Lingerie

[Andry]

I was chasing a rabbit trail on a subforum and the topic lead to lingerie.

He thought husbands going to places like Victoria's Secret "to buy skimpy stuff" was sinful. He would never let his wife wear the stuff there, in fact, he would never buy lingerie for her. "Why can't she but it herself?" he retorted.

Ergo, I was sinning if I went to Victoria's Secret to buy my wife lingerie. And therefore a bad witness if another Christian saw me enter there.

Mind you, he was 16, and the original OP was gambling.

Nonetheless, I offered to start a post here in the married forums so he can have a peek if husbands actually buy lingerie for their wives, and what you (husbands and wives) thought about you DH buying lingerie, and at places like Victoria's Secret.

So, do you?

 

[tqpix]

I don't think buying lingerie is a sin. In fact, I'm thinking of buying the future Mrs. some lingerie.

 

[elm0]

I don't see why a man can't buy his wife lingerie.

I think some people have the impression that lingerie shops are like the stuff you see on movies, models walking around in the merchandise. Has anyone ever come across one like that? Maybe we're just different in Australia....

 

[Spoilt Victorian Child]

I think it's sort of pointless when dressing normally can feel almost overwhelming. That's me personally, though, and I don't think buying lingerie is a sin.

 

[seebs]

The sin is that, if I bought my spouse lingerie, it'd probably be poorly-chosen, which would be a kind of thoughtlessness.

Apart from that... I can't imagine what the concern is. I think you are dealing with a modern Pharisee.

 

[Addicted2~Jesus]

I jes bout fell out my chair on this one! Sinful? My goodness folks need to go an read thier bibles an find out what sin is an what sex is an what God intended sex to be. I don't care for lingerie mysef an could careless bout walkin in a place like that, what's the big deal... I mean it's no news story yes I do have sex wit my wife.... so what conculsion could another christian draw from me bein in a store like that?

On a side note, I subscribe to the ferengi's mottos... women shouldn't have clothin LOL I like my wife that way much better then some clumbsy piece of cloth in th way!

 

[seebs]

I wonder if the OP's correspondent would consider it "sinful" for a man to buy tampons or pads.

 

[Andry]

The sin is that, if I bought my spouse lingerie, it'd probably be poorly-chosen, which would be a kind of thoughtlessness.

That is funny.

I'm pretty lost there too, so I do rely on the saleswomen for guidance (and no, she doesn't 'model' for me).

 

[lin1235]

I buy it myself, because I have to feel comfortable in it before I'll wear it for my husband! I have no problem with him buying it if he likes though, and would DEFINITELY not consider it sinful!

 

[Gentileone]

Nope, dont think its sinfull at all, if it helps in the bedroom and the woman feels comfortable then its all good

Now lets look at this closer Did God say to a woman if you have lustly thoughts you have allready sined, nope i dont see that in the bible i do see God saying it to a man tho.

So what does that tell us you might ask.

Men are stimulated by sight, what they see and can be ready for coitus in seconds. ( that is offcourse one way im not saying its the only way at all )
Woman are not that way inclined and need more preparation for them to be ready for coitus

My thoughts and two cents worth

God Bless

 

[bliz]

I don't think buying lingerie is a sin. In fact, I'm thinking of buying the future Mrs. some lingerie.

For a future Mrs.? - inappropriate, in my book.

For a married man? Shop till you drop!

The challenge is fit. Even if a garment is the right size, women's sizes are pretty meaningless. Most women have clothing in their closets that cover 4 or 5 sizes. Also, different styles call for different sizes. So a surprise gift can be downright painfu, embarassing or insulting. Shopping together while he learns what will work can be a fun and helpful experience in the beginning.

 

[brokenbananas]

I like the shopping together thing. Haven't done this as both of us hate shopping. But, it sounds like it could be fun . . . so as long as our children aren't tagging along.

 

[lsrichey]

I would be happy if my husband bought me lingerie. I don't think it is a sin to do such. I will tell a funny story about my husband buying me undies. He knew the size I wore in dresses was a 16 so he figured the size for undies is the same. WRONG!! I opened up the package that the undies were 4 feet wide. I laughed so hard till I cried!!! He learned a sizing lesson that day. I was only two feet wide.

 

[redwing030]

I would be happy if my husband bought me lingerie. I don't think it is a sin to do such. I will tell a funny story about my husband buying me undies. He knew the size I wore in dresses was a 16 so he figured the size for undies is the same. WRONG!! I opened up the package that the undies were 4 feet wide. I laughed so hard till I cried!!! He learned a sizing lesson that day. I was only two feet wide.

I just had a mental image of you unfolding these giant underwear with your arms stretched as far as they'd go!

 

[Mirelys]

I love it when my husband buys me lingerie. It doesn't happen often, because he doesn't like much of it (plus most of it is covered in evil lace that I can't wear), but it is certainly a nice surprise when it happens.

Mind you, he was 16, and the original OP was gambling.

Dare I ask how you got from one to the other? LOL
It is sad though. It seems that many Christian youth ("youth" includes all people younger than me ) believe that more and more about sex is sinful. In fact I've even seen people mention that they believe a person is less of a Christian if they have sex, even with a spouse (bonus points if they buy lingerie, etc.). I think it's one of the more tragic consequences of our culture.

 

[suzybeezy]

Thankfully, my husband and I agree on this subject. What's the point in wasting money on lingerie, when it's just going to come off in five minutes anyway?

 

[gracefaith]

For a future Mrs.? - inappropriate, in my book.

For a married man? Shop till you drop!

Yeah, I had an engaged friend who's fiance bought her lingerie and they had a special 'not until the wedding' box they kept it in. I thought this was a little risque but I don't think it hurt them. They're happily married and he's studying to be a minister.

My hubby's wouldn't buy me lingerie, if for no other reason than he can't imagine going into the shop, can't stand looking at the catalogs and doesn't see the point anyway. (He's of the 'it's only going to wind up on the floor anyway' mentality.)

I buy stuff for myself but I have to check with him first, usually. He has an inexplicable aversion to black lace!

 

[Oblivious]

Hey, anytime the husband wants to go shopping and buy me something, I'm all for it!

 

[searle29678]

He's of the 'it's only going to wind up on the floor anyway' mentality

My husband and I have always felt the same way. He doesn't mind a cute little nightgown but anything too complicated just annoys him.
The only thing I see sinful about it is the fact that a pair of extremely tiny thongs can take me forever to put on.....for some reason I can't quite figure out which side is up. (or back, side, or front for that matter) Maybe it's TMI but you can call me Mrs. Granny Panties. LOL!

But seriously, on topic....it's just like any other pair of clothing you put on if you are married. As long as it respects the marriage and no one minds who is buying it, what does it matter?

 

[EmSchmem]

I wonder if the OP's correspondent would consider it "sinful" for a man to buy tampons or pads.

Oh that's great! LOL LOL LOL!!!