I had posted before saying I had a boyfriend and that I was trying to balance my schedule so that I could see friends and work my job while seeing boyfriend. But I broke it off with him for now because I feel in my heart that I need to get closer to God and spend more time finding time with friends. I just got a new job with better hours so that's good. I still don't have good friends that I see often. I get depressed easily now because I'm forced to reevaluate my life. I'm asking for prayer because this isn't easy. Not only do I miss this guy because I love him, but I feel lonely because I wish to have better relationships in my life when it comes to friends. And if you have any helpful advice that would be appreciated as well.. Thanks for reading..
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Lonely.. Please pray.
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Yea the divorce is another big reason why I broke it off. My ex husband committed adultery. Would that mean that I'm doomed to never marry again? Eh that should probably be another topic in itself.. Anywho here I am now..
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eatenbylocusts
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KGirl said:
No. That is a clear allowance for divorce. You do need to make sure that you have time to heal though.
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Here was the theory I came up with.. Obviously I plan to wait to be with someone, but anywho.. It seems to me that I was meant to marry my ex. However he didn't live for God, messing up that plan. But things don't always go according to plan. And I figured that things were anewed for this other guy (possibly, or maybe some other). I mean, Adam and Eve were "meant" to live in Eden and not sin, but that didn't happen. So shouldn't we start with what we have? Let me put it this way. Say someone loses their virginity.. They can pray and be spiritually pure again. I dunno I just don't see why I should be doomed to be committing adultery on someone who I'm not with anymore, and caused the bond to be broken. And who I'm NOT WITH. How are you bonded to someone when the bond is broken? Ok ok so in the Bible it says what you say about divorce in general, but it says that divorce isn't ok in general, making it so it doesn't break the bond. However divorce because of adultery does break the bond. See what I'm saying?
How would we be bonded to a contract that no longer exists?
How would we be bonded to a contract that no longer exists?
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KGirl, I too remember you from before you got married. 
Yeah but I had a different name then and mainly lurked. Then I remember the yucky posts in marriage ministry... and here we are.
I would suggest counseling-- sometimes its nice to have someone to talk to that you can trust and has no ulterior motives. Is there a pastor or counselor that you can see? Also I would suggest getting involved in a SOLID church where you can make girl friends.
Your emotions steer you a lot, and that's not something you want to happen for your whole life. It doesn't feel good. I know its easy to be emotional as women, but all in all you want to be stable-- knowing who YOU are, what you stand for, and with interests besides wanting a boyfriend and a husband.
Boyfriends and husbands.... they're okay. But without there being a real *you* its going to be difficult if not impossible to find someone who really loves you and a relationship strong enough to ride through storms as well as good times. Please find out who you are, what you stand for, and some things that interest you and will help define you as an interesting person.
Whether you cheated first, or he cheated first, or his mother's uncle's sister cheated first I do not care. What is past is past and I believe in forgiveness and new chances. This is your new chance. Wash your hands of your past and create a new future for yourself.
In John 4 there is a story of Jesus talking to a woman at the well. You will find that he does not condemn her for her past(5 husbands and living with a man she is not married to), but shows her a better way to live her life.
Best wishes...
Yeah but I had a different name then and mainly lurked. Then I remember the yucky posts in marriage ministry... and here we are. I would suggest counseling-- sometimes its nice to have someone to talk to that you can trust and has no ulterior motives. Is there a pastor or counselor that you can see? Also I would suggest getting involved in a SOLID church where you can make girl friends.
Your emotions steer you a lot, and that's not something you want to happen for your whole life. It doesn't feel good. I know its easy to be emotional as women, but all in all you want to be stable-- knowing who YOU are, what you stand for, and with interests besides wanting a boyfriend and a husband.
Boyfriends and husbands.... they're okay. But without there being a real *you* its going to be difficult if not impossible to find someone who really loves you and a relationship strong enough to ride through storms as well as good times. Please find out who you are, what you stand for, and some things that interest you and will help define you as an interesting person.
Whether you cheated first, or he cheated first, or his mother's uncle's sister cheated first I do not care. What is past is past and I believe in forgiveness and new chances. This is your new chance. Wash your hands of your past and create a new future for yourself.
In John 4 there is a story of Jesus talking to a woman at the well. You will find that he does not condemn her for her past(5 husbands and living with a man she is not married to), but shows her a better way to live her life.
Best wishes...
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