There have been times when I don't tell my boyfriend certain things because I don't want him to get angry at me. So, when you leave out (important) details regarding something is that lieing? Just wondering.
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Lieing to your S.O.
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Lizzi4Christ
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I don't know if I would call it lying. However, I don't think it should be done. If I found out that my SO was keeping important things hidden from me, it would hurt. It would hurt a lot.
Being completely honest shows your commitment and love to him. It says you're willing to be vulernable to him and I think that's important. You might get hurt. But I still think it's important. It shows if you can or can't work though everything.
Being completely honest shows your commitment and love to him. It says you're willing to be vulernable to him and I think that's important. You might get hurt. But I still think it's important. It shows if you can or can't work though everything.
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Well, I do think that it is a lie. What is your intent in not telling him the full story? It's because you want to cover things up! You want him to believe in something other than the total truth. That is a lie. I PRAY above all else that my woman be truthful to me in all ways. Even if that means admitting to herself and I that she is not as good as she believes she is. I can easily deal with a partner who can be truthful and work things out rather than a partner who cannot even tell me the truth and lives a lie. If you cannot be honest to him, I would really question your commitment to him and how serious you are about making your relationship be all that it can and should be...Belle said:
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Honestly, I don't think the issue at hand is whether it's a lie or not. One could argue ad infinitum as to the category of the action.
I do think there are two important things to consider here, however.
First, why are you afraid that he's going to get angry? What is it that you or him are doing wrong or hiding? There's nothing I'm afraid to tell my girlfriend, as I've got nothing to hide. My concern here is that either you, him or both have some serious work to do.
Second, the end result. The end result is the deception in your relationship. It will catch up to you, I promise you that. Ask yourself whether deception and it's ultimate discovery is beneficial or destructive to your relationship.
To me, these two issues are far more important than attempting to categorize your actions
I do think there are two important things to consider here, however.
First, why are you afraid that he's going to get angry? What is it that you or him are doing wrong or hiding? There's nothing I'm afraid to tell my girlfriend, as I've got nothing to hide. My concern here is that either you, him or both have some serious work to do.
Second, the end result. The end result is the deception in your relationship. It will catch up to you, I promise you that. Ask yourself whether deception and it's ultimate discovery is beneficial or destructive to your relationship.
To me, these two issues are far more important than attempting to categorize your actions
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JillLars
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I agree, feeling like you have to hide things from your boyfriend should be sending up some red flags, either red flags about something wrong with your relationship, or red flags about something wrong with what you're doing. A lie isn't just told by speaking an un-truth, a lie is also created when we omit details that alter the other person's perception of the truth. But like dr. feelgood said, that's not the issue, the issue is why you feel the need to deceive your boyfriend by ommitting details?
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That's not emotionally healthy. I understand what you mean, but you don't need that. Open communication is the absolute foundation of a relationship.
One way or another the problem needs to be resolved.
One way or another the problem needs to be resolved.
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Amen to Mr. Cheese, and to everyone here, it's lieing period, and it's definately not an emotionally healthy thing in a relationship, you need to tell your S.O. EVERYTHING cause if you can't tell them everything now, how much are you going to be hiding after you get married?
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