Look on the inside

[Stanfi]

I just feel like I should say this. Just remember when you meet someoe to look on the inside. I knew a girl who was very physically attractive, but her heart was self absorbed. After realizing this, she wasn't so attractive anymore.

An average looking person who has a heart that shows God's love to people, can suddenly be very attractive.

1Co 13:4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

1Co 13:5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

1Co 13:6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

1Co 13:7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

1Co 13:8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

 

[KeilCoppes]

Paraphrase and amplification:

If the inside looks like Godzilla on a bad hair day, be afraid, be very afraid!

-kc

 

[William Nunn]

Well put Keil!

 

[harmmony]

I agree that a person who is physically attractive, but without any substance or inner beauty quickly becomes unattractive. I prefer the type of attraction that grows on you because you may not have found that person physically atrractive at first but then their inner attractiveness starts showing itself to you on the outside as well and suddenly one day you think, wow that guy/girl is really quite nice looking. I think that this is the kind of attraction that is most likely to last for the long term.

 

[William Nunn]

And we all are going to get old and mushy at some point, looks won't matter so much.

 

[kel32]

"But the LORD said to Samuel: "Do not judge from his appearance or from his lofty stature, because I have rejected him. Not as man sees does God see, because man sees the appearance but the LORD looks into the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7

~peace~

 

[KeilCoppes]

As an interesting side note, the typical pattern with men and women is claimed to be

men: physical attraction -> emotional attraction -> spiritual attraction
women: emotional attraction -> physical attraction -> spiritual attraction

physical attraction: how they look
emotional attraction: how they act
spiritual attraction: who they are

(This is approximate, working from memory, and there's one stage I can't remember offhand, but one tends to grow into another per John Gray, Mars & Venus on a date.)​

I don't agree with everything the author says, but it has some definite echoes with what I've seen. It also explains why men usually notice the wrapper first, and women tend to notice confidence, etc, first, with less emphasis on the outside. Later the first attractions can grow into other attractions, and the later attractions can cause the first ones to occur and be sustained, even later in life.

Gray doesn't say this, but I would also say after you had been burned enough with the superficial, the other inner qualities would be looked for more, even though the outer ones still make some difference.

-kc

 

[RabidYeti]

If only the girls where I live didn't just go on looks

 

[desi]

Looks do matter, saying otherwise just deludes yourself.

 

[Buskanaka]

i agree, how someone looks is just as much a part of them as their personality

 

[Krystina661]

Looks do matter, saying otherwise just deludes yourself.