lonely

[joshua41]

I'm also really, really sad right now (for the last three days i've been depressed). I've been a only child my whole life and have always been very lonely-but I just can't deal with it anymore. I never had many close friends through highschool and it hurts me deeply that I rarely got invited places and never could form close bonds. I'm blessed in other ways but this hinders me so much.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Do you live with your parents?

 

[tammym1972]

You sound just like me when I was a teenager! I am an only child and on top of that I was homeschooled throughout highschool. I was very very shy growing up. I didn't have many friends. I think once you get older and on your own things will start getting better for you. Try doing things with your church youth group. My youth group was a great help to me.

 

[iceflower]

Dear Joshua41, don't worry! Keep focussed on your relationship with God - he will never leave nor forsake you! I've struggled with loneliness and talked to God about how lonely i felt. He showed me several things about the source of my loneliness.

One was that i was struggling over the issue of rejection in my life to the extent where i believed that if someone was accepting me there must be something wrong with them!

Ask God to help you walk in forgiveness - there may be someone you need to forgive in your past. There is more about forgiveness thats important too - please pm me if you have any questions.

God led me to a 'Love Languages' book by Gary Chapman for helping my relationship with my teenager and this has helped me recognise that people have 'love tanks' which get full in different ways. It may be that your 'love tank' is running on empty. God has really blessed me through this book because it has helped me focus on loving someone else.

Jesus taught that if we loved Him, we would obey Him:-

Luke 10:27 (KJV)And he answering said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy strength, and with all thy mind; and thy neighbour as thyself. So, first, focus on your relationship with God. Ask Him how you can love him. Secondly, ask Him how you can love others.

Andrew Wommack has many teachings available for free online, one of which is Ministering Unto God. I really recommend his teachings - i've found them excellent. His website is www.awmi.net and you can access tv programmes, radio broadcasts and MP3 downloads. They also have a prayer telephone number on this site for prayer support.

I think the Love Languages books may really help you with relating to others - perhaps you could pray about whether God would like you to get one of these books. I understand there is a book specifically aimed at singles.

Finally, i just ordered, but haven't had a chance to check this out yet, some teaching by David Jeremiah from Turning Point Ministries called Slaying the Giants. I think you'll find it available on the website www.turningpointonline.org. Here are the scriptures printed on a bookmark entitled Slaying the Giant of Loneliness:-

When my father and my mother forsake me,
then the Lord will take care of me. Psalm 27:10

The Lord is near to those who have a broken heart, and saves such as have a contrite spirit. Psalm 34.18

When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you. Isaiah 43.2.

The Lord your God in your midst, the Mighty One, will save; He will rejoice over you with gladness, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing. Zephaniah 3.17.

Lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age. Matthew 28.20.

For He himself has said, 'I will never leave you nor forsake you.' Hebrews 13.5b

I really hope this helps. Remember God really loves you and by all means pm me or post again if you have any further questions.

Hang on in there - persevere,
Love iceflower

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Know it all too well.

Lil'bro,

I won't lie to you, finding new friends doesn't happen over night.

You have to take risks and learn to sow n reap. Also you have to learn to be yourself and learn how to be content.

Click here about risk taking. http://www.coping.org/growth/risk.htm

Only a person who risks - is free.

Seeds/ sow and reapping
http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?book_id=47&chapter=13&version=51&context=chapter

James 3:18
18 And those who are peacemakers will plant seeds of peace and reap a harvest of righteousness.

Same concept but sow seeds of love into people you take a risk and meet with. Can reap the rewards later.

Proverbs 13:20
20 Walk with the wise and become wise;
associate with fools and get in trouble.

Like I said it will take time for doors to open. Learn to be patient and not give up.

Phillippians 4:6-8

6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. 8 And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.

Also I recommend that you volenteer for things you care about. Could be ministries in church, help a political party, an important cause, or associations with other hobbists that you share.

Some of us like myself are not skilled with people skills. Over time thru experience and exposure with other people. You can build them.

Also on nights whereit is just you, keep your hands busy. Or lean into your relationship with God. Or right down your thoughts, maybe can write a song about it. Just don't let the loniness consume you.