Looking up old flames

[catofhope]

Since we are more "mature" I suspect we have some old flames in our past.

Have you ever looked them up?
Either to talk to them directly?
Or just see if they are still single?

I have.
Actually one time it worked out pretty good because we dated again for awhile.

This last year I reconnected with the guy who liked me in college but he had married 10 years ago.
In college I was NOT on the same wave length as him - he was moving too fast.

Timing is everything.

 

[faithopelove]

Interesting question, I never have tried to contact an old flame. I can only think of one that I would be interested in talking to and he wasn't saved so it would just be to see how he's doing because we were very good friends in the past. And maybe to witness to him if he's not already saved.

 

[OhhJim]

I've tried to look up my ex-wife a few times, but can't find her. I did find a picture of her in a genealogy on the internet, and it was interesting to see how she'd changed. She looked good, I'm glad I found the picture.

An old gf called me after about 15 years, and we've remained good friends for the last several years. It's awesome having someone to talk to who understands my background, knows my friends and family, and knows how hot and studly I was, once. I keep trying to tell women my age this, but they just don't believe me....

 

[eatenbylocusts]

When I first got divorced there was someone in my mind that I had a crush on for a few years starting at about age 18. He was not saved then. I tried to look him up on the internet and it appeared that he never married, but I didn't go too far trying to contact him because I'm not a good missionary dater.

 

[Jenster]

Hi fwm!

I have been a *little* tempted to Google my last ex-bf because I'm curious to see if he's still living in the area. One of the supposed reasons for our break-up was that he wanted to move out of the area. However, he later got married and the last I'd heard, he was still here.

I'm curious how my other old flames are doing. I heard each guy got married, one of them to a non-Christian. I don't know if I would want to talk with them really, though. My feeling is, "What's the point?"

Good question!

 

[BeautyForAshes]

I was contacted by an ex that i dated in college, I didn't consider it weird since we were friends before we dated.

But I've never been contacted nor have I contacted an ex to see what they are up too. I figure, you're an "ex" for a reason so there is no need to try to spark a fire that shouldn't have been lit in the first place. LOL

 

[catofhope]

An old gf called me after about 15 years, and we've remained good friends for the last several years. It's awesome having someone to talk to who understands my background, knows my friends and family, and knows how hot and studly I was, once. I keep trying to tell women my age this, but they just don't believe me....

Actually it is nice if you can remain friends because they do know you and your background.
They can be a great source of encouragement and advice. Actually my best buds.

I realize some people break up and can not stand to ever speak again.
But for me it was always more about not the right timing.
So I have remained friends with ex's but sometimes due to life we lose track of each other.

 

[faithopelove]

What really would be nice for me would be to be able to find out how some of the people in my younger life are doing without having to actually talk to them. I know that sounds anti-social, but as someone said I really don't want to stir anything up for myself or anyone else.

 

[catofhope]

What really would be nice for me would be to be able to find out how some of the people in my younger life are doing without having to actually talk to them. I know that sounds anti-social, but as someone said I really don't want to stir anything up for myself or anyone else.

I'll PM you some suggestions.

 

[woman.at.the.well]

Since we are more "mature" I suspect we have some old flames in our past.

Have you ever looked them up?
Either to talk to them directly?
Or just see if they are still single?

I have.
Actually one time it worked out pretty good because we dated again for awhile.

This last year I reconnected with the guy who liked me in college but he had married 10 years ago.
In college I was NOT on the same wave length as him - he was moving too fast.

Timing is everything.

No, I have not looked up any of my ex's. They have looked me up however. And not to sound mean, but I'm glad they are ex's. They make good friends now and are a great reminder of where I was and how far God has taken me.

 

[Jenster]

Slightly OT, but I was with some old college friends this weekend and we were reminiscing about various classmates. Being empowered by Google, I decided to look up one guy who was a class behind us, but hung out with us. He had a very innocent sort of attitude, almost naive.

Well, guess what? Even HE's married now! And has a six-year-old kid! Oy! Is EVERYONE from my college class married by now? I should try not to let my curiousity get the better of me next time.

 

[catofhope]

Slightly OT, but I was with some old college friends this weekend and we were reminiscing about various classmates. Being empowered by Google, I decided to look up one guy who was a class behind us, but hung out with us. He had a very innocent sort of attitude, almost naive.

Well, guess what? Even HE's married now! And has a six-year-old kid! Oy! Is EVERYONE from my college class married by now? I should try not to let my curiousity get the better of me next time.

Jenster

 

[bvwsmaker]

I saw my old flame just last Saturday. She was here with her husband and their adopted baby boy.

We're still friends.