Looking For A Mate

[Teresascott]

I am looking for a boyfriend. But how do I get one and what is the safest way? Will the Christian Singles chatline be a good place? What advice do you have for me on this? I want one so bad and I feel like i'v been waiting forever. So thanx to all ahead of time for replying

 

[wildthing]

Hi there, I don't know if I have all the answers for you but I will try to give you a few hints

1) in all things pray about this. God will always give you answer.
2) I don't about the sixw of your church but may i suggest that you try different activities, group mission trip, even if it's just down to a home for the aged, try working with a bunch of christian your own or close to your own age. Try going out on a group pinnic. and most of all go out. There is a lot of christian guys around. Each one might have quality that you like or dislike.
Perhaps have group project with other churches.
3) Pray, Gee I said that but more paryer is better.

I think you can develop some good friendship on line. But you really don't know if it's a real deal. you use this as example I tell you that I am Air Force Major. You have no way of knowing wheather it was true or not. The best friendship are the ones that you develop over time. For the lack of a better term You need "face time". Face time is defined as spending time with each other alone and in groups. This will show you what the person is really like... On line many times it could be fiction.

Oh by the way did I mention prayer.....

 

[Blank123]

first and foremost - don't worry about finding a mate.

Have you ever noticed that when you spend your time and energy looking for that certain someone your focus tends to get skewed somewhat. You're worried about yourself, and your needs, and if the guy you're with could he be the one for you etc... and God tends to get pushed further and further out of the picture.

Relax, if you're meant to be married then God will send the right person into your liufe at the right time.

Thats not to say that you should just sit at home waiting for the doorbell to ring and prince charming will be standing there. Get out into the world, find things to become involved in, like youth groups, ministries etc... see where God wants you at this point in your life, and just focus on making friends. The best relationships always come out of friendships, so don't take those relationships for granted.

 

[Teresascott]

Thanx for the advice, Yes i will be doing lot's of praying and maby try going church hopping untill I find the right guy and a church that i would like more for my youth group is too big so that very well could be the problem.

 

[BlackRain]

a good friend of mine stopped looking for a boyfriend about 2 years ago when she realized that she was thinking about and focusing on it more than the Lord. she got really serious about Christ and grew up in Him sooo much and it's just plain awesome! anyway, i say that to say that now she has a great guy and God has blessed her tremendously with him. they are so perfect together...it's the cutest thing!! i'm so happy for them. my point is, don't put all your focus on trying to find a guy. that's a waste of time. focus your energy on something productive. thinking about wanting a boyfriend will not make him come any sooner.

if you're church hopping to find a guy, i highly encourage you not to! going to church for a guy is, well...the wrong reason to go. you should go to grow in Christ and to be in fellowship with other christians. you might end up being very disappointed and might be setting yourself up for a huge let down.

 

[Tenorvoice]

You really need to put God first in your life right now. If you place Him first and surender your will to Him each and every day. He will provide for you.

You are still very young my dear. You have a long life a head of you (if the Lord tarries). Why worry yourself over such a thing as having a boyfreind?

I would seriously suggest that you find a good church home, where they Teach the Word of God from the pulpit, that they belive that the Bible is God Breathed (not contianing the word of God but IS the word of God.)

If you do that and start to serve Him with all your heart and with all your might, He will provide for you, when you least expect it.

God Bless

Tenor

 

[Sketcher]

The prediction for that kind of desperation is pain.

As they say, if you're lonely and unfulfilled when you're single, you'll be lonely and unfulfilled when you're married. After that honeymoon wears off, your problems are still there.

You're 18 with your whole life in front of you. Read some good Christian dating books (I like "Boundaries in Dating" so far) and find out the way you should date and what kind of person you need to be. That also means a lot of Bible time. Make yourself more beautiful this way and become secure with yourself. Then you won't be pressuring your future boyfriends to do something for you that they can't do.

 

[JPPT1974]

You need to trust in the Lord first and foremost.
Trust in His will and find what He wants you to do.
Know what His purpose in your life is!

 

[Carri20]

I met my boyfriend at www.fusion101.com -- AFTER I had prayed long and hard about it. You might want to give it a try. It couldn't hurt.

 

[winglovesall]

I am sure there are lots of ways you can find a boyfriend.

God has a special man for you -- trust in him is very important and just be patient about it.

But of course, you can have a few friends that are males -- not a problem at all and so, get to know them once you're friends and you just have to look inside, rather than look outside.