losing motivation

[Aredhel]

lately ive falllen out of my attempts to stop and im just cutting every day. now ive lost all motivation and i just dont care about anything. I just need motivation to stop. please help.

 

[oneandlonely]

s I've felt that way so much.

You need to stop for yourself. Thats the only way you will be able to.

Do you want to stop? if so why? what are your reasons?

those are the questions I asked myself to find motivation.

s

 

[texannurse]

Praying for you! TN

 

[mamalonglegs]

Aredhel: You haven't quite lost ALL motivation. You posted in here asking for help. That's good. You must have some hope somewhere or you would not have posted. Just because you have been "at it" everyday doesn't mean you can't stop. Try this. It will not be easy at first but you might find it to be helpful. Honey, you need to begin by believing in yourself. But you don't know who YOU IS. Try to make a list of 15 things that describe you. Start with two words, "I AM" then write something about yourself. Like my list has I AM a patient person. I AM a willing learner. Stuff like that. Give yourself a clearer picture of what you are trying to save so you might want to STOP! mamalonglegs

 

[Soulwings]

Make a list of why you want to stop. I think that's the thing that would help the most. I've fallen out of motivation for recovering from my ED and that's a suggestion one of my close friends has given me. For me ... the reasons why I wanted to recover from SI, are as follows (and perhaps these will give you an idea/remind you why you want to stop as well):

-I want to be "normal".
-I want to be unafraid of wearing shortsleeves in public.
-I don't want to lie anymore.
-I don't want to have to hide everything all the time.
-I want to be able to plan things other than the next time I can cut.
-I want to be able to say with pride that I am a recovered cutter.
-I want God and life to occupy my mind, rather than cutting, death, and destruction. (Sorry, that is a bit trite and poetic but it's true, I think.)
-I want to have a future.
-I want to be mentally stable.
-I want to be able to be unashamed of telling people that I used to cut, and that's why my arms are covered in scars, not in healing cuts and scabs.
-I want to be able to love and serve God & my husband (when that time arrives) with all that I have, instead of just the little portion of me that's remaining after all the energy I spend on planning when to cut, where to cut, what to use, how to hide it/them, and what to tell people if they ask.

That's just a start. You can use any of those, keep adding to the list ... whatever. And then post the list somewhere where you will see it often and can add things to it.

Praying for you, sweetie. And know that my PM box is always open if you need someone to talk with. Always. Don't hesitate if you need.

 

[Aredhel]

thank you so much guys.....i appreciate teh support and im totally going to try the list things.

 

[brea]

lately ive falllen out of my attempts to stop and im just cutting every day. now ive lost all motivation and i just dont care about anything. I just need motivation to stop. please help.

I don't think that cutting is probably your main problem. For some people I know it can be- those who struggle with OCD or those for whom it's become a real addiction. However, for most of us, I think that cutting is more the symptom than the disease.

Maybe you lack motivation because there is something in your life(emotions, thoughts, etc) that you would not be able to distract yourself from if you did not cut. The key, then, is to figure out what painful thing it is that you are trying to numb yourself against, punish yourself for, or distract yourself from by cutting(which isn't easy, as so many of us have so sucessfully distracted and numbed for such a long time, it can be hard to access the original problem).

I try not to give cutting 'power'. I don't focus on it. If it happens, it happens. It's like "don't think about the word 'dog'"....all you think about is 'dog'. If you try to "not cut...don't think about cutting", your mind naturally goes there.

Replacement works better than just trying to forget. Is there another coping mechanism you can think of that works for you, even if it's not as effective as cutting? Try that. But most of all, try to assess and get help for what it is that makes you want to cut in the first place(*way* easier said than done though, eh? )

PM me if you ever need to talk