Long distance

[California Dreamin']

Who here experienced a long distance relationship before marriage?
What was it like? Good/bad parts of it?

thanks.

 

[Sailor's Wife]

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[California Dreamin']

I have had long distance relationships before... but this guy is different and so special to me.

 

[desi]

Long distance is generally bad news.

 

[karla]

We had sort of a long distance realtionhip. In college, we wouldn't see eachother in the summer and if we did it was only once. Six month before we were married, he took a job that was on the other side of the state and I was finishing up student teaching so, we really didn't see eachother. At times it was stressful, but it is very important to have open and clear communication. If you love eachother and your realtionship is meant to be, then things will work out. It's just a hard thing for a relationship to go through and you really need to trust one another.

 

[Funkmd]

My wife and I dated for 4-6 months (it's a blur anymore) back when we first started dating. We would talk on the phone on mondays and wednesdays, and I would make the 2.5 hour drive out to see her every friday at 4pm during rush hour

She lived with her extended family in the country and attended the local university. They were gracious enough to house me every weekend and treated me like one of the family. Later on in the year she started making the trip home every now and then to lighten the load on me. Honestly I couldn't care either way. Personally, I liked driving out there to see her. It was like the daytona 500 and the winner gets to see his honey

If I couldn't have seen her every weekend things would not have worked. I just don't think we could have done it for much longer. We were very much in love. After chasing each other around in circles for 10 years and breaking each others hearts as best freinds in high school; we both finally saw each other the same way at the same time, and the angels sang let me tell you. She moved home and switched schools, and the rest is history.

Coincidentally, I think it's amusing that my father did the same thing every weekend when he and my mother first started dating.



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[California Dreamin']

My boyfriend lives across the country.. but he is coming to my province next month, it is an hour from where I live.
We really think that this is meant to be.

 

[Sailor's Wife]

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[SirKenin]

I've had a long distance relationship. It's working out awesome I have a car and drive out there to see her, or bring her down here to see me. I love her to pieces.

The biggest pitfall of long distance relationships? They're money pits. If you don't have financial resources, don't think about embarking on one. The strain on your budget will probably be enough to kill a young relationship all on it's own.

 

[DaveKerwin]

I lived an hour away when I was dating my wife. That was long for me since my friends lived real close, church & work were only 5 minutes away. So her being far was a challenge, but WELL worth it.

 

[Warrior Poet]

Long distance is generally bad news.

If you dont have a mutual understanding you are correct. There are different rules to this "game" so to speak. Complete honesty is a must even if it can be hurtful... I was honest about my stance on the long distance thing... it took the right girl and the right situation but I have spun a 180 for sure. I couldn't be happier with where I am at with her. The feeling, as I said, is mutual. IMO works right into my "theology" of relationships... I always place content first, this just solidies that. The best part, on content alone I have feelings that surprise even me sometimes. But hey, she is beautiful, smart, and challenges me, as well as keeps me in line at times, and has the most contagious laugh I have ever heard.... so I get the best of both worlds.
MUWHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH

Warrior Poet

 

[William Nunn]

My wife and I experienced the long-distance relationship. I was stationed in Korea while my wife went to college in Kentucky. It takes a lot of commitment, and a lot of strength, especially if you are put into situations where temptations arise to stray. But if you succeed, the feeling you experience when you are reunited is AMAZING.

 

[Serving4Christ]

I too had a long distance relationship. I met my wife in high school, and soon after joined the Air Force. One thing I wish I had truly done, was gotten to know her a bit more PERSONALLY, before marrying. It's hard to get to know someone apart from them I think. Love can be tainted by the distance apart from each other. I don't reccomend moving in together, but spending great amounts of quality time together will give you a good idea of who and what you are marrying. Lesson learned: You want this to be a life-long lasting relationship. Get to know your mate before you tie the knot. Just my thoughts and lessons learned.

 

[brokenbananas]

I had a long distance relationship with my husband for 1.5 yrs before marrying. He lived in San Francisco and me in Phoenix. It was tough. We took turns flying out monthly to see each other and talked on the phone daily. Good thing we were financially able to do the flying and the huge phone bills. Distance did make the heart grow fonder and it was terribly hard leaving each time.

Although we eventually married, now have 2 children, and have a great marriage, I would not really recommend a long distance relationship. It can be very costly financially and emotionally. It was really distracting for me for us to be so far apart.

 

[Godssongbird]

I Had a long distance relationship with a man from the uk, It was very hard we could hardly see each other . Most of the relationship Was through phone calls or on the internet. Even though i loved him it was too hard for me cause he was too far away . this lasted 1 yr only . We only got to see each other 2 mos out of the yr , the plane trip was very expensive . To me long distance relationship are too hard because two people need to talk, and have contact with one another

 

[looksgood]

I Had a long distance relationship with a man from the uk, It was very hard we could hardly see each other . Most of the relationship Was through phone calls or on the internet. Even though i loved him it was too hard for me cause he was too far away . this lasted 1 yr only . We only got to see each other 2 mos out of the yr , the plane trip was very expensive . To me long distance relationship are too hard because two people need to talk, and have contact with one another

There is only one thing I wonder about when I hear about this. Cause I am in a LDR right now and I expect it to work well. At least in the end anyway. I can only see her maybe 1 month out of the year, but I am able to talk with her every day. I asked her to promise me that no matter how hard it gets that she will not quit because of the pain from being apart. She has plans to move out here in about 2-3 years when the $ situation is taken care of. What is everyones thoughts? Or advice? I am NOT going to leave this just cause it hurts when I know in the end we could be together.