Hi, everyone. This is my 1st post and I hope it won't be my last. My life is pretty bad right now. I guess you could call me a loser. I don't have any friends, no girlfriend (the way things are going; I'll probably never be married). I have a crappy job that pays very little. I constantly think about suicide. I can't stop thinking about this woman I work with, no matter how hard I try. Not sure if it's love. I believe in God, but I never take the time to pick up a Bible. Sometimes I think maybe I don't believe as much as I should. What really hurts is when I start thinking that God hates me. My life seems to be on pause and everyone else seems to be living their's. I've decided finally put everything in my life aside and devote myself to God. Maybe he can take this pain away.
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Lord, help me....
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hi cass - you have seen your limitations, God will fill you with confidence, answers, love etc.
You need to receive his Spirit, then you will begin a daily 2-way relationship with God !!
Keep that as 1st priority & you will be a WINNER in a world of losers!
You need to receive his Spirit, then you will begin a daily 2-way relationship with God !!
Keep that as 1st priority & you will be a WINNER in a world of losers!
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Man, God does not hate you! What He does is freely forgive those who are Christians, who have accepted Jesus into their lives. With the forgiveness (which BTW is forgiveness of all of your sins, forever) comes all of His LOVE! That love is worth more than all the gold and gems and anything else you can think of in the whole world! No exaggeration.
I've been with Jesus now for 50 years. A lot of that time has been hard. How so? Because that's how we learn best! One of the reasons there are so many unhappy Christians in our countries (in America, Canada, and my country of Australia) is that life is so easy compared to the rest of the world. We think we have it hard. No we don't!
My life-hardships have brought me to a place of love and peace and joyfulness, and contentment and rest and personal freedom that nothing in the Universe could ever possibly persuade me to give up!
And Jesus living in me, in my life is Who makes this all so wonderfully true. This is available to you right now and to anyone who chooses this way!
How may we help you with your situation? You're going to go God's way you say. Perhaps we could guide you with some of this, if you'd like to post again.
Blessings, casshern!
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Hello Cass,
Thank you for coming to CF for help.
Jesus tells us in his Word that if we truly seek him we will find him.
I will be uplifting you in my prayers.
God is Good and all who truly come to him he will by no means turn away.
Have a blessed day and keep looking up
HE IS THE RESURRECTION AND THE LIFE.
ineedUtoLOVEMe
Thank you for coming to CF for help.
Jesus tells us in his Word that if we truly seek him we will find him.
I will be uplifting you in my prayers.
God is Good and all who truly come to him he will by no means turn away.
Have a blessed day and keep looking up
HE IS THE RESURRECTION AND THE LIFE.
ineedUtoLOVEMe
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Casshern ~
Welcome to Christian Forums. It's good to have you here.
God loves you.
He loves you so much....
that He provided a way for you not to spend eternity in Hell.
He sent His Son.
Jesus.
When Jesus died on the cross that day..
He did it with you in mind.
Your sin.
My sin.
Now, that's real love.
Now, that's a guaranteed love relationship.
You can count on it.
Nothing on earth can compare to it.
Been there.
Done that.
Got lots of t-shirts.
God's Love is real.
Welcome to Christian Forums. It's good to have you here.
God loves you.
He loves you so much....
that He provided a way for you not to spend eternity in Hell.
He sent His Son.
Jesus.
When Jesus died on the cross that day..
He did it with you in mind.
Your sin.
My sin.
Now, that's real love.
Now, that's a guaranteed love relationship.
You can count on it.
Nothing on earth can compare to it.
Been there.
Done that.
Got lots of t-shirts.
God's Love is real.
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Dear casshern,
I believe that when you are in your position where you see just how much you need Jesus, that is when He will hear your cry and send deliverance (as He did for the Israelites in Egypt). We must remember that it is through your weakness that His power will be made complete.
The only cure for "ME-itus" is God. Looking at your life circumstances, e.g. your singleness, crappy job, etc, is only building up the "Poor me, whoe to me, poor me" attitude and you'll notice that the only place where that leads is deep depression. Take your eyes off yourself and look forward to God ... to what He has already done for you and then by faith, what He will do for you.
For example, remember that you are that important and valued to God that He gave up His only Son to take the weight of the world, the weight of your sins, for you. Even if you were the only person who had sinned, He still would have done it for you. That is how great God's love of you is and just how cool He thinks you are. In fact, the Bible tells us that God smiles upon you when He looks at you. These facts alone prove that whenever you think God loves you, just remember these things and rebuke Satan and his lies in the Name of the Lord, "I'm not going to believe your lies Satan because God loves me more than I can ever understand (Ephesians 3:18)" and when you think that God has left you, remember that God will always be with you (Matthew 28:20) and other verses like that.
Another way to cure Me-itus is to go and do something good for someone else, for example, simple things like holding the door open for people, giving up your seat on the bus and stand for someone else, etc.
Just go out at night and look at the stars and just stand in awe of who God is. This puts the focus on God really quickly. Playing Christian music like Hillsong United also place the focus on God. The same God with the power to create the heavens in their vast array is the same God who has the same power to mend your broken life.
About being single, I believe that the Lord has something picked out for you and will guide you to her in His time. My grandfather was almost 30 when he got married. I'm currently single at the moment too, and can be hard feeling like you're all alone, but that's when I remember that God is there with me and I just talk to Him.
May God revolutionize your life as you follow in His ways and precepts as laid out in the Bible. I will keep you constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
I believe that when you are in your position where you see just how much you need Jesus, that is when He will hear your cry and send deliverance (as He did for the Israelites in Egypt). We must remember that it is through your weakness that His power will be made complete.
The only cure for "ME-itus" is God. Looking at your life circumstances, e.g. your singleness, crappy job, etc, is only building up the "Poor me, whoe to me, poor me" attitude and you'll notice that the only place where that leads is deep depression. Take your eyes off yourself and look forward to God ... to what He has already done for you and then by faith, what He will do for you.
For example, remember that you are that important and valued to God that He gave up His only Son to take the weight of the world, the weight of your sins, for you. Even if you were the only person who had sinned, He still would have done it for you. That is how great God's love of you is and just how cool He thinks you are. In fact, the Bible tells us that God smiles upon you when He looks at you. These facts alone prove that whenever you think God loves you, just remember these things and rebuke Satan and his lies in the Name of the Lord, "I'm not going to believe your lies Satan because God loves me more than I can ever understand (Ephesians 3:18)" and when you think that God has left you, remember that God will always be with you (Matthew 28:20) and other verses like that.
Another way to cure Me-itus is to go and do something good for someone else, for example, simple things like holding the door open for people, giving up your seat on the bus and stand for someone else, etc.
Just go out at night and look at the stars and just stand in awe of who God is. This puts the focus on God really quickly. Playing Christian music like Hillsong United also place the focus on God. The same God with the power to create the heavens in their vast array is the same God who has the same power to mend your broken life.
About being single, I believe that the Lord has something picked out for you and will guide you to her in His time. My grandfather was almost 30 when he got married. I'm currently single at the moment too, and can be hard feeling like you're all alone, but that's when I remember that God is there with me and I just talk to Him.
May God revolutionize your life as you follow in His ways and precepts as laid out in the Bible. I will keep you constantly in my thoughts and prayers.
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Hey Casshern,
First and foremost I would like to say congratulations on coming here. I think really, half of the struggle is surrounding yourself (or wanting to surround yourself) with like-minded people. Also know that no-one here will judge you.
To be honest I think everyone hits a stage in their life where it becomes sort of apparent to them, that they are not where they should be. For me it was when I was in the UK, and I desperately wanted a new job. I really disliked my job, and it was going nowhere. I basically sent out my CV to anyone and everyone I had even remote contact with in the last few years, telling them what I wanted and saying I have no issues relocating and so on.
After a few months my chance came, I moved to Germany, started work in a studio there and since then life has picked up. (I don't speak German btw). My point is, the only person stopping you making a change, is you. If you embrace God into your life, the Bible will begin to make many things clear to you and show you how to understand the reasons you feel a certain way, or act a certain way. I really mean this in the most practical application of it.
It's not just full of symbolic stories, it has true practical situations and reasons for doing things. I have two suggestions for you to think about at the moment.
1) Decide what you want out of life. Isolate something you enjoy doing as a career, or are interested in, and begin to pursue it. If you want a girlfriend, ask your coworker out. etc. I think something very important in life, is finding out who you are. The person you are, is that person who you are comfortable being, both around close friends, and in public. Often these two are very different people, which results in many hardships in relationship and marriages when you can't keep that appearance up, and the other people realise you aren't who they thought. So seek God, but don't ignore yourself. In fact you may well find that by seeking God you will find yourself anyway, as you become the person God wants you to be.
2) Go to church. The reasons for this are many. First God's Word convincts, meaning the more you hear of Him and His work through Jesus for us, the better and stronger a person you will become, both in faith and in life. Secondly you can meet new people there, that will be a good positive influence for you. Thirdly you may meet a girl there you like, a Christian girl with the right morals and positive outlook on life to be a good friend, influence and companion to you.
I suppose a great deal of this won't make much sense now, but maybe a word or two has.
God bless,
Digit
First and foremost I would like to say congratulations on coming here. I think really, half of the struggle is surrounding yourself (or wanting to surround yourself) with like-minded people. Also know that no-one here will judge you.
To be honest I think everyone hits a stage in their life where it becomes sort of apparent to them, that they are not where they should be. For me it was when I was in the UK, and I desperately wanted a new job. I really disliked my job, and it was going nowhere. I basically sent out my CV to anyone and everyone I had even remote contact with in the last few years, telling them what I wanted and saying I have no issues relocating and so on.
After a few months my chance came, I moved to Germany, started work in a studio there and since then life has picked up. (I don't speak German btw). My point is, the only person stopping you making a change, is you. If you embrace God into your life, the Bible will begin to make many things clear to you and show you how to understand the reasons you feel a certain way, or act a certain way. I really mean this in the most practical application of it.
It's not just full of symbolic stories, it has true practical situations and reasons for doing things. I have two suggestions for you to think about at the moment.
1) Decide what you want out of life. Isolate something you enjoy doing as a career, or are interested in, and begin to pursue it. If you want a girlfriend, ask your coworker out. etc. I think something very important in life, is finding out who you are. The person you are, is that person who you are comfortable being, both around close friends, and in public. Often these two are very different people, which results in many hardships in relationship and marriages when you can't keep that appearance up, and the other people realise you aren't who they thought. So seek God, but don't ignore yourself. In fact you may well find that by seeking God you will find yourself anyway, as you become the person God wants you to be.
2) Go to church. The reasons for this are many. First God's Word convincts, meaning the more you hear of Him and His work through Jesus for us, the better and stronger a person you will become, both in faith and in life. Secondly you can meet new people there, that will be a good positive influence for you. Thirdly you may meet a girl there you like, a Christian girl with the right morals and positive outlook on life to be a good friend, influence and companion to you.
I suppose a great deal of this won't make much sense now, but maybe a word or two has.
God bless,
Digit
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I know how hard it is to grasp the assurance that God loves us... it doesn't always make sense, and we tend to resist acceptance we're not convinced is honest. Some verses to back up the statements that God loves you--
http://www.studylight.org/desk/?query=jer+32:40&sr=1&t=nivI will make an everlasting covenant with them: I will never stop doing good to them, and I will inspire them to fear me, so that they will never turn away from me.
I will rejoice in doing them good and will assuredly plant them in this land with all my heart and soul.
Jeremiah 32
I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.
John 17:21-23
It's a step of faith to choose to believe these. If God is the one who said them, then you don't need to be afraid that He didn't really mean it. The same One who said it thousands of years ago is the same One that cares about your life now.
http://www.studylight.org/desk/?query=jer+32:40&sr=1&t=nivI will make an everlasting covenant with them: I will never stop doing good to them, and I will inspire them to fear me, so that they will never turn away from me.
I will rejoice in doing them good and will assuredly plant them in this land with all my heart and soul.
Jeremiah 32
I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.
John 17:21-23
It's a step of faith to choose to believe these. If God is the one who said them, then you don't need to be afraid that He didn't really mean it. The same One who said it thousands of years ago is the same One that cares about your life now.
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Welcome aboard the USS Jesus!
Both are in the same boat my friend, well sorta. Bible is great source of wisdom and ways of God and Jesus. As Glenn Beck put it, it's driving manual to life. I highly suggest you pick up a Life application bible using New living translation. Very simplified and modern version of the bible with ministure sermans to give you some context and better understanding of the text.
I started my journey seek God because I was so sick of my empty life. Crappy job and so hard make friends or keep a relationship. Got all of life's distractions(my internet, PC, TV) out of the way and just kept reading. It's worth it imo thou.
One truth my friend, bible and study in God is beginning of a long journey and in many cases start of spiritual maturity. Answers you seek won't fall into your lap, going to take time and understanding to get there. Keep faith in Father does exist and keep hope that he will show you the way.
Also there are many tools out there to help you along. Obvious one is to attend church and hear pasters passionately express the wisdom of the bible. You can walk into any church and just listen in on sermans as well ask tough questions. DO NOT FEEL FORCED TO BELIEVE, but be sincere in wanting to learn. Glenn shared with me great quote
"For if there is a God, he have open hearted questioning rather than blindfolded fear." Ask the tough questions and don't feel obligated to just be part of the crowd. This will help fortify your faith.
Just put icying on the cake;
Matthew 7:7
"Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you."
Proverbs 19:8
"To acquire wisdom is to love oneself; people who cherish understanding will prosper."
PM or ask any questions you got, try my best to help.
Take care!
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Be Positive and start saying to yourself that God loves you and he wants you, God doesnt hate anyone, he has equal love for each and every person.
Today I have many problems around me, I am at School and still dont know where the money is going to come from, but you know I trust in God, I believe that he will not put me in trouble but at the right time he will provide for me...it needs faith and being positive and just having faith is all that you need
Today I have many problems around me, I am at School and still dont know where the money is going to come from, but you know I trust in God, I believe that he will not put me in trouble but at the right time he will provide for me...it needs faith and being positive and just having faith is all that you need
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Great post. May He guide and keep you close to Him!
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John 13:34 A new commandment I give to you, That you love one another;
as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
as I have loved you, that you also love one another.
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I do believe Tthat God is calling you to be his child. There are many struggles in this life. I rely on God to see me thru. When going thru rough times I read Psalms 121. Please ask Christ into your life with sincerity of heart, Telling God your sorry for your sin and that you know that Jesus is his son who died on the cross for your sin,and Ask Christ to come in. Hey, we all sinned and fallen short and disappointed God. Romans 3:23 Peter denied knowing Jesus and was forgiven. David had an affir and was forgiven, etc. God is so merciful and patient with us. God sent his son to take away the penalty of sinning and it is a free gift...Romans 6:23
This is how the lord protected me..within the last 10 years I've been thru 2 homes being destroyed by fire. The last time the Lorrd woke me up in the middle of the night . ?I screamed fire. and as the last person jumped out there was an explosion. We lost everything but our lives. God does protects! And God likesn it when we pray and tell him of our worries, and concerm. I will be praying for you.
This is how the lord protected me..within the last 10 years I've been thru 2 homes being destroyed by fire. The last time the Lorrd woke me up in the middle of the night . ?I screamed fire. and as the last person jumped out there was an explosion. We lost everything but our lives. God does protects! And God likesn it when we pray and tell him of our worries, and concerm. I will be praying for you.
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Stay in there Cass, you might be feeling that life is hopeless and that things can't improve, but it can. It just takes time to find the right path for yourself.
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Excellent advice, Rep, and well said! Patience and hope are very important in all of our lives!
Blessings!
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Well done! Admitting your need is a big step, and essential to letting God take charge.
He doesn't hate you!!! He loves you. He loves you enough to die for you. And He can take away your pain - all you need to do is ask!
John 6:35
Then Jesus declared, "I am the bread of life. He who comes to me will never go hungry, and he who believes in me will never be thirsty.
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Hey, welcome to CF.
You just have to pray and think positive. NEVER negative.
Be happy with the life you have now, talk to family, friends, and us, and keep PRAYING! With all your heart and innersoul!
You just have to pray and think positive. NEVER negative.
Be happy with the life you have now, talk to family, friends, and us, and keep PRAYING! With all your heart and innersoul!
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childofGod31
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Casshern,
My husband was in the same situation as you. (For him it lasted 13 years). But eventually, his life started to change for the better. He got one friend, then a good counselor, then another friend. Finally he met me. In 1 year we got married. And he is happy now. Don't lose hope. He is a Christian now. (He was agnostic before).
And I think your decision to put God first and to seek Him was the best. I hope you find your joy soon, but don't be dissapointed if it doesn't happen right away. (Remember, it took 10 years before God's promise of a child to Abraham came true.)
My husband was in the same situation as you. (For him it lasted 13 years). But eventually, his life started to change for the better. He got one friend, then a good counselor, then another friend. Finally he met me. In 1 year we got married. And he is happy now. Don't lose hope. He is a Christian now. (He was agnostic before).
And I think your decision to put God first and to seek Him was the best. I hope you find your joy soon, but don't be dissapointed if it doesn't happen right away. (Remember, it took 10 years before God's promise of a child to Abraham came true.)
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Hi all. Thank you all for your support. My life has turned around last sunday when I accepted Jesus Christ as my savior. I want to thank you all for your prayers.
I HAVE FOUND GOD AND HE IS GLORIOUS.
I HAVE FOUND GOD AND HE IS GLORIOUS.
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