looking for a book

[flounder7786]

i am looking for a book for me and my boyfriend to do, like a devotional...primarily focused on building a relationship in God, and i really need some help, cause i have NO clue what to get...and we really need this, to help strengthin our relationship together...so if anyone could PLEASE tell me if they have a good book...that would be GREAT!!! THANK YOU!!!

 

[Eluzai]

I know a very good book that includes a study guide... but its more about our identity in Christ. Mainly about understanding who we are "children of God". I can't say it will build your relationship specifically, but it will help you both understand how amazing both of you are because of Jesus and that knowledge will definetly impact your life with each other.

Victory Over The Darkness by Neil Anderson (the new version has study notes).

It's a great book... sorry if its not what you're looking for.

 

[flounder7786]

no...that is awesome...thank you for the suggestion. i will definitely look into that book!!! THANKS!!!

 

[ischus]

most people enjoy the following:

"Boy Meets Girl" by Joshua Harris
"Passion and Purity" by Elisabeth Eliot
"His Needs Her Needs" by Willard Harley
"The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman

 

[flounder7786]

i've read boy meets girl...i didnt really like it very much...i dont know why, i just thought it was weird...i liked some of the points he made, but didnt like the book as a whole. but thanks for the rest of the list...i will check some of those books out...

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I wouldnt reccoment when boy meets girl. Its pretty out there. I guess it would depend on what kind of boundaries you have set for yourself. Like only breif side hugs

Check this thread out for more ideas:
http://www.christianforums.com/t906272-devotions.html

 

[ischus]

Yeah- boys meets girl is really not my style either...I am glad someone said that because I thought it was not my place. If you ask me, the five love languages beats any book on relationships that I have read. Boy-girl is ranked pretty low in my book. The other two I mentioned are fairly good--Eliot is more of a personal journal/testimony, but her story is amazing. His Needs Her Needs is more straight up, and it has some good ideas for more serious couples.

The main thing is that you will really only benefit if you are committed to one another in the process of reading and discussion.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I am reading the 5 love languages right now, and I agree that is a very very good book.
I think Boy Meets girl is a little extreme for me personally, but if thats what works for you, then it might be worth reading. Just some of his examples of what was considered "appropriate" for a courting relationship was a little extreme to me (Like only brief side hugs)

 

[ischus]

I actually never even finished Boy Meets Girl for that same reason...its like he is trying to brag about how awesome he is and that everyone else should be like him. I guess some of us have a different love language than he does.

 

[heavenliejediofthebeach]

I wouldnt reccoment when boy meets girl. Its pretty out there. I guess it would depend on what kind of boundaries you have set for yourself. Like only breif side hugs

Check this thread out for more ideas:
http://www.christianforums.com/t906272-devotions.html

I soooooooooooooooooooooooooo love that book. I read it before I got together with Kris. A friend here on CF recommended it to me and it helped alot. But I am not much for those side hugs and kisses until marriage bit. I have been blessed with a strong conscious, so its easy for me to avoid sex before marriage. But overall it has great perspective

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I actually never even finished Boy Meets Girl for that same reason...its like he is trying to brag about how awesome he is and that everyone else should be like him. I guess some of us have a different love language than he does.

Yeah, I never read it all either. My roomate is reading it, and I flipped through it and read a little bit, but I knew it wasnt for me. But that was exactly the feeling I got from reading it... that he was bragging about how awesome his relationship was, and we should do it exactly like they did.
It could be beneficial to some, it just wouldnt be for me:

 

[Eluzai]

I dont want to criticise, but maybe leave it to people who have read the book to say what its about. He doesn't brag and he acutally says that is the way he does it, but God may lead others in different directions.

It's a good book and by putting across and extreme perspective of "how Holy can we be?" rather than "how far can we push our boundries?" he really sheds light on Christian relationships.

Defininatly wouldn't recomend it as a devotional kind of thing... its not structured like that.

The opposite of Boy Meets Girl is probably Wild at Heart ... its more for men and its more about taking risks and really trying to LIVE, but good reading to god with Boy Meets girl.

To indulge in sin and let it control you is bad, but to do nothing for fear of sin is also to let is control you, so that is bad too. The middle ground is following God... I pray the both of you will find what God wants for your relationship

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I dont want to criticise, but maybe leave it to people who have read the book to say what its about. He doesn't brag and he acutally says that is the way he does it, but God may lead others in different directions.

It's a good book and by putting across and extreme perspective of "how Holy can we be?" rather than "how far can we push our boundries?" he really sheds light on Christian relationships.

Defininatly wouldn't recomend it as a devotional kind of thing... its not structured like that.

The opposite of Boy Meets Girl is probably Wild at Heart ... its more for men and its more about taking risks and really trying to LIVE, but good reading to god with Boy Meets girl.

To indulge in sin and let it control you is bad, but to do nothing for fear of sin is also to let is control you, so that is bad too. The middle ground is following God... I pray the both of you will find what God wants for your relationship

I wasnt criticisizing the book, I was simply stating that it wasnt for me, and it may not be for everyone.

My boyfriend and I didnt read the book, and we are not "pushing the boundaries" in our relationship. I think betweent he couple you can decide what is right for you and what isnt without a book. For some, they may need that type of strict guidelines to control their relationship, but I was speaking from my own personal point, and we are doing quite fine without it. Josh and I are very careful with our relationship, ot the point where we havent even kissed yet. And thats ok with both of us.

 

[LadyBird]

"Devotions for Dating Couples" is a great one!

 

[flounder7786]

thanks guys...this has been very helpful. have a super day!!!

 

[Eluzai]

Sorry SoTF
"I pray the both of you will find what God wants for your relationship " was more for flounder, I wasn't implying your relationship needed prayer or anything! It's a good book, but I wasn't meaning to say that people who don't read it are "boundry pushers" I was just saying it in general. Sorry if it came across wrong.