Loneliness....

[solidcore]

Okay, I'm sure it's been covered before but the truth is I am impatient to search and my system is REALLY slow, so here I am

I have been married and divorced. I have failed. I believe marriages can work, I don't believe it can work for me.

I don't have anything social going on at all. I just work and take care of my kids.
My church is quite small and so is my budget.

How-HOW-do I get some kind of social interaction???

 

[unkern]

There are 30's bible studies alot of them have childcare. Volunteering, which will also teach your children good morals and and will allow you to serve. Join a health club, they usually have day cares. What about your neighborhood? Im sure theres plenty of stuff within your own neighborhood, in fact take a look on yahoo groups or on facebook for stuff happening or groups in your neighborhood.

Now if its dating that your looking for it depends on the condition fo the divorce of course. Here are some scriptures for you:

Romans 7:2-3 "For example, by law a married woman is bound to her husband as long as he is alive, but if her husband dies, she is released from the law from the law of marriage. So then, if she marries another man while her husband is still alive, she is called an adulteress."



1 Corinthians 7:10 "To the married I give this command (not I, but the LORD): A wife must NOT separate from her husband. But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife."



Matthew 5:31-32 "it has been said 'anyone who divorces his wife must give her a certificate of divorce.' But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery."



Mark 10:5-12 "It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law, Jesus replied. But at the beginning of creation God 'made them male and female.' For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. When they were asked in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. He answered, Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery."

I hope this helps
God be with you

 

[t1ck]

Okay, I'm sure it's been covered before but the truth is I am impatient to search and my system is REALLY slow, so here I am

I have been married and divorced. I have failed. I believe marriages can work, I don't believe it can work for me.

I don't have anything social going on at all. I just work and take care of my kids.
My church is quite small and so is my budget.

How-HOW-do I get some kind of social interaction???

You know... the Bible says that marriage is the ultimate bond. Just IMO, I think feeling like marriage can't work for you is the enemy putting those thoughts into your head by making the outcome of events for things you can't control negative.

Seeking God is the key, stay focused on Him and remember that He only wants the best for us b/c He loves us. So.... knowing that... He wants you to be married to the the person who'll be your helpmate and can walk with you through the valleys.

Good luck with your feelings and the situation your in. I know that many ppl can find groups in church which can help find some new social opportunities. Also, I've found that meeting Christian friends at work can be a helpful thing as well.

 

[iamjcs]

Okay, I'm sure it's been covered before but the truth is I am impatient to search and my system is REALLY slow, so here I am

I have been married and divorced. I have failed. I believe marriages can work, I don't believe it can work for me.

I don't have anything social going on at all. I just work and take care of my kids.
My church is quite small and so is my budget.

How-HOW-do I get some kind of social interaction???

talk on phone to friends to/from work

meet with friend(s) at lunch
OR if not friends, look for others eating alone & ask to join them.

Try to make friends with the parents of your kids friends

Chat online a few minutes

pray for other ideas

 

[ruminateblessings]

You might want to connect with small groups in your church or take up a hobby where you would be in the company of other people with similar interest. There is a wonderful network called "Meet up" where people with like interest meet in the local community to share their common interests and have fun.

 

[GQ Chris]

Christian dating websites?

 

[kellyc]

going to a small church is just fine, but you can always visit other churches and maybe hook up with a bible study. bible studies are free!

 

[ulu]

Take a dance class(if you like dancing) or spend some time in a big bookstore like borders/barnes+noble. Practise making conversation with people who look interesting to you.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

Well, unfortunately I don't have any ideas cuz I'm in the same boat as you. I was BRIEFLY married but had no kids. I have pretty much been a failure in the game of life...especially the relationship segment. I work two jobs and still have no extra money. My church is very small and located 30+ miles from my house so it's hard to get together with people. My job schedule makes it hard for me to volunteer but I try when I get the chance for different things. I guess look at your interests and try to find groups where people have common interests. I hope and pray you live in an area more exciting than me in that regard. lol

Have a great weekend!

 

[ulu]

I have pretty much been a failure in the game of life..

I hope you don't really think that.

 

[RebeccatheGreat]

You're not alone,I'm in the same boat.I've thought of ways to meet people,many of the same ideas that have been mentioned here,my problem is I'm kinda shy with strangers.most every friend I've ever had has befriended me.
I haven't cared so much in the past because I was to busy raising my kids to miss other people,but now they are teenagers and busy with their own lives.
I work from home so......hmph.
I'm working on shyness a little bit,but still not really exposed to many new opportunities.
anyway,I feel ya.

 

[laurajane34]

hi Solidcore. I have been married and divorced. I have 2 children but am very lonely. Hope to hear from you. Unlike most people I have no parents or close family/friends. I think its only God that keeps me going. PM me if you like.
by the way do the other posters mean to try and get back with yr ex husband. Could have done that with mine but he quickly found someone else to marry!

 

[Patchouli]

I haven't found that finding a man in church is an option. Usually men my age are already taken and there are no singles.

I'm at the same loss. No one around to meet. Course, I go to work, come home and that's basically where I stay. I'm very much into my solitude so that limits my interactions tremendously.

~ listening for that knock at the door. LOL

 

[Jesla]

I am married but deal with loneliness ALL the time. My husband works late and we're rarely home at the same time.
My job as a nanny keeps me at work long hours with an infant who doesn't talk... not the greatest conversationalist
So I spend my days talking to myself and to God... and that is about it.
I have joined Bible studies, art groups, and I go to church. My church is huge though and its been hard for me to meet people there because its so overwhelming and I am quite shy. This weekend my husband and I are going to start going to Sunday School though, which will be smaller groups, and I'm hoping to start making friends through that.
I hear you though, and you are definitely not alone!

 

[JolieHeart]

A couple ideas for meeting people:

Volunteering at schools (PTO, fund raisers, classroom aide)
Joining the local police auxiliary and/or fire department auxiliary

GBU all

 

[loved33]

I Love The Camus Quote, Says It All. I Know Everyone Is Trying To Help The Lonely Lady By Giving Advice But I Think She Is Looking For A Friend And She Came Here To Have Fellowship- Certainly Not To Be Lectured On Her Divorced State. Honestly Sometimes I Find This Whole Being Helpful Thing That Christians Do So Painful Sometimes. I Know Its Very Well Meant And No-one Means Any Harm, But I Feel When People Reach Out Being Vulnerable From Their Heart , Dying For Love, Intimacy And Respect- Its A Smack In The Face To Be Preached At. She Can Go To Church For A Sermon. Just To Say To You Thanks For Being So Honest And Touching Me So With Your Vulnerability. In My Own Life Im Grateful That God Says In His Word That
In My Weakness His Strength Is Made Manifest. Im Glad God Finds Weakness Attractive And That Fits In With Him. Smile Girl!! In Gods Eyes You Got It Going On!!

 

[twightlight]

I know what you mean about being lonely. I am so use to having my X with me at night that I can no longer bare to stay up late anymore. So I am up with the birds. It works out well with my grandma though. I keep her company.

 

[swee]

How-HOW-do I get some kind of social interaction???

When you find out, let me know! I'm too flawed for the world, too flawed for my Christian family. I'm just trying to accept life is spelled W-O-R-K for me.

 

[HoosierCanuck]

When you find out, let me know! I'm too flawed for the world, too flawed for my Christian family. I'm just trying to accept life is spelled W-O-R-K for me.

I completely feel your pain.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

i'm married and lonely... don't know what to say