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Being amongst others who are compelled to "abhor that which is evil, and cleave to that which is good", means that a greater intensity of scrutiny is present also. And this scrutiny not only scrutinizes the usuals sins of humanity, but also the ways reproofs, rebukes, and admonitions are handed out.

If one finds this too intense, they can go out into the secular world, where most folks are more accepting in general, but who are also usually more indifferent to our spiritual needs.

And so each of us must choose, do we stick with the sticklers, (being somewhat of one our self), or do we roam with the wayward, who really could care less for all this "technical/instructional stuff".

I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators:
Yet not altogether with the fornicators of this world, or with the covetous, or extortioners, or with idolaters; for then must ye needs go out of the world.
But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.
For what have I to do to judge them also that are without? do not ye judge them that are within?
But them that are without God judges. Therefore put away from among yourselves that wicked person.
<-----> 1st Corinthians 5:9-13

And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient,
In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth;
And that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will.
<-----> 2nd Timothy 2:24-26

The spirit of judgment is much stronger within the church than it is outside it...because we are under a greater measure of being refined/prepared to face/meet our Maker.

But outside of the church, that intensity wanes, which can make it more comfortable to go on living with our sinfulness...but that's not in our own best interest in the long run.

For even as long is the opposite of short, what we would have in the short term, is contrary to what we would have in the long run.

It all comes down to where our priorities lie...easy now, hard later, or hard now and easy later.

May The Name of The Lord Be Blessed !

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If you have found some "good People" why leave them? There will always be dissent. But at least here in a virtual world you can just X em out :), scroll past em or ignore em. I would use it as practice, b/c you are likely to find the same thing if you set foot in traditional churches today and it is much harder to take face to face, when they use every weapon from you family to friends--to backstab and criticize you.

Jesus had the same thing & he was perfect..and besides EVERY NOW & THEN though I admit it is rare, some one like You makes someone like them sit up an re-think a position...(Miracles do happen) Stay with us...and grow!

I agree. There are both good people and bad everywhere, and you must learn who to listen to and who to ignore; to discern between those who are genuine and those who simply project a holier-than-thou attitude.

Handy mentioned the Pharisees... Clearly from Gods perspective they were not the most religious and upright. It was all a facade, and Jesus called them a brood of vipers. We don't look to the Pharisees as a model for our faith. We look to Jesus... He alone is our hope and salvation.

Certainly it's no revelation that there remain Pharisees loitering among the faithful followers of Christ. Often, the church is tangled up in legalistic definitions regarding sin and virtue, and it is very repugnant to non-believers as well as Christians who don't conform to their legalistic requirements.

In the event that we don't agree, please know that I love you and respect your desire to seek answers for your struggling faith. While I try to avoid defending that which is clearly sin, it's not my intention to come across as judgmental.

I wish you the best.

Jenni
 
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Come on , change your mind (you can you know, no problem)... don't leave just because there are people here that disagree with you. You're going to find that all over the world, it's part of life!

Use the "ignore" button.
I do...it's wonderful!

Single out those who really make you miserable here, and put them on ignore. (Oh, the rules say no one is to make another's time here miserable, so if someone's following you around and posting at your comments or at you purposely, report their posts!)

I don't know you... and I surely won't hate you no matter what your beliefs are...we will just...disagree if that's the case.

Sit. Stay!
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frankly I don't blame you for wanting to leave, but there is way too much good information here if you dig through all the crap first. If you just learn to ignore all of the 'geniuses' then you'll find some decent stuff.
That's true ..... "those who search the scriptures" are a good resource also for Biblical history, reference, wiki-type stuff. You don't have to like the librarians to appreciate the library.

Also, you can find people who are going through this and that, and learn vicariously.
 
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Come on , change your mind (you can you know, no problem)... don't leave just because there are people here that disagree with you. You're going to find that all over the world, it's part of life!

Use the "ignore" button.
I do...it's wonderful!

Single out those who really make you miserable here, and put them on ignore. (Oh, the rules say no one is to make another's time here miserable, so if someone's following you around and posting at your comments or at you purposely, report their posts!)

I don't know you... and I surely won't hate you no matter what your beliefs are...we will just...disagree if that's the case.

Sit. Stay!


I can ignore people on this forum? How do I do that? I didn't know about that...


I'm kinda rethinking my decision to leave now that I know I got an ignore button...
 
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Come on , change your mind (you can you know, no problem)... don't leave just because there are people here that disagree with you. You're going to find that all over the world, it's part of life!

Use the "ignore" button.
I do...it's wonderful!

Single out those who really make you miserable here, and put them on ignore. (Oh, the rules say no one is to make another's time here miserable, so if someone's following you around and posting at your comments or at you purposely, report their posts!)

I don't know you... and I surely won't hate you no matter what your beliefs are...we will just...disagree if that's the case.

Sit. Stay!
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Wonderfully said! :clap:

I've had to ignore people on here who seem to only want to argue and debate every single thing that is said.

But I won't leave. There is a lot of good that is done here beyond all the trash.
 
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We are a motley bunch of people.

There are good people here and there is good friendship, help, love and happiness here too. Find your purpose for being here and stay for that reason if you still have one.

It seems your quite fond of this forum, fond enough to make a post about leaving before you left and you returned to check it. I am sorry you were hurt. I hope you can find a way to contribute here without allowing people you disagree with to ruin it for you and others. One thing that you have to appreciate though is that we are all Christians and we all need each other and we all have bad days and we all get it wrong sometimes, even in the love department. You have to be willing to forgive and bear with those who make mistakes.
 
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We are a motley bunch of people.

There are good people here and there is good friendship, help, love and happiness here too. Find your purpose for being here and stay for that reason if you still have one.

It seems your quite fond of this forum, fond enough to make a post about leaving before you left and you returned to check it. I am sorry you were hurt. I hope you can find a way to contribute here without allowing people you disagree with to ruin it for you and others. One thing that you have to appreciate though is that we are all Christians and we all need each other and we all have bad days and we all get it wrong sometimes, even in the love department. You have to be willing to forgive and bear with those who make mistakes.

I actually am quite fond of this forum....even writing my original post I had tears in my eyes because I did not want to leave. I have been reading all the responses and am considering staying....besides...I now know I got an ignore button lol.
 
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Don't leave friend! Life is full of mean people sometimes. You must rise above and conquer what they think. God has given you that strength to overcome if you choose to use it!

Anyways I'd be sad if you left. This week alone two people I recently met on here left because of bullies. If you stay maybe they will see you and feel encouraged to come back! :)
 
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I can ignore people on this forum? How do I do that? I didn't know about that...


I'm kinda rethinking my decision to leave now that I know I got an ignore button...

Go to user CP at the top bar of the screen. On the left hand side, you'll see "Edit Ignore List". Type in who you want to ignore and their posts will be blocked unless you choose to view them.
 
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I really think someone should gently correct these bullies and let them know they are being mean.

Tough to do when they don't believe they are bullies. You can't really argue with people who claim their bullying is just following God's Word and pointing out sin.

It's a head in sand mentality. Ignore is the only solution.
 
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Handy,

I think you have crossed the line of saying another member of the forum isn't really a Christian.

Read the rules...

http://www.christianforums.com/rules/

Flaming and Harassment
&#9679; Do not state or imply that another member or group of members who have identified themselves as Christian are not Christian.
 
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I was just talking about this subject the other day.

When we're saved, we're babies. Over time, we grow. But I truly believe that most Christians stop growing in maturity at about teenager age. And I work with teenagers every day. I can tell you--they gossip, get their feelings hurt, express their feelings to the detriment of others, run people down with their mouth, punch people, insult people, talk behind people's backs and a lot of other things I can't quite believe.

However, when someone runs over a person and when they hurt someone intentionally, they are not mature. They need to grow up.

If you listen to them and get hurt, teenagers love to eat you up like a pack of wolves. They will jump on all your weaknesses and lack and tell you all about it.

I am sorry that the teenagers hurt you. But you need to take everything with a grain of salt unless it is from the Lord Himself. Then you need to take it in deeply.

Sadly, teenagers are ruthless.
 
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Welcome to life, NightFire. Everywhere you go you're gonna find good people and bad people. Doesn't matter if it's a business, a government agency, a school, a church or even within your own family.

Stay & learn more about God & yourself. You've got nothing to lose....
 
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