "Love never ends."
or maybe i'm skeptical of it, because i'm tired of Cupid's stupid little tricks, haha.
so until God proves me otherwhise, i'll be this way
"4 Love is patient and kind; love is not jealous or boastful; 5 it is not arrogant or rude. Love does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends; as for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For our knowledge is imperfect and our prophecy is imperfect; 10 but when the perfect comes, the imperfect will pass away. 11 When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became a man, I gave up childish ways. 12 For now we see in a mirror dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall understand fully, even as I have been fully understood. 13 So faith, hope, love abide, these three; but the greatest of these is love. "
i cannot believe that in one conversation we feel all of this, and that we feel we have found our soulmate. i hope it is not like that. that would take the joy of getting to know someone that we use our free-will choice to want in our lives and that would take away the joy of falling in love, the joy being, the times we are frustrated, struggle, and happy and sad in searching someone out. i mean there is a point to where we are getting to know someone. so just because i meet someone that i can have great conversation with, that doesn't mean i want to spend the rest of my life with them.
so i guess i believe that we can meet someone and make a desicion to search them out, but it isn't love. "love never ends", so my opinion is, love isn't being shared till the two are married under the blessing of God. i think we go through stages of falling in love with someone and thus giving us a right to tell that person we love them if the couple wants to do that, but the only time i will ever KNOW that someone loves me, is when i'm standing in a church and we are getting married under the blessing of God. because through faith in God's forever blessing, the hope that she wants to make it work for a lifetime, and the love we feel and have for each other, it will last out.
as for love at first sight/first conversation, i guess i cannot see it plausible at all. now if people feel they've experienced it, then i will not judge it. that is between them and God, and i have no place judging them based on my own beliefs and convictions. i just may be skeptical. or i guess, i could honestly say, i don't like the idea of meeting someone and just being in love. that takes the joy and the fun out of it. i believe love is a long journey ahead, not reaching to a point to where, "we just know we love someone" and experience things of that. i'd rather go on a journey with a girl for a long time of just falling in love with her, and never feeling like i've come to a point of conclusion in my love for her, because then, that would mean that would go against the scripture, "Love never ends."
or maybe i'm skeptical of it, because i'm tired of Cupid's stupid little tricks, haha.
so until God proves me otherwhise, i'll be this way
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the only part i can say i am confused about is, the reason why we chose on person over someone else to start seeking them out. that one i sm puzzled on. but i'm learning as life goes.
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Maeyken
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That is a tough one! I guess one thing would be that certain personalities are more attracted to others... I also believe that while there are multiple people we could be compatible with, we are not compatible with everyone in the world (although "With God, all things are possible" so perhaps I am limiting myself by thinking this). There is also the aspect of physical attraction that sometimes is the factor whether we want it to be or not.tattedsaint said:
The same goes for friendship... why are we attracted to certain people to be friends with (male and female). Often, I think it is because we see in the other person something we admire, or something we wish we had (in terms of personality, not material things) So perhaps it is the same with romantic interests.
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i once saw this girl... and without even talking to her i become extremely obessed with her, i became physically sick in a way, i lost my ability to sleep much... my body would not digest food... etc, man i was messed up over her....i was so emotionally out of balance it messed my bodies chemistry.
and i have never had a full conversation with her to this day....
and to get to the point, thats not love, and it never was, becuase i never even KNEW HER for who she really was... i built my own image of her in my dreams and emotions and fantasies, and wanted that so much, but i never even knew her... you cant truely love someone you dont truely know.
becuase if you dont even know them... how can you say you love them?
love is appreciation, respect, friendship, care, devotion, acceptance... and if dont know them personally... you dont have anything to be devoted to, care for, accept, appreciate...
you dont even know what it is your supposedly in love with.
it was infatuation... you learn about these things in health ed class... the diffrence between love and infatuation...
now this lady means nothing more to me than any other lady walking down the street. i grew out of it.... it did not stand the test of time.
i do not believe LOVE is something that can just fall on a person out of the blue, many things can and it can certainly be a pleasurable extremely emotional experience... but it isnt tried and true real love.
true love, is something that has to be grown and nurtured and cared for, between two people.
the glue of true love are experiences, intamicy, time, fellowship, things you have to go through as people over time...
i dont believe it can happen in a moment, becuase if you were to be asked "why do you love her or him?" what could you say?
shes hot? hes soooooo..........so what? you dont know anything about them...
there is now one girl that i think i love....
and when she hurts me i want to cry..... not because im so emotional, but i care so much... but becuase its her thats doing it, i wouldnt give a flip if someone else did it to me.
but she means more to me, becuase weve through so much together and now i dont want to go on without her... no one else besides my parents and my friend of the same sex "matt"... knows me like she does, accepts me like she does, loves me inspite of me like she does... those are things you begin to appreciate and dont ever want to lose... so you love them like its a verb.
love is security and safety in a relationship... and you dont have that at first sight.
you cant love someone you dont even have a relationship with... no i dont believe in love at first sight.
you can be caught in a trance and become very attracted... nothing wrong with that... but it isnt love yet, that takes time, and going through things with them, and growing together as two people into more like one person, and not ever wanting to leave each other anymore.
and i have never had a full conversation with her to this day....
and to get to the point, thats not love, and it never was, becuase i never even KNEW HER for who she really was... i built my own image of her in my dreams and emotions and fantasies, and wanted that so much, but i never even knew her... you cant truely love someone you dont truely know.
becuase if you dont even know them... how can you say you love them?
love is appreciation, respect, friendship, care, devotion, acceptance... and if dont know them personally... you dont have anything to be devoted to, care for, accept, appreciate...
you dont even know what it is your supposedly in love with.
it was infatuation... you learn about these things in health ed class... the diffrence between love and infatuation...
now this lady means nothing more to me than any other lady walking down the street. i grew out of it.... it did not stand the test of time.
i do not believe LOVE is something that can just fall on a person out of the blue, many things can and it can certainly be a pleasurable extremely emotional experience... but it isnt tried and true real love.
true love, is something that has to be grown and nurtured and cared for, between two people.
the glue of true love are experiences, intamicy, time, fellowship, things you have to go through as people over time...
i dont believe it can happen in a moment, becuase if you were to be asked "why do you love her or him?" what could you say?
shes hot? hes soooooo..........so what? you dont know anything about them...
there is now one girl that i think i love....
and when she hurts me i want to cry..... not because im so emotional, but i care so much... but becuase its her thats doing it, i wouldnt give a flip if someone else did it to me.
but she means more to me, becuase weve through so much together and now i dont want to go on without her... no one else besides my parents and my friend of the same sex "matt"... knows me like she does, accepts me like she does, loves me inspite of me like she does... those are things you begin to appreciate and dont ever want to lose... so you love them like its a verb.
love is security and safety in a relationship... and you dont have that at first sight.
you cant love someone you dont even have a relationship with... no i dont believe in love at first sight.
you can be caught in a trance and become very attracted... nothing wrong with that... but it isnt love yet, that takes time, and going through things with them, and growing together as two people into more like one person, and not ever wanting to leave each other anymore.
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