my girlfriend's moving to college in a couple weeks in wisconsin, we live in pa it's a 15 hr drive to see her, can LDRs work? and if anyones been in this situation? how do u make it work?
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LDR-work?
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peanutbutter12
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If you search throughout this forum, you will see that many people talk and have been or are involved in long distance relationships.
The short of it is, yes, it can work. Yes, it will be difficult. But if the two people are strong enough to hold on and get through the time away from each other, then it's off to a good start into a marriage because being away is one of the hardest things to do.
I'm from Pa and my now wife lived in California. Yes, it can work. Yes, it sucked being so far away. But we were strong enough in our relationship, we got through it, and are happily married.
The short of it is, yes, it can work. Yes, it will be difficult. But if the two people are strong enough to hold on and get through the time away from each other, then it's off to a good start into a marriage because being away is one of the hardest things to do.
I'm from Pa and my now wife lived in California. Yes, it can work. Yes, it sucked being so far away. But we were strong enough in our relationship, we got through it, and are happily married.
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Mrs. Luther073082
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Yes, they can work. My parents have had to do long distance at different times during their marriage due to moving and work issues. I have some friends who are in college and the military and they are making it work. They've been together for five years and are getting married this December.
It isn't easy but it can be done.
Tip: Get Cingular/AT&T. You can talk to other Cingular users for free with unlimited minutes. This is what my boyfriend and I use. Also, get webcams. It is good to be able to see each other when talking in IM's.
It isn't easy but it can be done.
Tip: Get Cingular/AT&T. You can talk to other Cingular users for free with unlimited minutes. This is what my boyfriend and I use. Also, get webcams. It is good to be able to see each other when talking in IM's.
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catofhope
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It can definately work.
My fiance and I live over 900 miles apart.
We met online and just recently got engaged.
It is important to have good communication skills.
We started out just talking on the board and via email.
Then we started having LONG phone conversations - 3 hours EARLY this morning.
You BOTH have to be committed to making it work.
It is hard at times especially leaving when you have been together in person.
I am SO GLAD my fiance decided to give a long distance relationship a chance.
My fiance and I live over 900 miles apart.
We met online and just recently got engaged.
It is important to have good communication skills.
We started out just talking on the board and via email.
Then we started having LONG phone conversations - 3 hours EARLY this morning.
You BOTH have to be committed to making it work.
It is hard at times especially leaving when you have been together in person.
I am SO GLAD my fiance decided to give a long distance relationship a chance.
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PassionateOne
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Yes, I have been doing LDR for the last 8 months. They can work, but they are alot of work. Our's works because, we are both content & secure within ourselves & God. We, both, lean on Him for extra support. We've NEVER played games & have always been very honest & upfront about whatever we were feeling, at that particular momment.
An extra 'note'.....we've never let a day go by, without making an effort to call, txt, or email. Even if, it's just a note to say that you're thinking of the other person.
Good luck!
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Yes, I have been doing LDR for the last 8 months. They can work, but they are alot of work. Our's works because, we are both content & secure within ourselves & God. We, both, lean on Him for extra support. We've NEVER played games & have always been very honest & upfront about whatever we were feeling, at that particular momment.
An extra 'note'.....we've never let a day go by, without making an effort to call, txt, or email. Even if, it's just a note to say that you're thinking of the other person.
Good luck!
hi hon 
For anyone needing words of encouragment....there are many things more important than miles. If you share those things distance doesn't matter.
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My bf and I will have been doing the long distance thing for a year and a half in October. Where I used to live, we were three hours apart, and now that I've moved we're 5 and a half hours apart.
Even though we aren't that far apart, especially when I was living at home, we still don't get to see each other that often. My parents hate him, simply because we met online. To them, all online people are rapists and murders and evil people, with the exception of the people who were in my father's online seminary class (yeah, I'm not quite sure how that one works...). So they formed an opinion of him before they even met him, and refuse to change it. So, because of that, we hardly got to see each other. And when I moved, even though that put us farther apart, we thought we would be able to see each other more often since my parents wouldn't get in the way. Well, that's not the case, because my work schedule and his school schedule just won't work out to allow visits. So I havn't seen him since March.
Anyway, point being, if you both really want it to work, you can make it work.
Even though we aren't that far apart, especially when I was living at home, we still don't get to see each other that often. My parents hate him, simply because we met online. To them, all online people are rapists and murders and evil people, with the exception of the people who were in my father's online seminary class (yeah, I'm not quite sure how that one works...). So they formed an opinion of him before they even met him, and refuse to change it. So, because of that, we hardly got to see each other. And when I moved, even though that put us farther apart, we thought we would be able to see each other more often since my parents wouldn't get in the way. Well, that's not the case, because my work schedule and his school schedule just won't work out to allow visits. So I havn't seen him since March.
Anyway, point being, if you both really want it to work, you can make it work.
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There have been sucesses, but like the others said it takes work.
I won't lie, there is a higher fail rate on it. Logic side, at the end someone has to pick up and move to totally new area. All their friends and family will most likely be a state or more away. Let alone the money to visit(s), communciations between(internet/phone), and other problems such as marriage before live together and such. Not including the hard time of talking about your relationship with friends and family. Most of the time we can be regarded as fools for doing such a feat, and have lack of encouragement.
Risk all of that, for the chance to meet someone God might have placed intentionally in your path. Make sure God is with you both before you get serious with a friend with of opposite sex. Without him, it won't happen.
I won't lie, there is a higher fail rate on it. Logic side, at the end someone has to pick up and move to totally new area. All their friends and family will most likely be a state or more away. Let alone the money to visit(s), communciations between(internet/phone), and other problems such as marriage before live together and such. Not including the hard time of talking about your relationship with friends and family. Most of the time we can be regarded as fools for doing such a feat, and have lack of encouragement.
Risk all of that, for the chance to meet someone God might have placed intentionally in your path. Make sure God is with you both before you get serious with a friend with of opposite sex. Without him, it won't happen.
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Mrs. Luther073082
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Since he and his girlfriend already know each other and live in the same place, I assume both their families live in PA. The issue is that his girlfriend is moving away to go to college.
I assume she'll be in school at least four years, which is a long time. So maybe he could move there if they did long distance for a while and it continued to work out between them.
I assume she'll be in school at least four years, which is a long time. So maybe he could move there if they did long distance for a while and it continued to work out between them.
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well, actually, she's going to a satellite campus of a bible college in PA that's in wisconsin , and it's either a 1 or 2 yr program. then she'll come back to pennsylvania, but still, im gonna miss her like crazy
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Yep, they can. Just be sure to maintain regular contact and don't grow apart. My gf and I were long distance for the last two months or so, and now we're short-distance, and everything worked out just fine. We texted each other all day though, to the point where we both got unlimited text plans so as not to run up gigantic phone bills, and we talked on the phone all the time during free minute periods. My latest cell phone bill read 290 peak minutes, and over 2,000 night/weekend minutes.
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