I'm not sure what to make of this. But I've been going through a weird phase of life. I'm hoping it's just a passing phase. I'm 36 swm and I've found over the last while that life has become very boring. I'm not sure when it started, but life has gotten so dull. Maybe it's a mid life crisis, I don't know. I don't feel like i'm crisis at all. Just bored and mondaine. Last year I went and did a bunch of traveling to try and keep things exciting. And it helped a bit, but still a lot of the same old pattern are there. I'm so bored with everything in life. Not all the time but fairly often. I think life use to be more exciting years ago. I guess life is what you make it. What I'm trying to say is I feel like as I've matured that sense of wonder, innocence and amazement at life's little things has really been lost to some degree. I wonder how a person can get that back? I've made some new years resolutions this year. Which are to just life a good Christian life. So I've been cleaning up my act in as many ways as I can. But I just wish that I could get more motivated and enthused about life. There's some goals I haven't reached but I sometimes think they're unatainable simply because I've never reached them before, so I don't bother trying for certain goals anymore like I once did. Some goals I've reached already and so I've already experienced some of my ambitions. Like for example I got rid of my house and moved into an appartment because it just felt like the house was too much work and too expensive. So I'm back to an apartment but it feels like I did that because I don't care anymore. I feel like I'm just existing, so things like a house and stuff like that don't matter to me. That's just one example. Life shouldn't be like that where you fee like "just existing" is good enough. So I'm just not sure what to do at this point. Would be nice to try and figure this out and understand why I'm feeling like this often times and what to do in order to make life more exciting, fun, and worth living the way I once felt. Does anyone else feel like this sometimes? Do you have any suggestions? :o
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Life sometimes seems really boring......
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Hi Canadian33,
Yes, in the past I've often felt just the way that you describe. It's actually a blessing in disguise, I'll explain why.
It's only at that point that you realize that many of the things that people live their lives for are actually passing away and are of little or no worth, when viewed from God's perspective.
I've found that the answer to a completely better life is in God, after we first accept Jesus' with sincerity there is a
re-birth of our inner-person (our spirit) that occurs, and we may not even recognize the significance of what actually happened for a long time afterward, sometimes years.
But, whenever we begin to feed this inner-spirit with the food that it needs to prosper,
wide-sweeping changes will occur within our lives.
Here is how to proceed:
1. Repent -- This is important!
If there is any known sin in your life, make up your mind that you are ready to change in order to follow Jesus and have an un-hindered friendship with God. God will honor your decision and he will help you to get rid of the sin.
This doesn't mean that you will never sin again, but the closer you walk with the Lord the stronger you will become to resit any temptation.
2. Believe
Make sure that you have accepted Jesus as The Son of God, and accept the free gift of forgiveness that he paid for with a dear price by his death on the cross. Now, with a clear conscience toward God and man you can begin to fulfill the awesome plan that he has for your life!
3. Holy Spirit
Ask God to fill you with the power of his Holy Spirit, this is the same Holy Spirit that brought your personal spirit back to life and is already living within you (kind of wrapped up with your own spirit to the extent that it's sometimes difficult to discern between the two), but now we want him to fill us to overflowing, so that we can have the power we need to live for God to the fullest. You receive this in the same way as salvation, by asking and then believing (which is faith).
4. Feed your spirit
Begin to read the bible like your life depends on it (it does). This is literally the "food" that keeps your spirit alive, the word of God. All of the bible is profitable, but what you mainly need at this point is strong doses of the new testament which reveals grace and truth through Jesus and his "red-letter" words will supercharge your daily life if you begin to act on the things you learn.
Remember, the Holy Spirit of the living God now lives within you, he will help you to understand the bible like never before, and to grow in the likeness of Christ. As you do, you will begin to turn your focus off of yourself and toward the needs of others.
5. Live life to the fullest
This is what is really life-changing: when you begin to love and care about others more than yourself. You find purpose, fulfillment, true friendship, hope for the future, right fellowship with other believers, joy of eternal life,
and a MUCH closer walk with Christ, and the Father, and the Spirit.
You will soon find that it is actually Christ living through you, and not you yourself as you allow him to take more and more control of your life and assume the Lordship that he rightly deserves. He works with you, guiding your actions and giving you the right words to speak at the right time. It's actually his word alive in you, which is why bible study is so very important.
Definitely fellowship regularly with other believers in a church that teaches the bible, you will encourage each other.
Be focused, try to rid your life of as many un-necessary distractions as possible, so that you can "seek first the kingdom of God" and in doing so you will find that all the other things that you need, God will provide.
Pray (talk to God) at all times, quite literally "without ceasing". Discipline your thoughts so that you can eventually keep your mind focused on God and the things of God (like praying for others) throughout the course of every day. This REALLY helps you to care about others, by praying for them. And any temptation to sin will soon disappear by means of your mind being occupied by good thoughts.
Regarding goals, your primary goals should look like this:
love god
love others
be blessed by God (so you can be a blessing)
For the more specific goals pertaining to your individual life, ask God to guide you in the direction that he knows is best, that's where you will be the most blessed.
2 Corinthians 5:17 (ESV)
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
Please keep us posted on your progress and remember that we're here to help.
P.S. We must forgive others if we want to be forgiven. It is not optional.
Grace and peace!
Yes, in the past I've often felt just the way that you describe. It's actually a blessing in disguise, I'll explain why.
It's only at that point that you realize that many of the things that people live their lives for are actually passing away and are of little or no worth, when viewed from God's perspective.
I've found that the answer to a completely better life is in God, after we first accept Jesus' with sincerity there is a
re-birth of our inner-person (our spirit) that occurs, and we may not even recognize the significance of what actually happened for a long time afterward, sometimes years.
But, whenever we begin to feed this inner-spirit with the food that it needs to prosper,
wide-sweeping changes will occur within our lives.
Here is how to proceed:
1. Repent -- This is important!
If there is any known sin in your life, make up your mind that you are ready to change in order to follow Jesus and have an un-hindered friendship with God. God will honor your decision and he will help you to get rid of the sin.
This doesn't mean that you will never sin again, but the closer you walk with the Lord the stronger you will become to resit any temptation.
2. Believe
Make sure that you have accepted Jesus as The Son of God, and accept the free gift of forgiveness that he paid for with a dear price by his death on the cross. Now, with a clear conscience toward God and man you can begin to fulfill the awesome plan that he has for your life!
3. Holy Spirit
Ask God to fill you with the power of his Holy Spirit, this is the same Holy Spirit that brought your personal spirit back to life and is already living within you (kind of wrapped up with your own spirit to the extent that it's sometimes difficult to discern between the two), but now we want him to fill us to overflowing, so that we can have the power we need to live for God to the fullest. You receive this in the same way as salvation, by asking and then believing (which is faith).
4. Feed your spirit
Begin to read the bible like your life depends on it (it does). This is literally the "food" that keeps your spirit alive, the word of God. All of the bible is profitable, but what you mainly need at this point is strong doses of the new testament which reveals grace and truth through Jesus and his "red-letter" words will supercharge your daily life if you begin to act on the things you learn.
Remember, the Holy Spirit of the living God now lives within you, he will help you to understand the bible like never before, and to grow in the likeness of Christ. As you do, you will begin to turn your focus off of yourself and toward the needs of others.
5. Live life to the fullest
This is what is really life-changing: when you begin to love and care about others more than yourself. You find purpose, fulfillment, true friendship, hope for the future, right fellowship with other believers, joy of eternal life,
and a MUCH closer walk with Christ, and the Father, and the Spirit.
You will soon find that it is actually Christ living through you, and not you yourself as you allow him to take more and more control of your life and assume the Lordship that he rightly deserves. He works with you, guiding your actions and giving you the right words to speak at the right time. It's actually his word alive in you, which is why bible study is so very important.
Definitely fellowship regularly with other believers in a church that teaches the bible, you will encourage each other.
Be focused, try to rid your life of as many un-necessary distractions as possible, so that you can "seek first the kingdom of God" and in doing so you will find that all the other things that you need, God will provide.
Pray (talk to God) at all times, quite literally "without ceasing". Discipline your thoughts so that you can eventually keep your mind focused on God and the things of God (like praying for others) throughout the course of every day. This REALLY helps you to care about others, by praying for them. And any temptation to sin will soon disappear by means of your mind being occupied by good thoughts.
Regarding goals, your primary goals should look like this:
love god
love others
be blessed by God (so you can be a blessing)
For the more specific goals pertaining to your individual life, ask God to guide you in the direction that he knows is best, that's where you will be the most blessed.
2 Corinthians 5:17 (ESV)
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
Please keep us posted on your progress and remember that we're here to help.
P.S. We must forgive others if we want to be forgiven. It is not optional.
Grace and peace!
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Hi Taliee,
Welcome to the forum!
Those are good suggestions! It's so true, that when we help others, we are also helping ourselves, especially if it's done on the Lord's behalf.
God has really been helping me to understand that lately. It's very simple, yet often overlooked.
And also, to be thankful each day for all of the ways that we are blessed, instead of just dwelling on negative things.
It takes a certain amount of mental discipline to do this, but it's worth it.
Don't try to carry everything on your own shoulders, lay it down at Jesus' feet and trust him to help you.
Try to live one moment at a time, doing the best that you can with the Lord's help. And simply trust him to take care of the rest. And though he may not do things exactly how we want or when we want, he will prove himself faithful, always.
He is the good shepherd, he really cares about his sheep, lay down by his feet for a while, and be secure.
1 Peter 5:6-10 (ESV)
6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper
time he may exalt you, 7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour. 9 Resist him, firm in your faith, knowing that the same kinds of suffering are being experienced by your brotherhood throughout the world. 10 And after you have suffered a little while, the God of all grace, who has called you to his eternal glory in Christ, will himself restore, confirm, strengthen, and establish you.
Grace and Peace!
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Hi Canadian33,
I think there are very few of us who haven't felt this way at different points in our lives. We do get into patterns of how we live each day and this is what makes our lives feel so mundane. For me when I start feeling this way I have to remind myself of all the wonderful things there are in life for me to enjoy. These include my family, friends, hobbies and more. I know winter is a time when life feels the most hum-drum for me, because I feel closed in.
As for feeling like you have lost the wonder, innocence and amazement of life's little things as you have matured, this is no surprise. When we're young though we may face some hardships and heartaches our youthfulness helps us to bounce back pretty quick and the things we see through mature eyes, do not look the same in the eyes of the young.
In other words, the calamity and strife that we see in the world today doesn't have the same effect on us when we're young as it does when we are older. I think this is because as we mature we begin to understand how everything that happens in and around this world has an affect on us. When we're young we see the things happening around us, but don't see them ever affecting us
As we grow and mature, especially as a Christian, we often find that most of the material things in this life start to lost their glamor and glitz. We begin to understand there is much more to our lives than the things we possess and this is a new beginning for us. This is when we need to start looking for the deeper things in life to feel our lives, so that we can begin to live. Ways to do this can be seen in the above posts. Live for God, volunteer, share time with family & friends, walk in the park or by an ocean or river and just enjoy the beauty of God in His creation. These are but a few things that make our lives seem worthwhile
God bless my friend...
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