Looking for an answer..

[Tunesday]

I consider myself a very religious person, but I'm having a very difficult time in my life where I can no longer lie to myself while speaking out against what I am.

Well as a christian I believe everything in the bible fully, i feel if everyone were a christian the world would be a much better place (just so you know my stance on my religious beliefs).
Ever since I was a young teen i've been having.. lust.. for other men. It's very difficult to admit it, especially on the internet, but I have to say it in order to get help.

I've been very outspoken against homosexuality because it's very clear in the bible that homosexuality is not alright. However while doing this i've been quite a hypocrite as I regularly picture myself being with other guys.

I've tried fixing this by myself, i've attended church regularly and prayed that i'd be attracted to women, but no success. I've dated 6 women in my attempt to assure myself that I am straight, the relationships don't last very long though because I simply just don't think of women in that kind of way..

It feels like I have run out of ideas on how to fix this, which is why I have joined this forum. I ask if there is something I can do to change this. I know homosexuality is wrong, but everything I have tried wont get rid of these thoughts / wont make me attracted to women.

Please, I wouldn't be sharing this with anyone unless I was desperate.
It's getting to the point where I hate myself for ever thinking such things.
What can I do?

Please please please look beyond my thoughts and see who I really am, a devoted christian that just happens to be in a very serious and real dilemma.

Thanks in advance for any thoughts/ideas on how I can fix this.

 

[goldenviolet]

talking about it is a confession you probly needed. if you ever need a ear in private, please pop me a message. i'm dee. i'll probly loose track of this post, since i post so much.bless your heart. i'm sure at your age sexual stuff is pretty big. i have two grown sons, two daughter inlaws and two daughters of my own, so i'm abit exsperianced in the sex talk area. i've taken some interresting classes on sex too. through this all togerther and you have an old bat with no shy bones. lol. seriously, i'm glad you stepped out of the shadows and confessed. this is going to be the start of many blessings for you. xo dee

 

[Criada]

Brother, I am so sorry that you have to deal with this.
I am in the same position.. only it has been a lot longer!

I am sure that God can change our sexuality.. after all, He is omnipotent. But, as yet He hasn't changed me. Maybe He will, I don't know.
But, in the meantime, remember, it is not a sin to be tempted. It is not worse to have these desires for a man than for a woman who you are not married to.
The important thing is that you are resisting. God doesn't ask any more than that, and he loves you very, very much. When these thoughts come, try to take them to God.. tell Him that you don't want to dwell on them, and then distract yourself with something else.

And, please, don't go out with women until you have sorted this out... however long that may take. It isn't fair on them or you, and it can cause a huge amount of hurt.

Keep close to God, pray, read the bible, and let Him work as He wants to in your life... sexuality is a small part of who you are.
You are His precious son, and He has a plan for you.

I am praying for you, brother, please PM me if you want to talk.

 

[Tunesday]

I am in the same position.. only it has been a lot longer!

I am sure that God can change our sexuality.. after all, He is omnipotent. But, as yet He hasn't changed me. Maybe He will, I don't know.
But, in the meantime, remember, it is not a sin to be tempted. It is not worse to have these desires for a man than for a woman who you are not married to.

You're a very strong willed person to have held back your lust for so long.
I honestly don't think i'd be able to hold out that long, and right now it's looking like I have no hope of being attracted to women.

That's why I'm scared of what will happen if I continue having attractions for men.

And, please, don't go out with women until you have sorted this out... however long that may take. It isn't fair on them or you, and it can cause a huge amount of hurt.

I've pretty much realized this now, i agree it isn't fair to the women, and I guess it's obviously not working forcing myself to date them.. I wish it would work though.

 

[UnitynLove]

Having the feelings for homosexuality is not a sin but if you give into the temptation of homosexuality and commit the act that is a sin. Everyone is tempted but being tempted is not a sin, Jesus was tempted, it is when you give into the temptation then it becomes a sin. Accepting your sexuality without sinning is pleasing to God. God will never make you feel guilty over your particular sexual proclivity. Some people would, but God will not ever.

 

[dave712]

as its been said, temptaion itself is not sin.
It can be hard man but commit it to God. In Him we get the strength to fight and overcome.
Check out exodus, they r an outreach ministry to those struggling with sam sex attraction and there might be one near you. Find a Spirt filled person u can open u with it helps being able to talk about it and get prayer and confrimation.
Consider pro chrisitan counselling too.
Im a fellow struggler and want to encourage u fight the fight.
I now have accoutablity people i can share with whci is a help.
if u want to chat about it or get prayer , PM/email me if u want.

by the way, to all who read this my motives r pure and im extend that invitation as a brother in Christ who understands the battle plus there r guys i am accoutable to on a weekly basis.

 

[MyChainsAreGone]

I'm not personally familiar with what you're going through, but I have had friends who have struggled as you do.

Regardless of what our sin struggle is, though, we know that living by the truth is the way to freedom, for that is what Jesus told us in John 8:32.

Some friends and I have put together a website to help people to recognize and overcome the lies that drive pornography. It might have to do primarily with how our culture has come to view women's bodies, but the truths found there will apply to our view of men and women. I believe it might be of real help to you.

I welcome you to read through the articles. I would also welcome you sharing with me your thoughts on it and how it impacts you.

The site is MyChainsAreGone.org (the link is in my signature).

Thanks. And may the Lord bless you with truth and freedom.

Pastor Ed