learning to grieve and say goodbye....

[goldenviolet]

i lost my dad. he commited suicide when i was young. i took pictures, poems, art, and anything that reminded me of him; and built a scrap book. it really helped me heal. i'd take it out and work on it when i felt sad... angry... confused... mournful. sometimes i just took it out to read it. every now and then, i take it out to remember. i recommend a scrap book as therapy to others. even if you don't have alot of pictures. poems, magazine pictures, a movie case sleeve, a flower... news paper clipping, letters of condolances etc. bless your hearts! xo dee

 

[NostalgicGranny]

That is a really good idea. Mothers Day I went through my mom's photo's.

I Probably should have started puutiing them in a scrap book.

 

[thriftyEvie]

I agree, though I have always journaled my thoughts since I was little, but after what I just went through and after losing my mom on May 1, 2009 and dad is gone also,I write more,I guess so my boys have something for then to read someday. Writing and scrapbooking is a form of healing.

 

[goldenviolet]

my turn to go through my memory book. i miss my dad.

 

[goldenviolet]

Philippians 4:4-9

4 Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! 5 Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. 9 Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.

practice practice practice practice practice practice practice practice

 

[jupiterinka]

I am sorry you lost your father in this way. I also lost my father due to suicide just a few years ago. I like your scrapbook idea. I made a photo album of pictures of my dad, but I don't look at it too often. As you know, it can be difficult.

 

[fairygailie]

i'm sorry for your loss. i know tons about grief. i've been involved with helping others for over 10 years. scrapbooks, etc. are great.

when my mom died i went through pics of her whole life and made two HUGE posters. at her wake, her friends smiled and some even laughed. it was a great way to honor her life and did me alot of good too.

i'm very close to my dogs, and when my schnauzer, willie, died, i did the same thing.. 11 years of pics. it was very healing to see what a good life he had.

my mom too, had many happy moments. she died new years eve 2007, and i was by her side.

PS:
suicide is tough. i have alot of knowledge in that area too.
my gf's daughter committed suicide 10 years ago.

 

[thriftyEvie]

my nephew was only 21 when he shot himself. and my both my parents are gone, so journalying & scrap booking really help me

 

[fairygailie]

that's awful. i go on another christian site and talk to people that age. alot talk about depression and suicide. it's sad.

writing helped me ALOT. a year after i lost the baby, i started to write poetry. out came poem after poem. i didn't know i still had all of that in me! for many years i shared my poetry with loss newsletters and got most of it published, praise the Lord. people have put my poems on about 38 websites (baby loss).

writing is VERY therapeutic.

 

[Rocklee]

We have several frames containing many photos of my late brother where friends could talk about and share some happy times. I also did a web site though it is much sadder.

 

[fairygailie]

this site is acting weird and REALLY annoying me.

anyways... i'm so sorry.