Longest gap without intercourse

[Bridget1]

What is the longest gap where you not had intercourse during your marriage.

A friend and her hubby both have a low libido despite being healthy. In their thirties and have not had intercourse for a year. They remain very close to each emotionally.

 

[Geoffc64]

Our longest break was about 3-4 months, but it was due to my wife's ill health (recovering from major surgery).

 

[Niffer]

2 months, (postpartum)

 

[JRSut1000]

80 days, postpartum because we had a girl

 

[Luther073082]

80 days, postpartum because we had a girl

?? Is the postpartum longer with a girl then it is with a boy or something?

 

[JRSut1000]

According to Leviticus, yes. 80 for a girl, 40 for a boy.

 

[Darkhorse]

Two months. My wife had clinical depression, and we didn't know it yet.

 

[Verve]

According to Leviticus, yes. 80 for a girl, 40 for a boy.

Wait...you have to stop having sex after you give birth after all the ickyness of being pregnant and having to go through with labor?

If that's true, I have just found myself with another reason to adopt.

And to the OP:
I have been married less than a month. I don't think my answer would be helpful.

Do they want to have intercourse? Maybe it's a stress or schedule thing? One whole year is a long time....

 

[Nienna_Lady_of_Tears]

Four months. I have a condition called autoimmune progesterone dermatitis and some months it just won't clear. Also it turns out I was allergic to him, as well as both latex and non-latex condoms.

*sigh*

And before we got married we had these ideas about twice a day. I give him once or twice a month and am in pain and rashing out for the rest of the month.

 

[Cute Tink]

We have had to go a couple weeks due to illness before, but other than that, not more than a few days at most.

 

[xDenax]

Wait...you have to stop having sex after you give birth after all the ickyness of being pregnant and having to go through with labor?

If that's true, I have just found myself with another reason to adopt.

There is no reason you have to do this just because someone else does it.

As for the OP, if the couple is fine without it then it's not a problem.

 

[dorig59]

Are you sure that your friend & her husband are close?

 

[dorig59]

Wait...you have to stop having sex after you give birth after all the ickyness of being pregnant and having to go through with labor?

If that's true, I have just found myself with another reason to adopt.

And to the OP:
I have been married less than a month. I don't think my answer would be helpful.

Do they want to have intercourse? Maybe it's a stress or schedule thing? One whole year is a long time....

You don't have to wait that long to have sex after giving birth. JRSut said that because she & her husband follow Old Testament law for whatever reason. My husband & I had 6 babies (all grown now!) I think the most we ever waited was 2 weeks or so. However, if you don't want to have kids for any reason, there's nothing wrong with that either. Just don't let this be your reason cuz that's not necessary.

 

[JRSut1000]

Dont forget that a womans body is still healing after giving a baby, know how traumatic that is? I was in pain for at least a month afterwards (but yes babies are totally worth it!). Even medically, its recommended to wait at least 6weeks postpartum so that a womans body is properly healed both externally (tearing or episiotomy) and internally (obviously the uterus and everything in there returning to normal).

 

[dorig59]

Yes, that's true JRSut. I maybe shouldn't have minimized it so much, but I just happened to have a very easy time, so it wasn't a problem for me. Usually 6 weeks is what docs recommend, but there can be other circumstances such as you mentioned. And please know I did not mean any disrespect to you either in my previous statement.

 

[JRSut1000]

No worries dorig Every woman/couple feels differently on the topic of postpartum for various reasons from physical to emotion to energetic or just plain drained or religious.

 

[LinkH]

Probably more than two months after a baby was born. A woman needs some time to heal up. After she'd healed up, she went through a time of and stress with our life situation and a relatively young baby that seemed like it lasted a month. Maybe it was a couple of weeks. Eventually, I had a talk with her that that wasn't acceptable and she realized it and we got out of that slump.

 

[JRSut1000]

You expected sex from your wife after just a couple weeks?? It is acceptable for a woman not to be able to have sex weeks after giving birth. Even God allows for that in the Bible.

 

[WolfGate]

Had a stretch of two months when she had temporary duty in Sweden and I was back here. Another roughly two months during a rough patch early in our marriage. And the 6 weeks or so after each kid.

 

[JRSut1000]

Oh wow, how could I forget that? I'm revising my answer - we actually went 6 months without sex because of DH's deployment.