living together

[ANN2626]

ok i have lived with my bf before but that was before i became a christian. recently i am at home with my rents and we are in a LRD. he is not from this area. i hate not being able to see him when i want. he wants to move intogether again in a couple months. i want to so bad. i love him and miss him but apart of me knows that i shouldnt. its so hard because where he wants to live is where i wanna go to school plus i have a few freidns there (but they are a couple and they live together) i just dont know what to do...well i do but i cant help but want to go. i love him with all my heart and i do want to be married to him so a part of me sees that its not that bad but i know it is and my rents will be disappointed in me again

 

[FatBurger]

There was a similar thread recently, but I can't seem to find it now.

You already believe you shouldn't, and know the reasons why, so I won't bother with that.
All I'm going to say is that waiting (for the right reasons, that is), is always worth it in the end. ALWAYS

 

[traingosorry]

There was a similar thread recently, but I can't seem to find it now.

You already believe you shouldn't, and know the reasons why, so I won't bother with that.
All I'm going to say is that waiting (for the right reasons, that is), is always worth it in the end. ALWAYS

I can't add anything to that and I couldn't have said it better.

 

[FatBurger]

one that has lots of opinions and info in it is called House MATES? I believe. I'll bump it if I find it.

That's the one I was thinking about, thanks

 

[ANN2626]

yes he is a Christian. he believes but he is the type of person who just sins and thinks he is forgiven which i try to tell him thats not what you are supposed to do. he also thinks that if we love eachother we should live togther. he wants to wait to be married until he is financially stable.

 

[MagicStar723]

All I'm going to say is that waiting (for the right reasons, that is), is always worth it in the end. ALWAYS

Couldn't agree with you more!

 

[charligirl]

You already know the answer to this, I'm not sure what you are looking for from us.

Walking out your faith is the hardest part of christianity - sometimes it is just plain painful and tough, that's why it's called dying to flesh, you have to nail it to the cross daily. But OH the blessing that comes with it is so amazing and bountiful, it is always worth it and you will never regret it.

Try reading Deut 28 for a list of the blessings that God promises to pour out on those who are obedient to Him and his word, you can have those blessings in your life The end of the chapter covers the curses that you can live under as well if you choose to live apart form God.

In years to come you will not look back and say 'I so regret not living with him', but you will be miserbale and regret your choice if you go against what you know is right in your heart.

 

[gracefaith]

he wants to wait to be married until he is financially stable.

Never allow anyone convince you to compromise your morals because they are just not "practical."

Maybe I'm pointing out the elephant in the living room, but are you sleeping with him? If not, why put yourself in the way of temptation? If you are, there is a MUCH bigger issue at hand than just where you live.

Your company, your body, your life are of great value! Why should you give them away for any less than his full commitment? Tell him your price is marriage and that he's not getting "advance" on any of it.

He needs to make himself worthy of you. You should not be expected to settle for less.

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

Never allow anyone convince you to compromise your morals because they are just not "practical."

AMEN!

 

[FatBurger]

Maybe I'm pointing out the elephant in the living room...

Never be afraid to do that. Too often people get caught up looking in the kitchen

 

[Glorianna]

It's a hard situation because your desires are so strong. But you know better. You should not live with him, even though you want to really badly.

 

[sculpturegirl]

AMEN! To the above post!!

I don't think that this sounds like a healthy relationship anyway. I would separate from him until he gets his act together and is ready to court you properly. What if he never is financially stable? Never let a man string you along.

 

[lunalinda]

Ugh, yeah right on, sculpturegirl...never let a man string you along. I agree.

That's one of the WORST things he can do. So yeah Ann...do make sure that he IS taking your feelings into equal consideration (if not more) than his own feelings, especially if the love is real.

Dunno what else I can say in the matter, other than to follow your gut, as some peeps have stated already. And don't let him use the "love" ploy, either. I mean, sure, it may be true that you love each other, but don't let love be the excuse to do something that you suspect will contradict your beliefs in what God wants of you.

 

[TJMan2050]

Amen Gracefaith those are some pretty powerful words, I didn't get the feeling that sleeping with him was going on, but it is possible, totally agree, their is a bigger problem. You also have to think about the fact that God should be number 1 in your life, and with that goes a big chunk of how you think and stuff, so if your not seeing on the same lines in terms of God related their could be trouble watch out for that, not saying that he is wrong for you, but differences in morals and such can have a big effect on long term relationships, my prayers go out to you, follow God and his will for your life, but in terms of living with him, like everybody else has said you've answered that for yourself, don't compromise your morals and relationship with God for someone else. God bless...

 

[AmposGirl]

if you truly KNOW that you want to be married to him, then whats stopping you? if you are married, Theres no reason to live together and If you are wanting to go to school in his town, You'd still be going on with your education. Just my opinion.