Cherub8 said:
When I share my beliefs with Arminian friends and family, they act as if I'm part of a cult, or that I'm some kind of heretic. But perhaps that is because I am not explaining my beliefs as well as I could. One of these is Limited Atonement. Would I be correct in defining limited atonement as:
Sufficient for All, but Intended for a Few.
I can't understand why Limited Atonement is so offensive to Arminians. One of my cousins believes in the other 4 points of TULIP, including Unconditional Election, but he rejects Limited Atonement and considers it 'cultish.'
Am I taking this from the wrong approach?
Well, I would first recommend that they too believe in a limited atonement.
Unless they are Universalists and believe all people go to Heaven, they must believe the atonement is limited in some manner. So the question becomes,
HOW is it limited?
The distinction you've provided (sufficient for all, efficient for believers) merely serves to distinguish us from Universalists (who would argue 'sufficient for all, efficient for all'). The answer to the question is found in the intended purpose of the death of Christ. Did He die to merely make salvation possible without knowing who would actually be saved, or did He die with the specific intent of saving those who believe? Note that this
does not yet touch on the Reformed view of election. Being an Arminian, I could hold the same view of the atonement as of election itself: that God foreknew who would believe and elected/died for them and them only.
Jesus is called 'Jesus' because He saves
His people from their sins. The Good Shephard lays down His life
for the sheep. Involved in Christ's sacrifice was expiation (taking away our sins) and propitiation (satisfaction before God). If Christ actually took upon Himself all sins of all men for all time, and became the propitiation for them satisfying God's just demands, then there is no judicial basis by which any man can be condemned. If it is done for all sins, it must too include the sin of unbelief, and thus even unbelief is not grounds for condemnation.
Whether your friends and family believe in the Reformed view of election or not, unless they are Universalists they do indeed believe in a limited atonement. And unless they believe Christ didn't actually save anyone on the cross, but only
potentially saved anyone (with the real possibility that nobody would believe and that His sacrifice would have been in vain), they must believe that Christ died only for those who believe (the elect),
regardless of how they understand that faith as coming about.
I'll leave you with some words on the issues from R.C. Sproul:
Our election is in Christ. We are saved by him, in him, and for him. The motive for our salvation is not merely the love God has for us. It is especially grounded in the love the Father has for the Son. God insists that his Son will see the travail of his soul and be satisfied. There never has been the slightest possibility that Christ could have died in vain. If man is truly dead in sin and in bondage to sin, a mere potential or conditional atonement not only may have ended in failure but most certainly would have ended in failure. Arminians have no sound reason to believe that Jesus did not die in vain. They are left with a Christ who tried to save everybody but actually saved nobody.
Sproul, R.C. (1986). Chosen by God. Wheaton, IL: Tyndale House Publishers.