Looks or Personality

[STRAUB306]

Which is the most important to you? Both? Be honest with yourself. I know many would say personality, but what's really in your heart? Is it okay to ask God for a good-looking person that also has good qualities? Won't appearance change over time?

 

[kevlite2020]

mmm I like my girls to have a sexy looksonality!

 

[BRISH]

Which is the most important to you? Both? Be honest with yourself. I know many would say personality, but what's really in your heart? Is it okay to ask God for a good-looking person that also has good qualities? Won't appearance change over time?

Personality wins hands down. I fall for the person they are (or who I think they are but that's another topic.). That's where my attraction lies.

That's truth truth with me.

 

[Gwendolyn]

Personality. A guy could look like an underwear model and I wouldn't be the least bit interested unless he was kind and compassionate, etc.

 

[BRISH]

Personality. A guy could look like an underwear model and I wouldn't be the least bit interested unless he was kind and compassionate, etc.

exactly




Also, it's a deeper attraction that no one can change my mind about when it happens. It's long lasting and the relationship is soo much better when you can love every aspect of someone. Both sides benefit.

 

[Thunder Peel]

Personality is definitely what I look for first. Of course, it's perfectly possible to have both in a mate and there's nothing wrong with wanting both. I just find that when the inside is beautiful it makes the outside and everything else infinitely more beautiful.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Personality is definitely what I look for first. Of course, it's perfectly possible to have both in a mate and there's nothing wrong with wanting both. I just find that when the inside is beautiful it makes the outside and everything else infinitely more beautiful.

I think it's still pretty awesome that I read everything you write in Fry's voice...

Also, I go for both. Looks are what attract me initially, but personality is what keeps me puddy in her hands ; though, I had no idea what my current crush looked liked before I started fallin' for her. She just became that much more awesome when I found out she was so adorably cute.

 

[Niels]

Both are important to me, but I place more value on personality. A woman can do a lot with her looks. Clothes, makeup, hair, fitness etc. These things can be changed, and I'll still get along with her when I don't find her choices aesthetically pleasing. Personality, on the other hand, is more constant and pervasive. If our personalities clash, then being around each other for extended periods of time will be unpleasant. It's fairly easy to find women who look pretty, but it's harder to find a woman whose personality clicks with mine. I'd rather be alone than have a girlfriend who is little more than arm candy. If we can't engage pleasant and meaningful conversation, then pursuing a relationship with her would be a waste of time. Not that I'm interested in dating women who look unattractive to me. Beauty and a good personality are desirable traits in their own way. It's just that personality is the more elusive and vital of the two.

 

[Amber.ly]

I'm mercenary. I go for their bank account.





(I'm incapable of having a serious answer to this question anymore)

 

[Somber]

I'm mostly attracted to personality...and I'm not so picky about looks ( as long as that person is honest and a hard worker and looks close to my age). I think that the heart matters the most.

 

[Lord Of The Forest]

It's difficult to say. I would write a pithy statement such as, Looks cause me to notice a person, their personality causes my glance to either linger longer, or immediately dart away, but it is often a quiet personality which causes me to pause and investigate the person further.

Arguably both would be nice in a future mate.

 

[Saucy]

I am one who thinks that a person's personality makes them look more attractive to me. There have been many times when I wasn't necessarily attracted to someone, but once I got to know them, I fell for them because they were beautiful to me.

 

[Stravinsk]

Which is the most important to you? Both? Be honest with yourself. I know many would say personality, but what's really in your heart? Is it okay to ask God for a good-looking person that also has good qualities? Won't appearance change over time?

Ultimately - personality and all that involves (values, beliefs etc) is what makes her a "keeper" - but unfortunately - and being honest here - if I don't find her attractive then I usually don't get that far.

The reason I can still say personality is because no matter how physically attractive to me she is - if she has an ugly personality it ruins that physical attractiveness to me and I cease to be interested.

 

[BRISH]

I'm mercenary. I go for their bank account.

That'll work too.

No, I take that back. I'm tired of men wanting me for my money. It's hurtful. Do unto others...

 

[Im_A]

Which is the most important to you? Both? Be honest with yourself. I know many would say personality, but what's really in your heart? Is it okay to ask God for a good-looking person that also has good qualities? Won't appearance change over time?

The mind breaks down too...just slower than the body. What are you all going to do when your mate goes senile and ugly?

Sometimes people show sides that you or even they themselves didn't know existed. So really...no matter how one thinks about it, no matter the fantasies they have in their heads of love and their perfect mate...it will always be a gamble in the end.

For me it has to be both. Without good looks, personality doesn't mean anything because a romantic life by definition assumes romantic physical affection and I won't have sex with someone I think is ugly. However looks only do so much. I don't want to just be around someone I can look at or have sex with. I see pretty girls everyday I go to the store, drive, and do my everyday life. I want a girl that has a personality that is workable with mine. A personality that I just can't get enough of.

I don't ask god for these things. I don't believe in god. I just try to find someone and when I do, I try my best and hopefully she tries her best and the outcome will always be left open and uncertain. I have learned...it is better that way...being uncertain about love and relationships.

 

[Sieben]

personality and a beautiful heart is more valuable than the way you look. i used to be more vain... but now i dont even care..

 

[Somber]

personality and a beautiful heart is more valuable than the way you look. i used to be more vain... but now i dont even care..

 

[twnsrkr]

mmm I like my girls to have a sexy looksonality!

Ditto

I'm not looking for a supermodel, I just want someone who's not hard on my eyes. I don't want to wake up, look toward the other side of the bed and think the zombie apocalypse has begun. On the other side, there no chance I'd knowingly marry Ms. Sexy Hot if she's contentious and drives me crazy.

I have become more attracted to someone's looks after I got to know them a little better though...

 

[SplendidTree]

Personality and love for Jesus, hands down.

 

[r035198x]

A good Christian personality and a cute soft bellybutton.