lost parent

[Volokh]

found out 13yo child is cutting.
they told me today
they do not want to talk though
have not told spouce they will not handle well at all
also spouce pusshes childs buttons not helping
what to do?
lost dad.

 

[NoddaProbBob]

Coming from someone who has struggled with self injury, I have to tell you how hard it must have been for your child to come to you. That was something I always wanted to do. I struggled with self injury for almost 5 years before my parents found out. They found out on their own and even though their reactions were less than positive, I still wish the circumstances would have been different so that I could have told them.
My advice to you is be proud that they told you. It is beyond hard to confess to something like that. Try to be as understanding as you possibly can. And even more importantly, get your child help. There is a reason why they are engaging in self injury and it is imperative that you find out why.