Let's gush. Just because I need to share. And I want you to share. Then we can frolic

[DoesItPink]

<Background> Came from a not-good home with a not-good Mom. Starting dating not-good guys. Stopped dating these guys when I realized that I wasn't putting God first. In fact, stopped dating all together for about four years. About a year ago, a new couple from church comes up to me and asks if I want to be set up on a blind date. Sure. I'm ready. So, now, I've been dating this guy for a little over a year, </Background>

Three things:

I'm amazed on how he just wants to take care of me. He makes sure that I eat healthy (hm, you know how sometimes you get busy and forget to eat.). He makes sure I stay warm and offers me his coat. I'm just so used to doing things on my own.

He's a solid Christian guy who's known God all his life and is active in his church service. And this doesn't scare me. I'd always thought that dating someone who grew up a Christian wouldn't want to be with someone from a not-good upbringing. But it's really okay, and I thank God for that. He handles my family so well, with all they're drama.

We have the same sense of humor and keep eachother laughing. Sometimes, I'll start a joke and he'll finish it. Or he'll make a joke that I was about to make.

 

[Luther073082]

Sounds great hon.

Only one little concern. You said he "makes sure I eat healthy".

I'm curious as to how pushy he is with this. My fiancee is on a diet, and I praise her for doing well. But its a diet that she set up for herself and I'm not like making out her meal plans every day or asking her constantly what she's had.

If he's planning out a lot of specifics or very pushy about the healthy eating to me that sounds like controling behavior.

Would he flip out if you said you don't feel like eating healthy and you are going to eat what you want for a meal?

 

[Solo Man]

Everyone should eat healthy. America would be less fat...

 

[Luther073082]

Everyone should eat healthy. America would be less fat...

Everyone should eat whatever they want and accept the consequences as such without blaming others.

 

[cutekid 4 Jesus]

Healthy eating is good though, we all have free will so yes we can eat what we want but doesn't make it right..in the same way as smoking is bad and is not showing respect to our bodies the temple of God, consistently eating unhealthy can be similarly disrespectful too. I wish America..and Scotland would eat less too, both the environment and our bodies would benefit greatly!But we all have a greedy attitude, well many of us do,including me at times..okay derailed the thread enough..back to the romance...

Anyway I think he sounds really nice and I'm glad you've found a guy who loves the Lord and respects you, a genuine guy should not really be put off by your background anyway. If you've chosen a good path so different from the one in which you were rai sed that is to be applauded really. Your upbringing and background shouldn't be held against you. So it's great to hear there are some awesome non judgemental men of God out there!

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I think the point he was getting at was that it could be a warning sign of controlling behavior if this guy is telling her what to eat. When I read the OP though I got the impression he was just reminding her she needs to eat, not controlling her diet.

 

[Bampot]

I think the point he was getting at was that it could be a warning sign of controlling behavior if this guy is telling her what to eat. When I read the OP though I got the impression he was just reminding her she needs to eat, not controlling her diet.

That's what I got from it as well. Nothing wrong with reminding her when it's lunch if she often forgets.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

That's what I got from it as well. Nothing wrong with reminding her when it's lunch if she often forgets.

Right, but when I first skimmed the OP earlier yesterday I thought the same thing as Luther. Then when I read it the second time I realized it was not what I thought the first time. He probably just read the OP quickly like I did.

 

[ayeess]

awwwwww thats so cute... I'm so happy for you and you are truly blessed, I hope you two continue to grow in Christ together....

 

[Meesi]

He sounds like a really sweet guy and I think it's wonderful that you guys seem so happy!

And I wouldn't worry too much about the healthy-eating checking...to me it just sounded like he was worried if she wasn't eating enough, or eating good food enough (like a lot of fast food). I want to be a nurse, and because of that and my personality, I always worry about my boyfriend's health...if he's drinking enough water (we live in Florida and even though it's not quite July, it's already gotten up to over 100 degrees), if he's eating healthy, that kind of stuff. I don't do it to be controlling (and I have never told him what to eat or not to eat, I just try and help him take care of himself), I do it because that's how I am and because I love him...I treat my family the same way. =)