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Maybe my boyfriend is an exception to the "rule"! I would say that he is on time 90% of the time...sometimes he is even 5-10 minutes early when picking me up. If he is ever late, it's no more than by 10 minutes.
I believe I'm the "tardier" one in the relationship actually!
I believe I'm the "tardier" one in the relationship actually!
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The Julikenz
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I don't have this problem with my SO, and I'm very glad I don't, BECAUSE I CANNOT STAND PEOPLE WHO DO THAT! 
I have a really, really, really short fuse for it, I have let go of many friends because it bothered me so much, and the concessions I was making for it were being repeatedly abused. I have one really good friend who is always half an hour, to an hour and a half late. It's often when I'm cooking, and it upsets me that I spend 2 hours cooking just for the meal to go cold. However this particular friend has some anxiety issues, and I know they have trouble being on time because of that.
I don't mind making exceptions if it happens occasionally, everyone gets delayed sometimes, things pop up and have to be reshuffled etc. The problem is when the person is not understanding your frustration, repeatedly lying to you, and not making an effort to improve it.
I think you need to sit your man down and explain how it makes you feel when he does this. You also need to listen to how he responds, does he make excuses, or does he suggest making some changes? If he says he'll make more effort, ask him what he intends to do differently, and how he will manifest his understanding that his lateness hurts you. Maybe ask him how you can support him in making the changes, listen to what he has to say as well.
I have a really, really, really short fuse for it, I have let go of many friends because it bothered me so much, and the concessions I was making for it were being repeatedly abused. I have one really good friend who is always half an hour, to an hour and a half late. It's often when I'm cooking, and it upsets me that I spend 2 hours cooking just for the meal to go cold. However this particular friend has some anxiety issues, and I know they have trouble being on time because of that.
I don't mind making exceptions if it happens occasionally, everyone gets delayed sometimes, things pop up and have to be reshuffled etc. The problem is when the person is not understanding your frustration, repeatedly lying to you, and not making an effort to improve it.
I think you need to sit your man down and explain how it makes you feel when he does this. You also need to listen to how he responds, does he make excuses, or does he suggest making some changes? If he says he'll make more effort, ask him what he intends to do differently, and how he will manifest his understanding that his lateness hurts you. Maybe ask him how you can support him in making the changes, listen to what he has to say as well.
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ClausJohn
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I'm usually the one with the better timing in my relationships - i usually show up exactly on time, if circumstance allows (can't do anything about a traffic jam). And if i am late for more than 5-10 minutes, i call ahead.
Since i'm on time, i do have a slight problem with my partner's (or anyones) tardiness. But i wouldn't really argue about it much - such a really, really minor flaw i can easily forgive.
Since i'm on time, i do have a slight problem with my partner's (or anyones) tardiness. But i wouldn't really argue about it much - such a really, really minor flaw i can easily forgive.
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