Lose it or Never have it?

[Morallyangelic]

Question:

Would you rather know TRUE love and lose it or never have it at all?

Give reason for answer for either scenerio.

 

[Lynden1000]

Question:

Would you rather know TRUE love and lose it or never have it at all?

Give reason for answer for either scenerio.

Hmmm.tough question. Personally I think I'd rather not have it and never know what I'm missing than to have it, lose it, and experience a grief so severe that it's known to drive people to suicide.

But that's just me.

 

[Boomygrrl]

I'd rather know love and lose it. Just experiencing it for even a short time would be worth it to me. We grow from our experiences, and although it would be sad to lose it, it would be sadder to never know.
I can say that I have truly been in love once and it devastated me for years after the break up. I am a stronger person now because of it. Even though I haven't found anything like it since, I know it's out there. I know that even though I "fell down" once, I can get back up again. I learned a lot about myself from that relationship.


Boomygrrl

 

[EverlastingMan]

I do not care to know true love if it is not going to serve any purpose.

 

[Abbadon]

Being able to remember not having love, and then loving and losing, I can fairly say that both suck big time, and that it's just better to have love. Neither prospect is any worse than the other, since they're plenty terrible enough.

Or, if it there is a difference, it's like Hitler and Stalin.

I do not care to know true love if it is not going to serve any purpose.

True love is a gift from God, dude. Point of it is so we know how God feels about us.

(At least from a Christian, nay, theistic perspective folks, I'm not here to argue).

 

[Eudaimonist]

Would you rather know TRUE love and lose it or never have it at all?

I'm not sure what you mean by "TRUE love", but I'll suppose you mean someone highly compatible with me that I've fallen deeply in love with and that I have a good relationship with.

Yes, I would rather know such love and lose it than never to have had it at all.

Why?

Because I think that life is not defined by losses or absenses. The negatives in life don't count for much. (Even when negatives lead to personal growth, it is the growth that matters!)

Life is about positives. They are what matter. How can the pain of loss really matter to having the good fortune to have had an amazingly positive experience?

There is no good in overemphasizing the negatives in life. If one acts on fear of failure more than one cherishes one's positive values, one will live life in fear, accomplishing very little.

In order to succeed, one must risk failure. Sometimes one must fail again and again and again until finally... one succeeds.

Failure is the fertilizer of success.

It is important to develop a heroic attitude towards life so that one may face fears and risk failure. I'm not saying this is easy! It is perhaps one of the most difficult things one can do in life -- it can be a long and difficult spiritual path to follow. I personally haven't always done as well as I would have liked. However, to the extent that I have followed this path, it has been worth it!

 

[Morallyangelic]

Personally I think I would rather not know at all.

What you don't know can't hurt you ... Right?

 

[Eudaimonist]

What you don't know can't hurt you ... Right?

What you never experience can't help you, either.

 

[Morallyangelic]

When do you require help? When your in need of something.

I can't be in need of something I don't even know exsists.

 

[Harlan Norris]

Question:

Would you rather know TRUE love and lose it or never have it at all?

Give reason for answer for either scenerio.

Whats the quote?I'd rather have loved and lost that never to have loved at all.I can't imagine going through life and never truley loving.If one loves and loses they will not die.If they are strong they will love again.

 

[PKJ]

I can't be in need of something I don't even know exsists.

Of course you can. You don't always consciously express the need for it, but you can still need it.

Example: Peter needs a cure for aids.

 

[meebs]

id rather have true love and keep it

yes, if i could have it - at least id know (if there is such thing? - heh - im not going to tell lets just say im sad at the mo ) then one day i may experince it again.

hopefully one day i can love somebody and they feel the same way.

 

[Boomygrrl]

live life to the fullest. take a chance.

boomygrrl

 

[FreezBee]

live life to the fullest. take a chance.

Yes, I agree with that! Those who try to spare themselves from lost love by not loving at all, are the true loosers - imho!

Whats the quote?I'd rather have loved and lost that never to have loved at all.I can't imagine going through life and never truley loving.If one loves and loses they will not die.If they are strong they will love again.

Well said

As for the quote, it's a slight paraphrase of Alfred lord Tennyson. It's from In Memorium XXVII:

I envy not in any moods
The captive void of noble rage,
The linnet born within the cage,
That never knew the summer woods;

I envy not the beast that takes
His license in the field of time,
Unfetter'd by the sense of crime,
To whom a conscience never wakes;

Nor, what may count itself as blest,
The heart that never plighted troth
But stagnates in the weeds of sloth;
Nor any want-begotten rest.

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'T is better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.


Just so you know it


- FreezBee

 

[Adela]

I would rather lose it than never have it at all. I know if something happened to my husband now I would be completely lost and devastated for the rest of my life, but I also can't imagine never knowing him. I have had the best memories and experiences of my life with him.

 

[savvy]

I'd rather lose it than never have it, just b/c I'm an experience junkie.

 

[Ryal Kane]

Rather love and lose.

Had a girlfriend once and don't regret it now.

That said I can never ask girls out. It's an outdated sexist system I tells ya.

 

[Morallyangelic]

Of course you can. You don't always consciously express the need for it, but you can still need it.

Example: Peter needs a cure for aids.

I may never know what the meaning of ' true love ' is if I never have it.
The love that I experience may be great and I don't really know what I'm missing. On the other hand if I experience ' true love ' in life and lose it then I know what I'm missing and I fear that I will never be able to obtain it again.

Then there is the point that some may say it can't be considered true love if you lose it unless of course there is some sort of death involved.

 

[Fuzzy Fungi]

I would rather experience it and lose it.

You live this life once and then you die. Does the inevitable death at the end make it so that it would have been better to not have lived at all? I don't think so. Love, and any other great experience for that matter, is no different.

 

[xAtheistx]

Question:

Would you rather know TRUE love and lose it or never have it at all?

Give reason for answer for either scenerio.

Never have it. That whole saying about "better to have loved and lost" is BS... I'm fine as I am, thanks. I'd rather have a smooth ride than a bumpy one; I can do without the ups-and-downs of a relationship.

Besides, I don't like people. I'd rather marry a dolphin.