Lond distance courting

[cmm3]

Well, I just entered a long distance coutring opportunity. I am loving it so far and God is on our side. Can anyone provide me with ideas of how to treat this, and how to deal with this? Things are great now and I want them to continue. I pray many times a day for her, me, and us. I am just trying to do the right thing, but I am pretty lost in this whole thing.

Thanks!

 

[chocolateloverjen]

Well, I just entered a long distance coutring opportunity. I am loving it so far and God is on our side. Can anyone provide me with ideas of how to treat this, and how to deal with this? Things are great now and I want them to continue. I pray many times a day for her, me, and us. I am just trying to do the right thing, but I am pretty lost in this whole thing.

Thanks!

ive been in a long distant relationship for nearly 2 years (one month and a week to go). i find it great as i talk to him alot and i know he is genuine and hes honest with me. because we have to talk to keep the relationship weve found out alot more about each other than what we would have done if he lived near by.

tips: 1)pray on your own, pray on the phone, when your together PRAY. lol. it helps so much.
2)remember shes only a text or phone call away if you get upset.
3)get webcam and mike. fun to actually see your SO kinda like in real life (i know what i mean, i dont explain well).
4) do bible studys together, make one for her if shes stressed etc. I do that for my boyfriend and he loves it, shows i care and it makes him feel alot better.

hope that helped?

 

[none the wiser]

We've started sending little care packages back and forth. Just random little things, with a letter enclosed. He calls whenever he has minutes on his phone, and we talk for hours. But we always talk every day on MSN at least, with cams. His bandwidth is too low for the cam and mic. We have also started sending goodnight and goodmorning text messages once in awhile...and one morning he called me to wake me up. I really loved that.

I have been in a long distance relationship for 9 months in a week.

 

[chocolateloverjen]

We've started sending little care packages back and forth. Just random little things, with a letter enclosed. He calls whenever he has minutes on his phone, and we talk for hours. But we always talk every day on MSN at least, with cams. His bandwidth is too low for the cam and mic. We have also started sending goodnight and goodmorning text messages once in awhile...and one morning he called me to wake me up. I really loved that.

I have been in a long distance relationship for 9 months in a week.

wow thats ace.
i do that n so does he sometimes. like send random little things. i sent him a fish sticker for his car last. you know as the symbol for christian etc.

 

[none the wiser]

lol yea The last thing he sent me was a bag of craisins cause he knows how much I love em...he thinks it's pretty funny too.

Yknow sometimes I wonder if we should resurrect that old LDR thread. It'd be nice to have a little fellowship w/ ppl in similar situations. Swap stories and tips and whatnot.

 

[cmm3]

Thanks! These are great ideas. Does anyone have anymore?

Thanks a lot!

 

[SnarphBlat]

is it hard having a long distance relationship?

 

[none the wiser]

is it hard having a long distance relationship?

Some days are harder to be honest. Like we enjoy each other's company online and on the phone, but...after you've had that taste of actually being together it gets really hard. lol. Keeping busy is key I think...so you can't pine after the person all the time. Also planning a visit helps, so you have something to look forward to.

So worth it though if you find a really special person. My guy is worth holding onto.

 

[SnarphBlat]

Some days are harder to be honest. Like we enjoy each other's company online and on the phone, but...after you've had that taste of actually being together it gets really hard. lol. Keeping busy is key I think...so you can't pine after the person all the time. Also planning a visit helps, so you have something to look forward to.

So worth it though if you find a really special person. My guy is worth holding onto.

yeah thats really good thanks. Has anyone like courted somone while the guy/girl was away in collage?

 

[cmm3]

We are now.

 

[Molloyboy]

I have only been with my GF for a month now, we met at university. And day before yesterday she went home for the summer holidays! I am going home this Saturday. And it won't be back to normal for 3 months, and i will only see her when we visit each other.
So this is a strange experience for me, and i am going into it and not quite knowing what to expect - whether it will make us stronger/weaker etc! Its all so wierd and new lol! I know we'll be alright tho!
Any tips for the first time we're seperated for a long period?

 

[barefeetonholyground]

Well you're starting on the right foot by praying. The best I could tell you is talk and talk often. You don't get to see one another very often, take advantage of that. My husband and I met through cf about two years ago and started dating february of 2005. We were together for about a month before we met and the communication skills we developed over our total time apart (about six months) are going to last us our entire lives. I would also suggest doing a daily devotional and prayer together over the phone. It's amazing how much that stengthens your relationship. A strong connection with your Creator will bring the two of you together over and distance.

 

[chocolateloverjen]

Some days are harder to be honest. Like we enjoy each other's company online and on the phone, but...after you've had that taste of actually being together it gets really hard. lol. Keeping busy is key I think...so you can't pine after the person all the time. Also planning a visit helps, so you have something to look forward to.

So worth it though if you find a really special person. My guy is worth holding onto.

ditto, lol, well at least i think so--hehe joke.
we have few arguments but its only bout not having time to tlk or busy so cnt see each other. things like that. so hard sometimes. but my boyfriend keeps it all under calmness, if you understand. hes the one to like calm me down and stop me from getting upset, makes me look forwarsd to when i see him nx.

 

[Shazamataz]

I find my long distance relationship to be difficult and rewarding at the same time. Its incredibly hard being away from him all the time, and especially him not being here to hug me when I'm having a bad day. But the things we have learned as a result have been definitely worth it. The most important one being communication... we talk everyday, several times a day thru texting mostly and we also talk on the phone a few times a week. And when we talk on the phone, we talk for hours!! We talk about absolutely EVERYTHING there is nothing he doesn't know about me, and nothing I dont know about him. Its just so incredibly important to develop these strong communication skills... our fights dont last very long at all... because we talk about it and work it out straight away. The best thing to do is talk. Talk like there's no tomorrow. Talk like s/he's the last person on earth. It really will keep you going til you see each other again!! And dont forget to pray. Paul and I pray on the phone a lot now (we didn't use to) and it has made such a huge difference in our relationship!

 

[feesha]

Keeping busy is key I think...so you can't pine after the person all the time

after talking a YEAR online (ARGGHGHGH) without meeting or knowing what we're "really" like i now feel like talking online and on the phone drives me bananas.
i used to swoon and swoon over my SO just LONGING to speak, etc.. but i've dealt with that exactly in the way quoted above. now i fold laundry, i clean the kitchen, visit my parents. and i've become quiet the cleaner since being in this relaitonship, and that's quite odd since i'm naturally messy.
i do as much as i can and it has helped tremendously
i can't wait to meet my SO. i know that after we meet things will change . we'll hopefully see each other more and won't have to talk so much online! so that's a relief.