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I am forgiven 44
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I am going through a rough time. I recently was saved and everything is going fine other than I m still trying to figure out weather to return with my ex of 11 years or continue on the relationship that I am currently in with a new woman for 5 months. Its been hard because I am 95% of the damage to my ex. I cheated once physically with someone else and she gave me a second chance and we went for help with some counseling and it worked but as time went on I noticed a change again, and then I met someone but we were just friends no intimacy just I knew I liked her and she liked me. But as time went on I notice that my ex started to change for the better and I was very happy. Well then about 2 months later my world came tumbling down and she found a picture of the girl that I was talking to you back then and that set her off. Well I left the house and realized that I needed to change and found god and was saved. In the process I met a woman who like me was also saved. So know my ex is saved, the new girl is saved and so am I. I am so stuck but I have to make a decision because I dont know what to do. I love my ex dearly but also have fallen in love with this new woman. I am asking for some insight on anyone who can help and thank you for the time to reply.

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Joy71

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You can certainly be forgiven by God for your past adultery but what makes you think your former spouse is open to taking you back? Has it occurred to you that this may not be your decision to make? She has every right to remain apart from you if she so chooses.

I realize I sound harsh but I also think you have no business being a new relationship if you are still thinking about your ex-wife. You are still doing the same thing you did in your marriage, entertaining two relationships at once and committing yourself wholly to neither. Does your current lady friend know you are considering dumping her to reconcile with your ex-wife?

I guess what is galling me here is that it sounds like all you are thinking of is what is right, best, will bring the most pleasure and satisfaction to and for you. What about the two ladies involved here? Any thought to their feelings or what is best for them?

Sounds like some time with out any romantic interest and some serious prayer and study and spiritual counseling is in order IMHO.

Joy
 
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