Lets Involve Daddy!!

[GuitarMia05]

I need some ideas.

Recently my husband was reading a bunch of websites about my pregnancy (what's going on this week, the how to do's...you know, that stuff), while reading all those websites he started to get kind of down and sad and then said "why don't they ever have things for Dad's?"

It made me think, they really don't have a lot on there for Dad's. I want to make sure my husband is very involved in the pregnancy (which he already is) but what are some Ideas that you have that can help me show him that he is just as important in this pregnancy as I am (minus I'm actually carrying the little mister)

 

[Hadassah]

Hm, other than him reading along and helping you through each milestone, going to appointments and seeing ultrasounds and being there for the delivery, I sure can't think of much and we're on #2.

DH was involved in the last pregnancy and is really involved in this one too, but feels "left out" somehow because he spends more time with our little one at night when he gets home, and during mealtime. Honestly, other than him carrying our little one himself - there isn't much else he can do. He does so much already around the house!

 

[BarelyBreathing]

Some hospitals offer new daddy classes. You could call around and see if any in your area have that. If you all are not already going to child birthing classes (like Lamaze), you could look into those together.

Next sonogram, ask if they can print a pic, and then let daddy have it.

These days they also make things for men like daddy diaper bags. INclude him in picking out things for the baby. Ask him if there is something special he would like to buy the baby. Buy some of those bibs and onesies that say things like "daddy'sboy/girl".

You can also invite him to the baby showers. These days men come to all sorts of showers (even bridal!). You could even be real cutting edge and throw a man shower.

Hope some of this helps and congrats!

 

[GuitarMia05]

LOL, Adam (my hubby) went to my bridal shower... and all the women of my parents church though it was funny that a guy was there. I do appreciate all these ideas though, I did give him a pic of Jackson from our last sonogram (they gave us over 10...lol) and he carries it around in his wallet.

I talked to him about child birthing classes and the look he gave me was worth a 1000 words... you could tell he wanted to go, but he also look at me like are you kidding... it was too funny. But I do like some of these Ideas. I'll have to give them a try. Thanks

 

[Macx]

Bradley method of childbirth.

It really is an awesome way to approach the process both from a women's health and husband's perspective. With our daughter we went to our hospital's birthing classes & did everything hospital wise. She had our daughter naturally, though they messed up on the pain meds, so she only had pain relief when she didn't need it and didn't have any when she did . . . no epi. This time around, we are going all natural & we (my wife even more than me) are feeling confident that we can get through this birth with no pain meds, no IV's, none of that jazz. I am very involved in the exercises she is doing to prepare her body & it is good bonding time for us as a couple. The Bradley method definitely has me feeling more empowered and less passive than the other method. It feels good.


We are due 30 Oct, though I am expecting him sooner.

 

[Hadassah]

Hey Macx, I didn't know you guys were due so close to us.

We're going for natural if we can (again), though it's required to have an IV shunt just in case. (I was so glad I had it, as I was in labor a long time and needed the extra water. I wasn't able to eat or drink due to the hard work it was)

Depending on the size of our little one this go around, will depend on whether I can deliver naturally or will need a c-section. I'm hoping things go smoothly, but am investigating what to do if it doesn't, as I'm allergic to a lot, and many medicines affect me the opposite way... not to mention I want to continue nursing.

The only pain meds I had were after labor and man was I thankful for those... I needed it!

I was so glad for my DH and mom and MIL to be there last time too. That helped my confidence.

 

[Jilly123]

Aww, your hubby sounds so sweet. If I just talk about the birth my husband gets pale. He is very very squeamish and doesn't enjoy the whole pregnancy thing. He wants to pass out as soon as we walk through the hospital doors