Letter Writting Help

[encouraging loves animals]

When writing a letter that telling someone off as gentle and kindly as possible.

Do you start with a Dear Someone,
You have some beautiful qualities, but I will tell you later in this letter.

Then explain the situation, and why your disappointed.
Then end the letter on a Positve note?

For example

To dear Joe

You have many beautiful qualities, but I will tell you later in this letter,

I don’t know if you realise you said, you would try and come down and see me quite a lot of times now? I don’t know whether you realise it, but it hurts me when you say you’ll try and come and see me and it never happens, it makes me feel like you don’t want to see me.

I was looking forward to seeing you these holidays. I am really disappointed that I never got to see you. I would have loved to see you, and my sister would have loved to have some children to play with too.

I’m not sure whether it had something to do with me being sick for a couple of days, but I was better by Monday.

In the future please don’t say I will try to come, if you know you won’t come. I do appreciate honesty and sincerity.

Due to my lack of experience on roads, my parents will not allow me to go and see you, they do not think I am ready to drive all the way to see you, and all the way back again.

I really do not want to hurt or offend you in anyway. But I really miss seeing you a lot.

I hope you know that I really do care about you and always will.

You have many beautiful qualities; your friendly and gentle personality, your kind-heart. You are polite and well mannered.

You are very special & precious lady and friend.


Lots of love and hugs.

Is this a good example and should you end on a positve note?

Or should you end on a negative note?

Why or why not?

How can i improve this letter?

Would a little gift as well be a good idea, so that the person i am writing to knows i do care even though I am disappointed in them?

Ps. I do not currently have a friend called Joe.I have only used it is as an example.

 

[oncewaslost]

i was never really good at writing letters and i still hesitate to write one, even if it's just to a friend to say hey. anyway, i don't know your circumstances so it's difficult to write a letter like the type you want. what you have is good though it's brief.

start off telling them how much you value their friendship. why you like having them as a friend and what they mean to you. then explain the reason why you're hurt they didn't come see you when they said they would/might. tell them that your travel is restricted. try not to sound too accusitory. hide it as much as possible the guilt trip works wonders.

for example (i will make things up):

joe,

i have this nasty habit of not letting my friends know how much i care about them. i should but for the strangest reason i almost never do. i don't know what i would've done if you weren't my friend. you were there when i needed you most. you listened to my complaints, shared my joys, and encourage me when i lose faith in myself.

what pains me most is when friendshps i value are ignored. i realize that you are busy and perhaps were unable to take the time to visit. after all, you said you might come but made no promises after that. i'm disappointed i haven't been able to see in you so long. i'd hoped to see you over the holidays and was sad you weren't able to make it. i wasn't feeling well for a few days and perhaps you thought to give me some time to recover but i was feeling better by monday.

i realize that friendship requires give and take (sometimes giving more than taking) but since i don't have the experience of traveling on the roads my parents won't let me drive all the way to see you. they worry about me which is what good parents do, right?

i really miss seeing you and hope that you are able to visit in the near future.

love and hugs

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ok... so my letter writing isn't up to snuff but hey! it's something. hope i was helpful in some way.

 

[TexasSky]

When writing a letter that telling someone off as gentle and kindly as possible.

Do you start with a Dear Someone,
You have some beautiful qualities, but I will tell you later in this letter.

Then explain the situation, and why your disappointed.
Then end the letter on a Positve note?

For example

To dear Joe

You have many beautiful qualities, but I will tell you later in this letter,

I don’t know if you realise you said, you would try and come down and see me quite a lot of times now? I don’t know whether you realise it, but it hurts me when you say you’ll try and come and see me and it never happens, it makes me feel like you don’t want to see me.

I was looking forward to seeing you these holidays. I am really disappointed that I never got to see you. I would have loved to see you, and my sister would have loved to have some children to play with too.

I’m not sure whether it had something to do with me being sick for a couple of days, but I was better by Monday.

In the future please don’t say I will try to come, if you know you won’t come. I do appreciate honesty and sincerity.

Due to my lack of experience on roads, my parents will not allow me to go and see you, they do not think I am ready to drive all the way to see you, and all the way back again.

I really do not want to hurt or offend you in anyway. But I really miss seeing you a lot.

I hope you know that I really do care about you and always will.

You have many beautiful qualities; your friendly and gentle personality, your kind-heart. You are polite and well mannered.

You are very special & precious lady and friend.


Lots of love and hugs.

Is this a good example and should you end on a positve note?

Or should you end on a negative note?

Why or why not?

How can i improve this letter?

Would a little gift as well be a good idea, so that the person i am writing to knows i do care even though I am disappointed in them?

Ps. I do not currently have a friend called Joe.I have only used it is as an example.

If you usually begin letters to "Joe" with "Dear Joe," then you should begin this letter that way as well.

Rather than speaking to Joe of how hurt you were that he failed to keep his promises, put a more positive spin on it, and take the "blame game" out of the note.

Human nature is such that an attempt to make someone feel guilty will result in the person avoiding you even more. While an attempt to ease their guilt will make them feel comfortable about contacting you.



"Dear Joe,

I am so sorry that we weren't able to get together, and I hope nothing bad kept you away, and I hope you are doing well. I was really looking forward to seeing you, and I miss you, but I know that things come up. If my parents would allow me to visit you, I would, but they are not comfortable with my making that drive.

I'm feeling better today, and hope that we can get together on the holidays. Your friendship means a lot to me, and I don't want to let it slip away because of logistic problems.

love and hugs -