Living with inlaws, yes or no or???

[Tenorvoice]

To Quote John Pinnette.....

Nay-Nay

THis is a bad Idea and will only make thing harder for you and your Bo. Granted that you two are not married yet, but the Bible tells that you are to LEAVE and CLEAVE when you are married....not lets go live with one of our parrents until we can get on our feet. If you do this it will only prolong things and make the first year of your marriage (which they say is the hardest) only that much more difficult.

Plus two women can not usually last long in the same house w/ one another, when styles differ. (nothing against you Ladies)

 

[pepperfish]

I think it sounds like a great idea, to make sure you are totally financially stable before moving out. My SO will be moving in with my parents and me in a few years, as we are both going to be in college. After we graduate, we will continue to live here for a few years until we're sure we have enough money to move out and not immediately be struggling just to buy furniture and pay our mortgage.

So I definitely think your plan sounds like a good one!

 

[Paddington]

I saw the title of this thread and shuddered I love my boyfriend's parents but a week at their house makes me want *my* mummy

 

[Stolic]

Since you're so close with his family I think you could set up a time to discuss moving in. Both you and his parents could lay down ground rules. They don't have be to strict rules but to stay close it would definitely help to lay a foundation of perhaps quirks or concerns you may have when living with other people.

Laying the foundation of concerns can always lead to future discussions of issues that may come up too!

I agree with thatbutton. It would be a good idea to seriously discuss this before making a definite move - with God first, THEN his parents.

There are always going to be differences when you live with them as opposed to just visiting - you both get to see the parts of each other that you just will not see living separately - however many times you visit. In certain Asian cultures today that still happens and there are good and bad examples of it.

Pray on this one hard! It sounds like you have a mature head on your shoulders, so I reckon you'll do fine! God Bless you in your endeavours - both of you!

 

[Wandering Cat Lady]

Thanks Yeah it's definitely taken a lot of prayer. One way that we know God wants us there is that everything we've needed to make life more comfortable for us has been half price or discounted and everything is falling into place so quickly, we can hardly keep up with it. We've prayed for God to close the door if that's His will and so far no doors have been closed. I have sat down with his parents several times and discussed things. I practically live there now, I have all of my stuff except a few clothes there so that moving won't be so hard and when I'm done with work or on my days off I head straight over there. They've seen me at my best and at my worst and vice versa. BUT you are right, living with them will be different than even the extended visits. Thank you all for caring so much, I know ya'll mean the best.