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Love and lust

machazure

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First of all: .me and my girlfriend have been dating for over 11 months. We love each other very much and have always prayed for God's will in our relationship with each other. We both feel as though we are destined for marriage and that is what God wants for us.

At times, we have been tempted physically with each other and messed up (no sex of any form though). About the last month or so, we have been fighting a lot more...little stuff, no arguments over important stuff. Also, the last couple weeks we had been constantly crossing our boundaries with each other. So, I began to pray fervently about whether she was my future wife was God's will. I just didn't understand why we were fighting so much lately. So, I asked God to somehow show me if she wasn't the 'one' no matter what the answer was. On Wednesday, we messed up again and I broke up with her. Basically, I thought that us messing up that day was God's sign to me that she wasn't the one. About two hours later (crying the whole time), after talking with my parents, praying and reading some stuff...I realized I had made a HUGE mistake. I called her and we decided to stay together. I realized the fights were coming from us being unpure and was the devil's way to help break us up and cause strife between us. ALSO, it was exam week and I hadn't been very sensitive to that fact. (She gets pretty stessed out about school...because she is taking 17 hours)

SO...the lesson learned is trust what God has shown you through the bible and other people before you make a decision thinking you have just recieved a sign.

The break up caused a lot of hurt. Her mother is mad at me and thinks that I was playing with her heart. But, through all of that our love for each other remained and we have both realized how important it is to remain pure to keep a healthy relationship.

Now...how to make amends with the mother....???????
 

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I am sorry to hear that you guys were going through a rough time, but just remember that everyone experiences that. Now, about her mother. Really there is not anything you can do, just give it time. I know that my mother would still be leary if that happened to me. But just remeber you are dating her daughter, not her. Just give it time, if you are showing that you love her daughter and care for her then she will eventually come around. Don't try too hard, and in time she will come around. :)
 
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eatenbylocusts

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If her mom knew the reasoning behind it was because you were trying to respect her daughter she might feel very differently about it. That info might be better coming from your gf though.

I think your post is an important lesson though. We can take all kinds of things as "signs" from God. What we need to do is stay true to the word of God and see where that leads us. You should also have peace with a relationship.

As far as your desire for each other-that is not from Satan. In order to have a healthy marriage that component is very important. If you're having thoughts that cause you to go astray, then pray and try to redirect your thoughts. Set your boundaries and pray for each other's strength.
 
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machazure

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Oh, I know our desire for each other is not from Satan. Sexual desire is a God given thing that is wonderful when carried out in the right situation. Our situation is not the right situation to express our desire for each other. I was just saying our sin opened a door for satan to attack our relationship by making us argue and fight over such silly stuff.
 
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wow. that story sounds EXACTLY like what my boyfriend and I went through-except we didn't break up-almost did though. weird. anyway, if it is God's will for you to be together and you are following God's will then you better bet that Satan will be there to try and mess up God's plan. Just make sure you remember that and keep seeking God!
 
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Leanna

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It is very normal to get tempted that way. Do you guys ever talk about the future, do you have a goal to get married at some point? Long term dating is the worst temptation wise, but its far worse when the couple doesn't even have a goal to get married someday but just to date eternally... :doh:
 
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