Lonely

[EtainSkirata]

Hey all. This year is the first year I've lived alone (almost a year now, anyway). I was fortunate to find a church that felt like a family away from home, but due to some theological differences creating an impasse (can't take communion without being a member, and I don't feel comfortable being a member and endorsing their doctrine), I've decided to try to find a different church. That, and people at work are starting to work from home, so I won't see my work friends as much either. I don't have a boyfriend, my family is over 1000 miles away, and it's extremely cold so it's hard to even get out of the apartment and go for a walk. I'm sort of in a "Yikes, this is about to get real" mode. Before I moved i lived with my parents, so I wasn't truly alone. But now I'm starting to feel pretty isolated.

 

[BobRyan]

Good news - this website "Christian Forums" has tons of areas for doctrinal discussions.. .check out "General Theology".

Also check out this sub forum area -- other Christians with prayer requests

Prayer Wall

There is also a "singles only" forum here --
Singles (Only*)

Here is a "looking for a church" forum
Looking for a Church

 

[Carl Emerson]

Hey, welcome to CF...

Be blessed and enjoy friendship and support here...

 

[Reluctant Theologian]

Hey all. This year is the first year I've lived alone (almost a year now, anyway). I was fortunate to find a church that felt like a family away from home, but due to some theological differences creating an impasse (can't take communion without being a member, and I don't feel comfortable being a member and endorsing their doctrine), I've decided to try to find a different church. That, and people at work are starting to work from home, so I won't see my work friends as much either. I don't have a boyfriend, my family is over 1000 miles away, and it's extremely cold so it's hard to even get out of the apartment and go for a walk. I'm sort of in a "Yikes, this is about to get real" mode. Before I moved i lived with my parents, so I wasn't truly alone. But now I'm starting to feel pretty isolated.

That's hard indeed; didn't you write novels as a hobby? Can we read some of it? Curious what kind of theological stuff you feel uncomfortable with - feel free to share At least communicating here can make a big difference.

 

[lastofall]

Hold fast the Word of the Lord Jesus Christ concerning being alone, and as He so also you, when He said: "Behold, the hour cometh, yea, is now come, that ye shall be scattered, every man to his own, and shall leave me alone: and yet I am not alone, because the Father is with me."

We are not alone in Christ Jesus

 

[Lost4words]

Welcome aboard.

You will never be alone with the love of God.

Plus, you have us here!

I understand your predicament. Its not easy at all. Be strong in prayer and love of God

God bless you

 

[bèlla]

You’ve been alone all along. Proximity delayed the truth. There’s a dearth of meaningful relationships. Living at home doesn’t mean you’re close. Work friends aren’t friends. And like family isn’t family.

Familiarity isn’t a bond. You need to cultivate connections that are mutually fulfilling where both are invested. Going on a computer and talking to people isn’t the answer. The majority are the same and haven’t solved the problem.

If you want rich relationships you have to invest in people who want to be part of your life (and you desire the same). This isn’t a substitute and it won’t fill the void.

You need to get out and do things. Strike up conversations. Explore something new. Do something fun. Every week. That’s how you build your circle and find likeminded companions.

Most people don’t go to church or work looking for friends. That’s an important distinction. Receptivity is a must. When you’re in an environment where people aren’t open to going beyond pleasantries its hard to build a bond. It’s situational. They’re not part of your life.

What I’m suggesting may be scary. But its real. You’ll have someone to talk to. Share a laugh. A bite or cup of coffee. You’ll do life together. That’s what friendship is… what you’re missing.

~bella