Lost My Father

[Ruth~]

My father died suddenly on June 9. I feel lost and alone. I want to call him and talk to him still. I guess I am going through the stages of grief. It's overwhelming at times but I think that he was living a good life up until the end. He didn't know he had anything wrong with him as he didn't go to a doctor for about 3 or 4 years. We don't know exactly what took him but it was most likely a stroke or heart attack or natural death.

The wake and funeral were comforting. Many people came to pay their last respects. Most of us in the family are in shock because we never saw this coming... who wants to? I know my dad is in heaven looking down on us now.

I have been busy cleaning up the house and sorting through stuff which is not so easy. I'm taking care of his garden.

I can't say any more right now...I'm at a loss over a loss.

 

[meh]

Dearest Ruth..I lost my father on June 9, 2003. It was also sudden and unexpected. I think tending your dad's garden is lovely. I'm not sure I can say much of anything that would be comforting or help right now. But I'm here if you ever need a friendly ear and I am so terribly sorry for your loss.

 

[Ruth~]

Thank you Meh. I'm sorry you last your father, too. I finally had somewhat of a good cry today. I think I need to have more of those to heal.

The tomatoes in his garden have suddenly taken off and are over 2 feet tall now. I've been tieing them to the stakes and watering them a bit every day.

It's so strange that he's gone. One minute I'm in disbelief, the next I am sad and the next I am just thinking of him, everything about him. I think of him constantly.

Thank you, again. Your words were comforting.

 

[Ruth~]

This is a very hard time I am going through. I need support and prayers. I go to my dad's every day to clean practically. I miss him a lot.

 

[Observer]

I prayed for you and randomly looked in the bible... the first thing I noticed is that it said those who mourn are lifted to safety

 

[Ruth~]

Thank you Observer. Bless you!

 

[shazabella]

Ruth,

I just wanted to let you know I'm praying for you in this extremely difficult time

- Shaz

 

[Ruth~]

Thank you Shaz, I appreciate your prayers very much. I am hanging in there.

 

[cyberfugue]

I'm so sorry about your father, Ruth. I lost my mother earlier this year, and it is terribly painful. Like something is ripped out of you - and I know for my father, it is more difficult than for me.

You are in my prayers - peace and blessings in Christ to you always.

 

[Ruth~]

Thank you Cyberfugue, for the condolences. I'm sorry you lost your mother. I know how hard that is. I lost my mom, too, going on 3 years ago. Losing parents really hurts.