Lost and Depressed

[MrErn]

This place is full of good help so I thought id post again. My brother is 21 and im 24. Today my brother left for the U.S. Marines. Growing up as kids my brother and I didnt get along to well and were always fighting. We beat each other up daily when we were younger. We never got along, but one day that changed. Ever sence my brother hit Highschool when he was 16 we have gotten really close. I mean REALLY close. He is my best bud of all time! We tell each other everything, hang out and do all kinds of stuff together. He comes over and eats dinner with me and helps me around the house. He was even gonna move in which I was just excited about it! Then he decided he was going to join the Marines one day out of the blue. I was happy for him and yet sad at the same time. I didnt worry about it at all. I just hung out with him and was around more than usual sence he was leaving and wasnt going to see him for a while.

Well he left today around 2:30 in the afternoon and I'll tell you, watching him leave and saying goodbye was like being ran over by an 18 wheeler. I dont think ive ever felt this much pain or at least this kind. I feel so lost and upset. 5 Minutes doesnt go by without me thinking about him or getting upset and crying. I just feel like I have lost my bestfriend. Its so quiet around here and I dont like it. He comes back for 10 days in about 15 weeks but still hes going to go right back to California to live. I always thought wed live at least in the same town. Im not sure how im going to take this. I know he just left but I feel like if I dont get any better in the coming weeks or months im selling my house and packing up and moving to California. I cant sleep, eat or even enjoy some of the simplest things I usually do. Im going to miss having him for dinner or just coming over to watch a movie and hanging out.

Any help out there? Hes my brother and I feel like ive just been cut in half and my other half is missing. This is horrible! :-(

 

[womanofvalor]

(((McErn)))
Grief comes in all shapes and sizes, I have found out in the last year I've been grieving over my 23 year old daughter.
Grieving the changes in life that takes a loved one away from us, even if it's a move away is very hard. I understand your sadness.
Will your brother just be stationed in Calif. If so, then he might not be there long and you'd be stuck there with him moving to another place. The reason I'm asking is that my stepson has been in the army 15 years and he has been in several locations-Kentucky,Texas, Korea, and Iraq two times. So I know the military moves the men quite a bit.
It sounds as if your brother was your best friend, which is so great! Just because he's moving away doesn't mean that friendship will end. You know "blood is thicker than water" as the old saying goes. So your brother will always come back to be with you when he can.
Maybe there's a church group near you that you could get involved with to meet new friends-just while he's away. That might help to fill the void. Just an idea.
I feel your great pain in your post. Please post again and let us know what you decide to do.
We care and we're here for you.
Big hugs to you today and I wish you peace!!!

 

[Petunia]

It's hard the first few days, but it'll get a bit easier. He's still your brother, and still your best friend.

 

[Lost]

It's hard the first few days, but it'll get a bit easier. He's still your brother, and still your best friend.

Very well put!

Wish we could make you feel better........only have prayer and hugs to give.



(I have to leave my grown children in a week......it's very hard to be apart from family/loved ones.)

Prayer helps!

 

[Lost]

Oh, and he's missing you too!

Advice: Write, write, and write some more!!

Tell him what you are up to......ask him questions.

 

[Lost]

Still praying for you.

How are you doing?